Prayers For Job Loss
15 Powerful Prayers for Job Loss and Employment
Losing a job can leave you feeling vulnerable and worthless. These powerful prayers for job loss and employment will encourage you to keep trying and working towards achieving long term stability and security.
Lord, I trust in you as I look for new work. Lead me to the right job. I rest in your goodness and give you all I have. Help me as I seek to find, apply and interview for each position. You know the skills I have, and the things that I enjoy. Lord, I ask for more than a wage.
Lead me to a position where I can really feel valued, respected and part of a team. Please watch over me and my family in this waiting time. Help me to be confident in knowing your will. Open the right doors for me, please come and direct my path. I put my trust in you completely.
Lord, I am coming to you today with a very heavy heart filled with regret over the past and what has happened. In all honesty, I am anxious about the future. I am work, and my finances are in a lot of trouble. I have made many mistakes.
Help me to forgive myself, and others, so that I may make amends with all concerned in this matter, and in other matters as well. Grant me peace of mind, so I can fill my life with Your goodness and grace.
Guide me toward a good job where I may fulfill my needs as a better and wiser person. I ask these things in Your name. Amen.
You know my needs. You know my desire for a job, for work I enjoy doing, for the next step in my career to present itself. I pray that you would guide me as I continue on this job hunting journey.
May I focus first on your will for my life, putting your desires and your plan above my own wishes and wants.
Open doors to new opportunities that you desire for me, and equip me with the skills, knowledge, and wisdom I need to take steps forward in this process.As I craft my resume, write cover letters, submit my applications, connect with new companies and potential employers, and go on interviews, give me the words to speak and the courage to share who I am and what I can do.
Give me confidence that can only come from you, and give me humility too. I trust you, Lord– my life is in your hands. Your will be done. Thank you for being near to me every step of the way and thank you for always providing for my every need.
May this all be for your glory.
In your name,
God, we pray for all those who have suddenly lost employment. There are many. We ask you to first give them peace and a settled confidence. Their natural response is to shock and then fear, and to begin questioning their abilities, the past accomplishments and their future prospects.
Give them your encouragement today, and do so through surprising ways, both directly from your Spirit and through other people who come across their path. Build them up, as this situation has torn them down. Remind them of past victories, and awaken new dreams for their future.
Give them – today – divine appointments with people who may be key in opening a new future for them.
Give them hope; lighten their step; lift the anxiety from their body; give them sleep and an unexpected joy. God, you intend us to have a purposeful life.
You give us work assignments to accomplish because you designed us to help you create and sustain your creation. We are not made for idleness or sloth. We need meaningful work.
So for all those who have lost a job, today bring them one step closer to a new direction.
Let nothing stand in the way of your purposes in the lives of those who, without your assistance, cannot find their next course. We pray this in Jesus name, Amen.
Lord, I feel confused about life at the moment I’m not sure I’m in the right place Thank you that wherever I am You have gone before You turn the night into day Sadness in joy And mourning into dancing Help me to live in this place And through my serving Bring daylight, laughter and rejoicing
Precious Lord, I place my humble needs before You today. I ask that You help me meet my responsibilities in the world, and that I may fulfill what I am meant to do in this lifetime with Your guidance.
Please show me the way to the perfect opportunity to do what I love, to do what I can do well, and what will fulfill my needs mentally, spiritually, and financially.
Thank you for trusting in me Lord, as I trust in You.
Lord, I am coming to you today with a heavy heart filled with regret over the past, and anxiety for the future. I am not work but a major cut in pay, and my finances are in deep trouble.
I have made many mistakes. Help me to forgive myself, and others, so that I may make amends with all concerned. Grant me peace of mind, so I can fill my life with your goodness and grace. Guide me toward a good job where I may fulfill my needs as a better and wiser person.
Thank you Lord, for listening to me and helping me today. Life is not always easy, but I will strive to remember that You are always there to help me. As you are right in this moment. Amen
You have blessed me with so much in my life, and I am grateful. I have a wonderful family that I love and cherish. I thank you for Your love and devotion, but today I must lay a burden of mine at your feet. Father, You know about the promotion that I am looking to receive. Lord, it would be a huge blessing to receive it.
I am not putting my faith in money, but there are bills to be paid, mouths that need feeding, other expenses on my plate. If You will allow me this promotion, I will use it faithfully as You see fit.
I will be responsible with it and pay off existing debts. Father, I am giving this completely to You, and whatever Your decision is, I will thank You because You are loving, gracious and generous even in poverty.
Dear Heavenly Father, You instruct us to give thanks in everything (I Thessalonians 5:18), and as difficult as it is to do that during a time of job loss, please give me the grace to obey.
Please let me not become so focused on my circumstances that I neglect Your blessings. I pray that You would increase my faith and draw me closer to You than ever before during this season.
It’s in the name of my Savior, Jesus Christ, that I pray. Amen.
You are abounding in grace and mercy for Your children, myself included. Lord, work is getting very stressful because of the environment I am in. There are many people who hate You there, and they make my life miserable because they know that I love You.
We just don’t see eye to eye on many issues, but it is hard for me when it comes to how You are viewed in the eyes of others. I trust in James as it says, “Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds.” (James 1:2). I realize the benefit of being persecuted for believing in Jesus, and I gladly accept whatever comes my way, anytime.
Please soften the hearts of the people I work with. I will keep planting seeds, Lord. Thank you. Amen.
Almighty God our heavenly Father, you declare your glory and show forth your handiwork in the heavens and in the earth: Deliver us in our various occupations from the service of self alone, that we may do the work you give us to do in truth and beauty and for the common good; for the sake of him who came among us as one who serves, your Son Jesus Christ our Lord, who lives and reigns with you and the Holy Spirit, one God, for ever and ever.
Lord, I know the pain and confusion my close friend is going through right now. Losing a job isn’t easy and they are probably feeling a failure right now. Please show them that they are anything but. Help remind them of the amazing qualities you blessed them with when you created them.
They are strong, beautiful and can get through this pain. With your arm stretched around them, please provide comfort and stability during this difficult time. I pray that you help them battle the overwhelming stress that has come with this loss. I know with your help they can do anything.
Losing a job can be hard on the entire family, from spouse to children and even the dog, if money is tight and even the smallest costs cause stress. Please let my friend’s family be lifted up during this difficult time.
I pray that they have the strength to remain calm and hopeful even as things seem to be falling apart. I pray their children are fed and clothed, and please give my friend the courage to let me know if these basic necessities are not being met so I can provide help.
I pray that the children are not affected by this loss and it resolves itself so quickly that they never knew anything tragic happened. I pray that their spouse is supportive and caring during this time and that their marriage grows stronger because of it, and not farther apart.I give my heart to this family and ask for You to give them the love and peace they need at this time.
In Jesus’ Name I Pray,
God, our Father, I turn to you seeking your divine help and guidance as I look for suitable employment. I need your wisdom to guide my footsteps along the right path, and to lead me to find the proper things to say and do in this quest.
I wish to use the gifts and talents you have given me, but I need the opportunity to do so with gainful employment. Do not abandon me, dear Father, in this search, but rather grant me this favor I seek so that I may return to you with praise and thanksgiving for your gracious assistance.
Grant this through Christ, our Lord. Amen.
Heavenly Father, I do not know how to provide help to my friend during this difficult time. I am offering an ear to listen and keeping my eyes out for new job prospects but I feel that none of this is enough.
I don’t have the extra money to provide them with the help they need to get through this time. So, God, I turn to You and ask for Your help. Please bless this family with good prospects and help me keep my eyes open for blessing and opportunities.
I cannot help my friend out right now, but with Your hand guiding me I hope to offer them more than they could ever ask for. Give this family the miracle they deserve right now. Shine your light down on them during this difficult time.
Please give my friend the strength to turn to you and ask for help as well, so that he is also filled with hope.
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7 Prayers for Employment or Work
In the United States today, so many people are unemployed. Some are fearful of being laid off. Others wonder about promotions. Many are looking for better jobs. There are a number of issues facing our country today regarding employment. Here are 7 prayers that you can pray about specific needs in the workplace.
Prayer for Work
Most Merciful Father,
I’m at my wits end, Lord. I feel I have tried every avenue to find work and yet I have not gotten a single phone call about my applications that I have sent out. Lord, I want to provide for my family.
I want to make a steady income that can pay my rent/mortgage and provide meals for my spouse and children. Lord, you know what is best for me and I lay these burdens at your throne now.
You are good all of the time, Father, and I am placing my trust in you this day. I love you Lord! Amen
Jobs at Risk
You already know before I speak what I am going to say. Nothing I say is a surprise to You and yet You yearn for my voice daily. I love You, God, because You love me as Your own child. I bring you a huge burden today, Lord. My company is downsizing because they are losing money. O gracious Lord, my department was told about potential lay-offs. I plead with You now, Father.
Please keep my position safe. I am scared for my future, Lord. I pray for Your peace that truly passes all understanding. Give me an ease of mind as I continue to work at my job. Lord, if I am laid off, it is because You have allowed it and I pray that You would have another open door ready for me to walk through. You are King, Father, and I trust in Your will this day.
You have blessed me with so much, Father. I have a wonderful family and church family. I thank you for Your love and I must lay a burden at Your feet. Father, You know about the promotion that I may get. Lord, it would be a huge blessing to receive it. I am not putting my faith in money, Lord. My faith is in You only.
If You allow me this promotion, I will use it faithfully as You see fit. I will be responsible with it and pay off existing debts and I will continue to tithe at church. Father, I am giving this completely to You and whatever Your decision is, I will thank You because You are loving, gracious and generous even in poverty.
I love You, Abba Father. Amen
“While there are many problems facing us all at our jobs, we have one ultimate solution and that is to trust fully in God.”
I praise You because You love me in spite of all of my failures and weaknesses. You wash me in Your Word and clean my soul up more with each passage I read. Father, I bring You a burden this day. I feel I am stuck in a dead end job with no possibility of promotion. I am barely floating above water right now.
You have blessed me with other talents that I could potentially use in other career fields. Father, if You are willing, I pray for You to open a door to a different career for me. I would love to use the talents You have given me to provide for my family. Where You lead, I will follow.
I praise Your name, Lord! Amen
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Blessed be Your name always. You have set my feet on a solid rock, Jesus Christ. I thank You, Jesus, for Your bravery and love that saved me from my sins on the cross. I will praise You forever! Lord, I feel a doormat at work.
I have tried to promote ideas to better the work environment while cutting down on costs. Management usually pacifies me with words they will not follow through on. They say, “we will consider it” but I know they forget about me as soon as they walk away.Father, You have provided me this job and I am grateful for it. I pray that you will soften the hearts of the leadership there. I don’t even care if they reject every idea of mine, Father. I just want to them to actually care and consider my suggestions.
I just want to be seen as a person and not an object to make them money. I love You, Lord and I will follow You wherever You lead. I love You! Amen
Struggles with Co-workers
You are abounding in grace and mercy for Your children. I am so thankful that You call me Your child. Lord, work is getting stressful because of the environment I am in. Father, there are many people who hate You there and they make my life miserable because they know that I love You.
I trust in James as it says, “Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds.” (James 1:2) I realize the benefit of being persecuted for believing in Jesus and I gladly accept whatever comes my way. Lord, I pray that You would soften the hearts of my co-workers. I will keep planting seeds, Lord.
I pray that they will let you water them. I love you, Father. Amen
Oh Merciful Father,
My company has lost a great man to a tragic accident and his life was taken from him. Father, many people at work really loved this man and everyone is lost right now. Father, I pray for strength while I am grieving.
Lord, use me to show Your love to all of those hurting at my job. I want to be the light that shines in the darkness, Father. I really need Your strength though. Carry me, Lord, as I help carry others through this difficult time.
You are my strength when I am weak, Lord. I love You, Father. Amen
While there are many problems facing us all at our jobs, we have one ultimate solution and that is to trust fully in God. God knows what is best for us in all circumstances. I pray that you will trust in God fully with your employment burdens, wants and needs as you continue to live a life worthy of the calling. God bless you all.
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Depression After a Job Loss: Statistics and How to Cope
For many people, losing a job not only means the loss of income and benefits, but also the loss of one's identity.
A recession can exacerbate unemployment as more and more people experience downward mobility and income volatility. Job loss for people in the United States — a country where many people's work and self-worth are interchangeable — can be an extremely traumatic experience, often leading many to despair and depression.
The longer one experiences unemployment in the United States, the more ly they are to report symptoms of psychological unease, according to a recent Gallup poll.
The poll also found that one in five Americans without a job for a year or more report that they have been or are currently undergoing treatment for depression.
This is roughly double the rate of depression among those who have been without a job for fewer than five weeks.
According to research reported in the Journal of Vocational Behavior, unemployed people are twice as ly as employed people to suffer from psychological problems (34 percent to 16 percent).
Blue-collar workers are more distressed by unemployment than those who've lost a white-collar job.
Additionally, middle-aged men and women, especially those who are unemployed, experience the highest levels of psychological distress.
In some cases, the psychological distress of joblessness leads to suicide.
According to a 2012 report by the Samaritans suicide prevention group, the suicide rate for middle-aged men is higher than that of any other demographic group.Risk of suicide also increases among those of lower socioeconomic status, according to the Samaritans report. The suicide rate among men of lower socioeconomic status was reported to be 10 times higher than that of affluent men.
The increasing mechanization of production and shift toward a service-oriented economy has put many working-class men, who have traditionally held specialized jobs in manufacturing, work. Men who are without work sometimes view themselves as expendable and often describe the loss of a job using terms such as “catastrophic” and “devastating.”
Coping with Job Loss
It's perfectly normal for a person to grieve the loss of a job. It's important to remember, however, that a career is not an identity.
Separating one's self-worth from one's job is especially important in the United States, where employment volatility has been on the rise for more than three decades.
The stages of grief in the wake of a job loss are much the same as the model of key emotional reactions to the experience of the dying developed by Dr. Elizabeth Kubler-Ross in her book On Death and Dying. They include the stages of shock and denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and finally, acceptance and moving on.
It's particularly important for the recently unemployed to realize they are far from alone and to reach out for support from friends and family, a counselor or therapist, or a support group.
A Special Note About Stay-At-Home Dads
In the wake of a job loss, many men today find themselves in the position of being a stay-at-home dad while their wife becomes the “breadwinner” for the family. This reversal of traditional roles can be particularly difficult for some men.
A big part problem is social isolation. The best solution may be to connect with others. Joshua Coleman, co-chairman of the Council on Contemporary Families in Oakland, California, recommends joining, or starting, a stay-at-home dad (SAHD) support group. The National At-Home Dad Network can help you find SAHD groups near you.
Symptoms of Depression After a Job Loss
People who've recently lost a job are at special risk for developing major depressive disorder (MDD), a serious condition that requires treatment. According to the National Institutes of Health, each year about 6.7 percent of U.S. adults experience MDD, with the average age of onset being 32. Women are 70 percent more ly than men to go through depression.
It is difficult for those with MDD to imagine a positive way to overcome their employment woes. Symptoms of MDD include:
- feelings of worthlessness, self-hate, or guilt
- feelings of helplessness or hopelessness
- fatigue or chronic lack of energy
- difficulty concentrating
- loss of interest in once-pleasurable activities such as a hobby or sex
- insomnia or hypersomnia (excessive sleeping)
- social isolation
- changes in appetite and corresponding weight gain or loss
- suicidal thoughts or behaviors
In the most severe cases, people may experience psychotic symptoms such as delusions and hallucinations.
If you think someone is at immediate risk of self-harm or hurting another person:
- Call 911 or your local emergency number.
- Stay with the person until help arrives.
- Remove any guns, knives, medications, or other things that may cause harm.
- Listen, but don’t judge, argue, threaten, or yell.
If you think someone is considering suicide, get help from a crisis or suicide prevention hotline. Try the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-8255.
Sources: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline and Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration
Diagnosis and Treatment for MDD
A doctor or other licensed mental healthcare provider will ask you about your symptoms and medical history. Questionnaires are usually used to help determine the severity of the depression.
Treatments for MDD typically include antidepressant medications such as selective serotonin re-uptake inhibitors (SSRIs), cognitive behavioral therapy, or both.
More serious cases of depression may be successfully treated using electroconvulsive therapy (ECT). If psychosis is involved, anti-psychotic medications are typically prescribed.Even if psychosis is not present, sometimes your provider may prescribe antipsychotic drugs to make antidepressants work better.
There are also several no-cost or low-cost ways to help cope with depression. Some ideas include:
- establishing a daily routine to help you feel in control of your life
- setting reasonable goals to help motivate you
- writing in a journal to express your feelings constructively
- joining support groups to share your feelings and gain insight from others struggling with depression
- staying active to reduce stress and stay healthy
Anyone who experiences thoughts of suicide or harming others should immediately contact 911, go to a hospital emergency room, or call the Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255), 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
9 ways to cope with job loss Islamically
The news has been dire lately, with millions jobs lost in the United States every year. If we aren't among the newly unemployed, then we most certainly know at least one person who is.
There is excellent advice available about how to handle job loss financially, psychologically and emotionally. However, coping at this stage also requires a spiritual perspective that is not as easily accessible. Here are a couple of ideas on how to handle it Islamically.
1. Remember Who is the Real Provider of Everything You Have
It's easy to get caught up in the fear of ?how will I provide for my family??. While there are programs and unemployment benefits that can help you through the first months after a job loss, a broader view helps.
Reminding ourselves that one of God's 99 Names is The Provider (Ar-Razzaq) will give us the comfort and confidence we need to remember that He is the One Who provides for us in all circumstances.
Even when we were employed, it was by His Mercy and generosity that we had a job in the first place.
It would also be helpful when making Dua, to use this name of Allah (Ar-Razzaq) when calling on Him to help financially at this difficult time.
2. Revive the Practice of Daily Dua
In busier times, squeezing Dua into our day may have been difficult. Now, with more time available, it's critical to not only keep up our daily prayers, but to make? long, deep Duas for Allah's forgiveness, mercy and help.
Pour your heart out to Him, express your fears, worries, hopes and desires in a way you never have, knowing that He can and will answer? your prayers.
Sustained, concentrated Dua gives us a critical coping mechanism that helps deal with a major life stress job loss.
3. Meet Once a Week After Juma with Other Unemployed Muslims
A number of newly unemployed Americans across the country have started or joined informal job loss groups that offer support and networking opportunities. Start something similar in your neighborhood or among your friends.
After Juma prayers is a good time because those who attend are gathering as it is and you could easily step into a neighboring library, coffee shop or park to just check in with each other, offer spiritual advice and make a collective Dua for one another.
4. Encourage Your Masjid or Islamic Center to Start Its Own Unemployment Support Group
This would be a more formalized version of idea #3 above. It could include weekly spiritual pep talks by the Imam about the need to be steadfast in difficult times and trust in Allah, for example.
It could also offer counseling to Muslims struggling with the emotional and psychological aftermath of job loss.
Each meeting can end with a collective Dua by the group leader or Imam to help members and everyone who is suffering financially or otherwise during this difficult time.
5. Give Small, Steady Sadaqa
It's tempting to think that the only donations that matter are the large ones we can easily make when we've got a steady job and a large bank balance. But consider this: it's the small donations by hundreds of millions of nonbillionaire Americans that fuel most of? this country's nonprofits. In 2006, individuals accounted for about three-quarters of donations.
This is in line with the Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him's saying: “the most beloved deed to Allah is the most regular and constant even though it were little” (Bukhari).
It could be just a dollar a week, but do give it away in charity.
If you and your family have cut an expensive habit to save money, consider giving a small percentage of that to the mosque charity box for the hungry next week.
6. Don't Neglect Non-Monetary Charity
Giving charity has an interesting psychological effect: a sense of empowerment and upliftment. Most of us feel great giving but embarrassed asking from others, even in need. But don't think that being charitable is limited to dollars and cents.
? The Prophet, in response to a question about how to fulfill the Islamic obligation of giving charity daily, answered: “The doors of goodness are many…
enjoining good, forbidding evil, removing harm from the road, listening to the deaf, leading the blind, guiding one to the object of his need, hurrying with the strength of one's legs to one in sorrow who is asking for help, and supporting the feeble with the strength of one's arms–all of these are charity prescribed for you.” He also said: “Your smile for your brother is charity.”
Volunteering of all kinds to help those in need, even as you are in need, will not only help fight depression, but it will help you regain a sense of empowerment.
7. Reconnect with Your Family
With more time on your hands, use the hours and minutes you are not looking for another job to reconnect with your parents, spouse and children in a way you could not when you were employed.
Call your parents everyday, thanking Allah for the blessing of their presence in your life; drop off and pick up your kids from school and strike up interesting conversations with them about the meaning of life; take on bedtime story duty; start praying the five daily prayers together as a family; go out with your spouse to a free activity; plan a one-day getaway to a free, local attraction with the whole family. It is especially important to reconnect in difficult times. Otherwise, the stress can lead to a negative family atmosphere that kills love and mercy between spouses, parents and children.
8. Be the Birds
The Prophet said “If only you relied on Allah a true reliance, He would provide sustenance for you just as He does the birds: They fly out in the morning empty and return in the afternoon with full stomachs” (At-Tirmidhi).
Trust in Allah, and keep relying on Him through Dua and good deeds. Even with bad news upon bad news about the economy, remember His Mercy and His ability to provide for you from means you could never have imagined (Quran 65:3).
9. Make Dua for Others Coping with Job Loss
The Prophet said: “The Dua of a Muslim for his brother in his absence is readily accepted. An angel is appointed to his side. Whenever he makes a beneficial Dua for his brother the appointed angel says, 'Ameen. And may you also be blessed with the same'” (Muslim).
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The Five Stages of Grief After Losing a Job
It was a Saturday, my plane landed, and I was all set to relax during a short weekend getaway, when an email came through on my phone. I’d lost my job. I showed it to my boyfriend in the seat next to me.
“These things happen,” I said, smiling and putting my phone away. “It’s probably for the best. Let’s enjoy our trip.” I praised myself for being strong and accepting the situation.
In reality, I was in complete denial that I just lost a job I loved.
It seems cliche, but when dealing with a tragedy or a crisis, most of us experience some version of the five traditional stages of grief. We’re all different, so we all experience them differently.
Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, the psychiatrist who identified these stages, said they’re not necessarily experienced linearly, and some people might not experience them at all. They’re just broad, common stages people go through when grieving.
And that isn’t limited to death and divorce—it can apply to losing your job too.
Recognizing those stages can help you cope. When I lost my job, understanding my thought process helped me deal with my emotions and manage myself professionally.
When You’re in Denial, Take Time to Reflect
When I was in denial, I refused to believe anything bad had happened. When my mom asked if I was okay, I laughed it off. “Why wouldn’t I be okay?” I said. “This is probably a blessing in disguise. It probably happened so I could land a bigger, better, higher-paying job.” It seemed helpful to tell myself that, but in doing so, I was also refusing to accept the loss.
For others, denial might be insisting that an employer will reconsider, or that the loss is only temporary. There’s a great Frasier episode that addresses this very topic.
When Frasier is in denial over losing his job, he convinces himself it’s actually a blessing, because now he finally has time to write an operetta, of all things.
A paper from the American Chemical Society explains the purpose of denial:Denial functions as a buffer, initially protecting you from strong emotions, such as anger, and allowing you to continue functioning. If you anticipated your termination, you may feel relief at no longer having to work under stressful conditions.
Sure, losing your job may give you more time for hobbies. Your employer might very well reconsider, and something better probably will come along, eventually. But that’s not the point. The point is: when you’re in this stage, you’re emotionally rejecting the loss to protect yourself. Denial may be necessary, but it can become a problem.
For example, if you’re in denial, you might not even bother looking for a new job, because you’re rejecting the issue altogether. Or maybe you’re in financial denial, and you continue to spend money on fancy meals and luxuries even though your income has ceased.
As psychologist Dr. Melanie Greenberg points out, self-evaluation is important during this time. You want to be honest about your feelings and the cause of your job loss. Over at Psychology Today, she suggests:
Awareness is the first step to change. Be willing to face the problem, but don’t dwell on it 24 hours a day. This will just make you feel worse. Think about it enough to understand what you feel and the best way to respond, then focus on something more positive.
Research suggests that avoiding thinking about or dealing with problems actually creates more stressors, a phenomenon known as “stress generation(link is external).
” For example, if you don’t open the envelopes with your bills, you will end up getting calls from collection agencies.
Financially, you also want to make the right money moves after a job loss: build an emergency budget, call your creditors, look for assistance, and so on.
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Read more ReadIt’s tempting to clam up when you’re in this stage, too. I avoided friends because I didn’t want to hear them tell me it was going to be okay. I told myself I didn’t want to burden them with my problems, but in reality, I didn’t want to face the truth and reflect on it. You’re protecting yourself, after all, and admitting the truth to others can make you feel vulnerable.
But as we’ve said before, it’s important to put yourself out there when you’re unemployed. That might mean attending networking events, asking colleagues for job recommendations, or just volunteering.
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Minimize Stress When You’re Angry
Once reality sinks in, it’s natural to feel angry about losing your job. You might be mad at your employer, your former coworkers, the economy, or yourself. Hell, you might be mad at anyone and everyone around you. Career site The Ladders says this is the time to look for support:
Surround yourself with family and friends who understand your challenge. Perhaps seek professional counseling or guidance from your minister. There are also many community job search support groups available. Seek them out and participate. As your outward anger subsides, you start to move into the next stage.
Of course, you want to make sure this support is productive. If your venting turns into dwelling, this can backfire.
Writing about your feelings can be helpful, too. I kept a journal during my job loss, and it helped relieve stress and also pinpoint my anger so I could avoid taking it out on everyone around me.
Financial strain can make things worse, so avoid any rash money decisions that might stress you out later. For example, you probably don’t want to borrow from a retirement account or ignore your creditors during unemployment, and you definitely want to avoid debt traps. These all have consequences that can add to your stress and fuel your anger.
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Keep Guilt at Bay in the Bargaining Stage
At one point during the bargaining stage, I actually convinced myself that if I dressed better, the universe would throw me a bone. “I don’t dress the part,” I told myself. “How can I expect to get a great job if I wear jeans and a t-shirt all the time?” I figured if I focused on my outward appearance, my career problem would heal itself.
In that Frasier episode, he does the same thing. He convinces himself that if he were more supportive of his fans, his career problem would heal itself. “I’ve been a bad celebrity,” he concludes.
Of course, his fans had nothing to do with him losing his job, just as my dress code had nothing to do with my client’s budget cuts (I worked from home, for crying out loud).
This was just bargaining in action.There’s nothing wrong with self-improvement, but ironically, it can get in the way when it’s misdirected. Maybe I do need to dress nicer, but the time spent focusing on my wardrobe would have been better used looking for a job or going to a networking event.
any of these stages, it’s important to experience bargaining so you can move past it. However, when you’re in this stage, you’re often really hard on yourself, and that can do a number to your self-esteem. You make yourself feel unnecessarily guilty. To keep your confidence intact, CareerPlanner.com recommends an exercise. Think about every job you’ve had, then ask yourself three questions:
- What did I accomplish / achieve / get done? What am I proud of?
- What did I learn about myself or what new skills did I learn?
- Who did I help and how?
Once you have a few things on your list, pick out the ones you’re most proud of, then write about it. Tell a story about it, even if it’s just a paragraph.
This serves a valuable purpose: it keeps guilt at bay, because it’s focused on your accomplishments . Those accomplishments are also grounded in reality.
If the job loss was amicable, you might also consider asking for letters of recommendation from your former boss or coworker. This is helpful to have on hand, professionally, but it can also boost to your confidence and nix any feelings of guilt.
This isn’t to say you’re perfect and you have no room for improvement, but in this stage, you’re trying to bargain your way reality, so that improvement is often misguided. More importantly, it can make you feel guilty, so that’s something to keep in mind.
Focus on Self-Care When You’re Depressed
Depression is common after a job loss, and it’s a natural transition from the bargaining stage. As we’ve mentioned, it helps to understand you have a right to feel depressed:
“Validate your right to feel miserable,” Dr. Robert L. Leahy, author of The Worry Cure, advised on NPR. “You’re a human being. You have a right to feel unhappy.” Once you’ve given your emotions space to exist, you can start to see the big picture more clearly, enabling you to act in ways that will help you and your career.
Validating was hard for me, because I just wanted to get over the whole thing. Instead of dealing with my depression, I’d tell myself I was over it (more denial). Eventually, I’d go right back to being depressed. It’s important to experience this stage, but it also thoroughly sucks. A few things helped me get through it.
For starters, a daily routine was useful because it gave me direction and purpose. It also forced me to put my nose to the grindstone and look for work.Part of my routine also included a few hobbies I didn’t have time for when I was working 50 hours a week, so that was a nice reprieve.
I didn’t convince myself losing my job was a good thing so I could take on these hobbies (which would be denial), but I still tried to enjoy them so I could get my mind off of feeling a failure all the time.
Speaking of that feeling of failure, a lot of people kick their exercise up a notch during this stage, too. Exercising can trigger happiness and reduce stress, and it can also make you feel accomplished and productive, which is important when you’re feeling the pitfalls of unemployment.
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Volunteering can also help give you a sense of purpose. It can be useful for networking, too. At the same time, you also want to make sure your sense of purpose isn’t tied to work. As Forbes explains:
People who interpret losing their job as a sign of personal inadequacy or failure are less ly to ‘get back on the horse’ in their job hunt than those who interpret it as an unfortunate circumstance that provided a valuable opportunity to grow in self-awareness, re-evaluate priorities and build resilience. You define who you are, not your job or a company’s decision whether or not to employ you.
It’s hard not to take things personally when you’re upset about losing your job, but in order to keep your self-esteem intact, try to think about the situation as objectively as possible.
Finally, of course, there’s acceptance. You understand what happened, you’ve experienced it, and you’re functioning through it. One thing to keep in mind with acceptance: make sure you’re not forcing it. Sure, some people move straight to the acceptance stage after losing a job, but as Careerealism points out, sometimes that’s just denial:
The best way to know if you are truly over your job loss and in the stage of acceptance is if you can talk about the experience with:
- Objectivity: You can state the facts without adding emotional commentary.
- Accountability: You can take ownership of your role in what lead to your job loss.
Trust me when I say hiring managers (and everyone else you talk to about your job search) can tell if you aren’t at the acceptance stage of job loss grief.
Again, you don’t want to rush through any of these stages. In order to accept your job loss, it’s important to experience whatever emotions arise. You can, however, manage them and make sure they don’t get the best of you during the process.
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