Prayer Of A Husband Hurt Through Divorce

Bible Verses About Divorce: 22 Helpful Scriptures

Prayer Of A Husband Hurt Through Divorce

I always found it interesting that one of the first things God was concerned about after creation was that we were not in life alone.  In Genesis 2:18, God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone.  I will make him a helper suitable for him.

”  So in addition to creating the heavens and the earth and all the animals and finally man; God created marriage for the man and the woman.  This early picture in the garden shows how much God loves and cares for us.  Unfortunately, the fall of man was right around the corner in Genesis 3.  Things would never be the same.

  One area where we can clearly see the effects of sin is in the marriage relationship.  Divorce is very common today even to people that go to church and are believing Christians.

  The topic of divorce has many passages that we can look to for answers about when divorce is allowed, what happens when a spouse dies, and even what did Jesus have to say about divorce while he was here on this earth.  If you are reading this article you have probably been affected by divorce either by your own personal divorce or by the divorce of someone close to you.  Consider these verses…

Bible Quotes Containing Word Divorce

Deuteronomy 22:19 and they shall fine him a hundred shekels of silver and give them to the father of the young woman, because he has brought a bad name upon a virgin of Israel. And she shall be his wife. He may not divorce her all his days.

Deuteronomy 22:29 then the man who lay with her shall give to the father of the young woman fifty shekels of silver, and she shall be his wife, because he has violated her. He may not divorce her all his days.

Jeremiah 3:1 “If a man divorces his wife and she goes from him and becomes another man’s wife, will he return to her?

Malachi 2:16 “For the man who does not love his wife but divorces her, says the LORD, the God of Israel, covers his garment with violence, says the LORD of hosts. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and do not be faithless.”

Matthew 1:19 And her husband Joseph, being a just man and unwilling to put her to shame, resolved to divorce her quietly.

Mark 10:2 And Pharisees came up and in order to test him asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?”

1Corinthians 7:11 (but if she does, she should remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband), and the husband should not divorce his wife.

Matthew 5:31 It was also said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’

Scriptures Talking About A “Certificate (or Decree) of Divorce”

Deuteronomy 24:1-3 “When a man takes a wife and marries her, if then she finds no favor in his eyes because he has found some indecency in her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her his house, and she departs his house, 2 and if she goes and becomes another man’s wife, 3 and the latter man hates her and writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her his house, or if the latter man dies, who took her to be his wife,

Isaiah. 50:1 Thus says the LORD: “Where is your mother’s certificate of divorce, with which I sent her away?  Or which of my creditors is it to whom I have sold you? Behold, for your iniquities you were sold, and for your transgressions your mother was sent away.

Jeremiah 3:8 She saw that for all the adulteries of that faithless one, Israel, I had sent her away with a decree of divorce. Yet her treacherous sister Judah did not fear, but she too went and played the whore.

Matthew 5:31  It was also said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’

Matthew 19:7 They said to him, “Why then did Moses command one to give a certificate of divorce and to send her away?”

Mark 10:4 They said, “Moses allowed a man to write a certificate of divorce and to send her away.”

Jesus Explains Why Divorce is Allowed

Matthew 19:8 He said to them, “Because of your hardness of heart Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so.

Matthew 19:9 And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.”

Verses Where The Woman is Not To Divorce Because Their Spouse is an Unbeliever

1Corinthians 7:12 To the rest I say (I, not the Lord) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her.

1Corinthians 7:13 If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him.

Bible Verses Where A Wife is Freed From Marriage Because of Death

Romans 7:2 For a married woman is bound by law to her husband while he lives, but if her husband dies she is released from the law of marriage.

1Corinthians 7:39 A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord.

Jesus Talks About When Divorce is Adultery (The same thought repeated by 3 of the Gospel Writers)

Matthew 5:32 But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.

Mark 10:11 And he said to them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her, 12 and if she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.”

Luke 16:18 “Everyone who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery, and he who marries a woman divorced from her husband commits adultery.

The topic of divorce will always be a hotly debated subject.  It is sad that such a large percentage of marriages will end in divorce.

  Jesus clearly allows for divorce under certain conditions but it is always important to recognize that divorce was never the intention or the will of God for His people.  Maybe you are reading today and considering a divorce; if this is the case I would encourage to seek wise counsel.

  A great place to find great Biblical advice is from the pastor from a local church that teaches the Bible accurately.  Most pastors would love to listen to you and try to help you.  Maybe there will be a hope of reconciliation for you and your marriage.

  Divorce affects both spouses, any kids that may be involved, and even both families that are involved.  My prayer for you this day is for healing for your marriage as you seek the will of God for your life.

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Is drug abuse grounds for a Christian divorce?

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I decided to follow my heart, experience, and understanding concerning this very difficult topic. There are many scriptures that support a wide variety of answers to this question, but as Christians, I suggest we must consider each scenario separately and spend much time in prayer to best evaluate the divorce question.

The short answer is: it depends.

God’s Intention for Marriage

Since God first instituted marriage in the Garden of Eden over six thousand years ago, I have to believe it is His intention that husband and wife live together until death.

  Since God created marriage to be enjoyed by husband and wife, and it is His intention marriage be forever, this provides a sound basis to make every reasonable effort to achieve restoration and forgiveness in marriage before taking steps to dissolve a marriage through divorce.

  However, the Bible does say that Moses allowed two reasons acceptable as conditions of divorce.

1. Sexual immorality (adultery)


2. Abandonment (physically leaving)

Adultery Defiles and Corrupts

Jesus taught that adultery defiles and corrupts the one flesh union (Matthew 19). It becomes very difficult to ever trust a spouse once the deception and corruption of the marriage has occurred.

Physical, Mental, Sexual Abuse

I believe God never intended physical, mental, or sexual abuse inside the marriage relationship. I’m sure He is saddened by the sin nature of all man, and His preference is that no man or woman mistreat another. However, to think that God intended a spouse to endure such abuse is not understanding the love of God. God’s judgment will be harsh on any of those who mistreat others.

Drug Abuse Can Defile and Corrupt

Drug abuse and physical and mental abuse in many cases appear to have very similar consequence as adultery.

Many times the family and marriage is in such chaotic disarray from these abuses that restoration is impossible (Having said that, I have seen some marriages restored after adultery, drug abuse, and physical and mental abuse. So it is possible to restore the marriage, but not often).

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Hardness of Heart

Jesus told the Pharisees the reason Moses agreed to divorce for his people was because of hardness of heart. Marriage is a union of two becoming one and should take on the ness of Christ and the Church.

If one partner is abusive toward the other, or to the children, steps must be taken for the protection of all involved.

Certainly, the abusive partner is not fulfilling their purpose of reflecting the image of Christ.

Free Will and God’s Will

God give us ‘free will’ and many people exercise their will against God’s directions and desires for their life. If a person chooses to leave and follow their addiction or mistreat their spouse and family, how can one be expected to expose themselves and family to the chaos that addiction and/or abuse brings.

Jesus Prohibited Divorce, but…

Jesus addressed the issue of divorce with the Pharisees in that he said he prohibits divorce for the many trivial reasons (other than sexual immorality) that were used so frequently in the first century, leading to widespread injustice, especially for women whose husbands suddenly divorced them and married another. Divorced women had to fend for themselves, which made it very hard for them to survive.

Sometimes you just have to move on

Being married to a wife who was previously married to a raging alcoholic, I have to say, “There is life after divorce.” My wife has served the Lord faithfully for many years and was able to rediscover the accepting love of Christ and move on with her life outside the chaos of her first husband’s addiction and abuse.

She stayed trapped in an abusive marriage thinking God would judge her forever. She exposed her daughter and self to physical and mental abuse for years because of a well intended person from her church who told her she must endure the abuse, because it was God’s will that she stay married.

Now, 28 years later, the abuse seems a faint memory from a long ago past.

One last thought

I have counseled thousands of children and wives who have stayed in abusive addictive relationships. Many are still struggling from the devastation caused by abusive fathers and husband. Anxiety and fear have ruled their lives and only after many sessions have they been healed from the abuse of the past.

I conclude that drug abuse may be sufficient grounds for a Christian Divorce.

What do you think? I would love your feedback and opinions.

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How To Stop Divorce With Prayers

Prayer Of A Husband Hurt Through Divorce

I’mregularly asked if it’s possible to stop divorce with prayers and my answer hasalways been an emphatic yes. A fewcritical factors combined to get me to this state. That’s what I intend to showyou here.

Ihave seen cases of the divorced come back together again and several other ‘almost-divorced’cases turned around, just by targeted prayers. You can demonstrate and stopdivorce with prayers on your own or through prayer partnership. The best way tostart is to deal with the root cause of all divorces. That is, using targetedprayers to get rid of that spirit of divorce.

Ifyou read that last sentence well, you’ll see I mentioned spirit of divorce. Divorce is a manifestation of a wicked spiritthat initiates and promotes disaffection and division in marriages.

I’m sure you know there are several paths that leadto divorce in marriage. They could be anything from money, careers,friends/families, children, infidelity and many others that come under the broadname of irreconcilable differences. Each of these ‘divorce workers’ representthe activity of one evil spirit or the other. For every physical manifestation,there is a spiritual source.

Thesespirits controls the physical manifestation. But it is written, “when the enemy shall come in a flood, the Spirit of the LORD shall lift up a standard against him” (Isaiah 59:19). This means that it’s Spirit that can handlespirit. This is where prayer comes to play…and win.

How To EngageThe Power Of Targeted Prayer Over Divorce.

Tostop divorce with prayers, you must be the right prayers, or targeted prayers. An example of targeted prayer is in James5:15. It is called the prayer offaith; the only qualified prayer that would save and raise the sick.

Generally,there are two broad principal emotions, which are indeed spirit agents ofdivorce (though they may seem to you physical events or happenings). Thesespirits may have been invited, sent or passed on into any of the couple. Theirtask is to initiate and execute divorce.

1.    Utterdissatisfaction, disappointment and disaffection for the spouse. Sometimes theissues responsible for these feelings are known but, most times, they’reaccumulated and vague, nevertheless very strong emotions.

2.    Deepromantic interest in some other person. This could be a real person, onlinecontact or fantasy being.

Tostop divorce with prayers, identify the foul spirits within these two groupsand pray them out. Narrow it down to specifics by its name, e.g. spirit of sexaddiction, spirit of pornography or spirit of anger. Search for the word of Godconcerning it in the Bible, that word is your authority and prayer point.

Everystubborn problem tending to separate you and your spouse has a name. Call thespirit by that name and fire the prayer shots directly. Do it consistently,regularly and confidently until what you want happens.

Yousee, these foul spirits don’t want to be known, they prefer to operateanonymously or as impostors.  Once youidentify them correctly and command by God’s word, they vamoose.

Prayeris a spiritual weapon, divorce is a spiritual issue. This means that prayerwill always have its way in the spirit. Understand this and you would alwayssucceed to stop divorce with prayers. And if the battle in the spiritual iswon, the physical signs will soon fade off. 

Time To Stop Divorce With Prayers In Your Marriage.

Prayer 1

(Isaiah 8:10;  Numbers23:23;  Job 22:28)

I command everyassembly, conspiracy and counsel, designed to break my marriage, to fail andcome to nothing.

Every word, enchantment, sorcery and divination against mymarriage is hereby defeated and cannot stand. My marriage with Mr….

shallsurvive every challenge of separation, and then thrive, and flourishexceedingly. The word and the power of God are in my favor because I pray inJesus Name.

Prayer 2

(1Corinthians 7:11Matthew 19:6)

Lord,touch my husband to be reconciled to me, halt the spirit and process of   divorce and separation, and frustrate hismoves to marry the strange woman. Use everything and everybody to humble himand teach him to preserve our marriage. This prayer is in Jesus Name.

Get over 70 power prayerpoints to win every battle against your marriage here.

Some people think that divorce can defy prayers. Others want to learn to demonstrate the power and share the testimony.Which side do you belong? Or, are you in none of the sides? What are your thoughts?

We would be blessed to share your challenges, insights and experiences.

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Biblical Grounds for Divorce

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At the young age of 21, I was a divorced mother of three small children.

Two years later I married my husband, Mykal, who had also been divorced. After we had been married for three years and I was pregnant with my fifth child, a “well meaning Christian” told my husband that we were committing adultery and that we both needed to go back to our first spouses.

Sounds crazy, right?

Well, I thought so anyway. I mean, who was she to say I should have never left my ex-husband? Really, did she know any of the circumstances?

My first marriage was very, very difficult. I generally don’t talk about it much because I do have children from that marriage. However, there were a lot of reasons I called my mom that day and asked her if I could come home.

Making that call was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. I had a lot of pride and admitting that things were bad, that I needed help, that I had made a huge mistake was hard.

I believe with all of my heart that God gave me the courage to leave a really bad situation.

I was a broken, broken young woman desperate to be loved, cared for, and cherished. I can’t describe the depth of pain and despair I found myself in at that time in my life.

So, today I want to look at what I know is a sensitive subject and could be controversial. Is divorce ever okay? 

The reality is that divorce is painful for all those involved. Divorce has long term consequences and ramifications. God hates divorce {Malachi 2:16} and with good reason – it was never in His plan that people would hurt and manipulate each other.

Ideally, divorce would never happen. Husbands and wives would always work together, always respect each other, and never hurt or harm their spouse.

Unfortunately, we live in a sin sick world and there are men and women who are in marriages where vows are broken on a consistent if not daily basis.

When a couple gets married, they make a covenant with another person and vow before God to love, honor, and cherish – for better or worse.

Vow – n. a solemn promise, pledge, or personal commitment

Within those vows there is an assumption that each person will be treated with respect and treated with kindness and grace. What happens when a husband begins to assault his wife with punches or lashes out verbally calling her names and belittling her on a regular basis? Has he broken those vows to love and cherish? Absolutely.

{Women can be just as guilty as men, but for the purposes of this article I’ll be discussing this from a wife’s standpoint.}

  • What if a man spends every night sitting in a dark room in front of his computer looking at pornography and never looks twice at his wife or has a kind word to say to her?
  • What if a husband is extremely controlling and blows up every time his wife “disobeys” or simply makes a mistake?
  • What if a husband is so controlling that he won’t let her lock the bathroom door, check the mail, have any money, or drive the car?
  • What if a husband calls his wife names, belittles her in front of the children, yells at her for no reason, and emotionally abuses her for years?
  • What if a husband treats his wife with disdain during the day and expects her to be his sex kitten at night?
  • What if a husband never pays the bills or never pays them on time leaving his wife and children without electricity or water on a regular basis? What if he neglects to take care of his family?
  • What if he pins her down until she screams or whispers hateful words in her ear over and over again until she feels dying?
  • What if a husband has an emotional affair at the office but never takes the woman to bed?  What if he does take her to bed?

Does God expect a wife to endure until the end no matter how much it hurts? 

I’ve had almost all of those things happen to me. I can’t say I was a perfect wife. I was young and emotionally unprepared for marriage. But when I finally made the decision to leave I knew that if I didn’t leave I would never be whole. I thought about suicide a lot.

For a “well meaning Christian” to judge any woman and say she should stay in a miserable marriage without considering her personal circumstances is unfair.

I can’t imagine how different my life would have been had I stayed.

I remarried a man who was broken, who needed healing, but who loves the Lord and loves his family with all of his heart. I married a good man who loves me. God has richly blessed my life after my divorce. I am so thankful my three children from my first marriage have a step-father who loves them and who takes care of them and who teaches them about God.

Is adultery the only Biblical reason for divorce?

You would hear most Christians adamantly agree that adultery is the only grounds for divorce sanctioned by God and that any other reason for divorce is sinful. But is that what the Bible actually says?

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Does God not care for the woman beaten with fists every night? Does God not care for the woman who listens to hate spewing her way everyday? Does He care more about sex and the sexual needs of a husband than he does for the heart of the wife? For the woman who is emotionally abused or physically abused, telling her that she is never to deny her husband of his sexual pleasure is heartless.

Deuteronomy 24:1,2 says, “When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her his house. And when she is departed his house, she may go and be another man’s wife.” KJV

Let’s look at the New Living Translation of the same verses: “Suppose a man marries a woman but she does not please him. Having discovered something wrong with her, he writes her a letter of divorce, hands it to her, and sends her away from his house. When she leaves his house, she is free to marry another man.”

So, for a divorce to be lawful in God’s sight, there must be a written document stating the divorce has taken place. In other words, the divorce needs to be legal if the man or woman wants to remarry otherwise they would be committing adultery in their new marriage because they weren’t really divorced.

But note that with a legal divorce document in hand, the divorcee was free to remarry.

Deuteronomy doesn’t even say that the reason for divorce has to be adultery. A husband can divorce his wife if he found something unpleasing or wrong with her. Maybe they really don’t get along well. Whatever. The point being, he could divorce her because he wanted to.

But what about Matthew 5:31,32?

I’m glad you asked. Let’s take a look at the King James Version:

“It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement: but I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except for the reason of unchastity, makes her commit adultery; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.”

New International Version:

“It has been said, ‘Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.’ But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, makes her the victim of adultery, and anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery.”

Obviously, this sounds adultery is the only Biblical reason for divorce. So, let’s take a look at the verse again, paying special attention to the words put away and divorce.

“It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement: but I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except for the reason of unchastity, makes her commit adultery; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.”

In the original Greek language, the words for put away and divorce are two different words.

put away = apolyō

divorce = apostasion

However, when they translated the Greek into English, they used the words interchangeably. So, let’s look at the verse again:

“It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away [apolyo] his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement: but I say to you that everyone who divorces [apolyo] his wife, except for the reason of unchastity, makes her commit adultery; and whoever marries a divorced [apolyo] woman commits adultery.”

Notice that the Greek word in each instance is for put away which basically means “separate.” So, in other words, Jesus was saying that a man who “puts away” or separates from his wife without a legal written divorce makes her commit adultery because if she remarries someone else she’s still legally married to her first husband.

The punishment for adultery was not divorce but death. A spouse caught in adultery was stoned to death.

God Divorced Israel

Did you know that God divorced Israel? Divorce in and of itself is not sin. God followed the law in Deuteronomy 24 by giving Israel a legal written certificate of divorce.

“I gave faithless Israel her certificate of divorce and sent her away because of all her adulteries. Yet I saw that her unfaithful sister Judah had no fear; she also went out and committed adultery.” Jeremiah 3:8 NIV.

Israel committed spiritual adultery. Rather than worshiping the One True God, they gave their hearts over to other idols. Just Jesus said, “But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” Matthew 5:28 NIV.

You can commit adultery in your marriage without ever touching another man. It begins in the heart.

There is no doubt that many people end up in divorce for selfish reasons. We live in a world where “self” is number one.

But there are times when a marriage will never heal because in order for a marriage to heal and be fruitful both the husband and the wife must desire to seek out God and change themselves.

I believe with all of my heart that God can work miracles and divorce should be seen as a last resort measure.

Many, many women suffer in marriages where the husband has no desire to be a good provider or a loving husband.

If you are a woman who is suffering in a difficult marriage, I want you to know that God loves you very much. He knows your pain and he knows your heartache. I hope and pray that you and your husband can find healing from the One who is able to heal all broken hearts.

Enabling Sin

When the man you are married to hurts you – whether it be verbally, emotionally, or even by having an affair – it’s perfectly acceptable and even right to forgive. Every marriage requires hearts ready to forgive. And often.

But there is a difference in forgiving someone and allowing them to continue abusing your loving heart, your willingness to forgive, and your desire to believe that things will change. That he will change.

“But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.” 1 Timothy 5:8 NASB.

If you are being physically or emotionally abused; if you are married to a compulsive liar; if you are married to a man who repeatedly commits adultery; if you are in a situation that feels desperate, I want you to know I’ve been there and I understand. Pray hard. Love as much as you can. But don’t feel God will punish you if you feel it’s time to end your marriage.

God is a God of Mercy. His love is immeasurable. He can heal broken hearts after divorce and He can bless you abundantly despite your circumstances.

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Help for  Marriages in Crisis

I mentioned before that divorce should be considered a last resort option.

Before making a decision that will change the course of your life and impact your children, pray and ask God to help you reconcile your issues whether it be through counseling, reading a book, or learning to communicate better. If you are in a situation where any type of abuse is occurring, I urge you to seek help immediately from a trusted friend.

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