Parents Prayer For A Rebellious Teenager

PRAYERS FOR MY TEENAGE SON Rebellious Relationship with Parents

Parents Prayer For A Rebellious Teenager

Prayers for my teenage son. Rebellious Relationship with Parents. Have you ever laid awake at night wondering, where is my son? What is he up to? Who is he with? Is he safe? The worries of a parent over their rebellious teenage sons is never ending.

Teenagers can be in the wrong place at the wrong time and before you know it they are faced with peer pressure, gangs, hanging around streets and areas that speak ‘danger’.

It is for this reason, prayers for my teenage son and for improving his relationship with parents is a must currently.

This article aims to explain reasons why we should pray for our teenagers, why this age group is key and equally challenging. This article also aims to outline how our prayers can help and change the very atmosphere over the lives of our rebellious teenagers and improve relationship with parents.

What is prayer?

Prayer enables us to communicate directly with our heavenly Father. Prayer is indeed a heavenly language and is available to those who trust and believe in Jesus Christ.

The word of God reminds us to “come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest” (Matthew 11:28). Prayer allows us to approach God, concerning those issues that burden us as parents; our teenage sons.

Prayer releases an atmospheric change and causes the forces of darkness to submit to the power of the almighty God. It is for this reason that we should pray for our rebellious teenagers and against the strongholds that encompasses them.

Our prayers are not the weapons of the world, but they have the power to demolish strongholds and every false argument that Satan uses against us and our teenagers.

“The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ” (2 Corinthians 10:4-5).

Why we should pray for our teenagers and how our prayers help?

God is the source in whom we can rely on

  • Prayers for my teenage son is a way to present my requests before God, with thanksgiving (Philippians 4:6).
  • Prayers for my teenage son moves the heart of God as well as it teaches the fundamental principles of intercession.
  • Intercessory prayer develops my relationship and communication with God and enables me to intervene on behalf of my rebellious son by standing in the gap and pleading with God through unrelenting prayer.
  • We should also pray for our teenagers, because we are reminded that God is the hearer of prayer and to You people of all sorts will come (Psalm 65:2).
  • Praying for my teenage son will demonstrate dependence on God. As parents, we may never understand the challenges and the difficulties faced by teenagers. However, offering prayers for my teenage son, gives strength and comfort, knowing that God is the source in whom we can rely on.
  • Prayers for my teenage son, invites God to act on his behalf. We must invite God to work through us here on earth. Failure to do so, will result in evil forces to legally dominate mankind. Therefore, by inviting God to act (through prayer), counteracts “the God of this age blinding the minds of unbelievers” (2 Corinthians 4:4).

Therefore, the lives of others, such as my teenage son(s) can be saved, rather than lost, and relationships with parents can be improved.

Why this age range is specific and challenging?

According to the Organisation for Economic Co-operation and Development (OECD) Family Database, in 2015, teenage suicide rates was perceived to be the highest in Canada, Estonia, Iceland, New Zealand. 10 or more suicide cases per 100 000 teenagers (15-19 years) were reported during this period.

According to WebMd, suicide is suggested to be the third predicted causes of death of teenagers aged between 15 and 24. Teenage males account for 84% of all suicides from 5,000 lives lost every year. Equally, the suicide rate for teenage boys (15-19 years) has increased significantly by 30% from 2007-2015.

The cause of the increase in suicide cases among teenagers can be stress, depression, mental and mood disorders, history of physical or mental abuse, substance abuse, confusion and bad relationship with parents.

Some teenage sons may find it difficult in coping with hormonal developments encompassed with body changes, ‘identity crisis’ and having to develop a sense of self-independence. As such teenage boys can often become rebellious, confused, anxious and carry low self-esteem.

Therefore, as parents and guardians, we must remind our teenage sons that God knows the plans He has for them.

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future” (Jeremiah 29:11).

We must pray and remind our teenage sons to stay on the path of purity and live according to His Word (Psalm 119:9).

Prayers for my teenage son – Rebellious Relationship with Parents

Our Father, who is in heaven, hallowed be Your Name. I thank you for your divine blessings in my life. I thank You Father for my teenage son. Your Word says, that before You formed my son in the womb, you knew him.

Father, help my teenage son to understand the authority that you have place inside of him.

Help him to not accept negative talk, negative actions, negative deeds over His life, but help him to recognize the ‘Christ- identity’ that You have placed inside him.

Father, will you release my son from the strongholds that may plaque his life right now? Will you release him from emotional, physical and spiritual hurts, and grant Your emotional, physical and spiritual protection over my son? Please keep evil far away from him and help him to trust in Your Word, because you are his refuge and strength; a very present help in times of trouble. Guard his mind and every thought that is not of You. Help my son(s) to find rest in You, this I ask. Amen.

Being able to understand the purpose of praying for your teenage son, will enable you to pray fervently as a parent. Knowing why you should pray for teenagers and the specific challenges faced, will also enable you to pray strategically, purposefully and according to the will of God.

Sources used for statistical information:
Teenage Suicide
Preventing Teen Suicide

Источник: https://prayray.com/prayers-for-my-teenage-son/

Letter to a Counselor, Counseling a Rebellious Teenager

Parents Prayer For A Rebellious Teenager

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Member Mailbag – Hey Rick, I met with a teenager and his mom, and it did not go as well as I had hoped. Apart from his pre-programmed grunts, I could not get much him.

There were a couple of times where we seemed to connect when I said that I d his shirt, and on another occasion when I referenced my past pagan experiences. Other than that, there were only grunts and crickets in the room.

Do you have any advice on how to counsel a grunting, rebellious teen?

Dear Friend!

I’m so glad the Lord brought him to you. What an opportunity. I’m also excited to be able to serve you here. Thank you for asking.

Where to Begin

A vital key in counseling is to find your starting point before you begin counseling (discipling) anyone. With the cross always as the goal, you must discern the distance the person is from the cross (the spot in his unique journey where he is), and that will be your starting point.

The starting point does not matter, as far as the location of his unique spot, but it does matter that you know where it is—where he is. Meaning, it does not matter if he is lost or saved as long as you know where to begin. Jesus always talked to people differently—according to where they were, not according to where He was or where He preferred them to be.

When Nicodemus approached Jesus, the Lord met him where Nick was, not where Jesus was. Jesus talked to him according to how Nick could understand Him (John 3:1-8). Even though Nicodemus was confused at times, ultimately he was intrigued enough to where it does appear he became a believer (John 19:39).

When Jesus approached the woman at the well, it was a different kind of conversation (John 4:7-26). Why? Because she was a different person, at a different spot in her journey to the cross.

He connected to her according to her narrative, not according to His.

And as He related to her, He began to introduce new ideas, which eventually had the same impact on her that it had on Nicodemus (John 4:28-29).

I’m gonna place my money on his starting point being miles before the salvation line, somewhere in the “community of pagan-ville.” And if that is true, he is a long way from the cross of Christ; he has not even made it to the “border of salvation.” With this thought in your mind, here are two things for you to consider:

  • I would not recommend talking to him with either of his parents in the room.
  • I would not recommend talking about Jesus or other “God things” at this point.

A Proud Boy

Remove distractions. Your teen is a proud boy, who must be true to his “self-promoted image.” Being consistent in front of those who know him a certain way is important to him. If his mother is in the room, he cannot be anything other than what he has always been with her. (Read: Mono-syllabic grunter).

To let down his guard by being humble, responsive, using multiple syllabic words, stringing sentences together, giving a little, or even smiling would do damage to his “well-guarded reputation” while harming his fragile ego.

If he is going to talk, which is your good goal for him, your proud teen needs a place where he can be weak (2 Corinthians 4:7) without others knowing about it, especially those people that he wants to maintain his tough guy persona.

I have said before that if I could get a macho man in a room with me, and if all the stars were lined up and the sky was perfect, and all other distractive things in the universe were in order, then he would cry a baby. He would make a puddle on the floor.

The macho man can only do that under the right conditions because men can be so stinking proud with their John Wayne, tough guy, nonsense, machismo, crapola, that for their reasons, they must present toughness at all times.

And your “little man” is the same way. He must maintain his “Fonz image” at all times. He has to stay in character, but that is only masking what is going on deep in his soul. Therefore, he needs a safe place to cry. He wants to find that place because he is hurting, suffering, angry, and lost.

He does not know how to unravel what is binding his soul in knots (Galatians 6:1). He will not reveal his hurt as long as his mommy is in the room. Ain’t happening. No way, no how. He’ll grunt and occasionally scratch under his armpits.

But that is not who he is, or at least not who he wants to be. To paraphrase the late great Elvis, “I’m in a trap, and I can’t get out.” Ask the Lord to give you the favor to remove as many distractions as possible. Give him a better opportunity to come out–to remove his cool mask (Genesis 3:7).

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Remove expectations. The second thing to consider is to remove his preconceived ideas. He has at least two of them that could drive a communication wedge between you:

  • He knows you’re a Christian, which means you’re “gonna drop the God card” on him at any moment.
  • He knows it’s three against one, which means he’s pitted against you, mom, and his dad.

Because he is miles and miles from the cross, somewhere in “pagan-ville,” it’s on you to go and “meet up with him” where he is, which is something he will not expect. The idea that I’m laying out here is at the heart of the gospel.

  • Jesus, our first missionary, came to our dark place to rescue us (Philippians 2:5-11).
  • God always gives us more than we think (Ephesians 3:20).
  • God’s thoughts transcend our thoughts (Isaiah 55:8-9).

Disarm him by creating an unexpected category that catches him off guard. Meaning, drop the religious stuff while talking to him in a way he does not expect, but in a way that is more comfortable for him (John 7:46).

It’s visiting with someone in their home as opposed to having them visit with you in your home. People will always be more comfortable in their own house. Since he’s in your office, which is negative, you can minimize the “therapeutic barrier” by entering into his world (John 1:14).

Talking about his shirt was a good move on your part. And mentioning your pagan background? That’s gold (Philippians 3:4-7). I suspect having his mommy in the room stirred up the grunt machine, but if she were not there, you could probably walk down ‘memory-pagan-lane” with him (appropriately), and he may do more than grunt at you.

Without bragging about your past, use “all your relationship with God” to reach him, even your poor stinking relationship with Him when you were more the boy than Jesus.

You’re not boasting in your past sin, but removing this odd notion that too many people get stuck in their heads that Christians are different from the rest of humanity.

Apart from God’s unmerited aroma on our lives, we all smell the same (Ezekiel 16:6; John 11:39; Romans 3:10-12; 1 Timothy 1:15).

Remember, you’re going to his place—to his spot in the road (Luke 10:25-37), and treating him according to who he is right now, to move him a bit closer to the cross.

You probably won’t be able to do anything more than the crushing some of his categories at this point, while dropping a few seeds in his heart (1 Corinthians 3:6), with the prayerful expectation that the Lord will give a fuller increase on another day (Luke 15:17).

For now, just water and plant a bit differently than the traditional counseling way of doing things. Be his friend. Be real. Use all of your life, appropriately, with him.

Lean Into Your Assumptions

One final point: Use what you already know about what is going on in his heart to your advantage. The following article lays out 12 Universal Assumptions You Can Make about Anyone. These twelve things listed in this graphic are true for all people, even your grunting friend.

In the original article where you will find this graphic, I recommend you focus specifically on the universal truth that all people suffer. He is suffering, and he does not want to be in pain any longer. Every person is suffering in some way, and every person hopes to end their suffering.

Ask the Spirit of God to create a thirst in the boy’s soul that will motivate him to want to escape his suffering. Somebody coined the expression that you can lead a horse to water, but you cannot make him drink. That is not true. Put some salt in his oats, and he will drink.

If anyone thirsts, let him come to me and drink. Whoever believes in me, as the Scripture has said, his heart will flow rivers of living water. – John 7:37-38

Ask the Spirit to give you the discernment to tap into the inner workings of this boy’s heart to stir up his suffering, which hopefully will provide him with a thirst for a different kind of water (Jeremiah 2:13). The water that Jesus offers is your hope, and if he comes to Jesus, he may drink, and if your friend does drink, he will be satisfied.

Again, drinking the water that Jesus provides may or may not happen during your times of meeting with him, but at least you can drop a drop into his soul, and pray for the Spirit to turn it into a river that floods his soul.

I trust these things will help. I also realize that I’m not hitting everything you need to know. What I’d for you to do is read this, listen to the accompanying podcast, and then ask more questions on our forums so we can take it down to a granular level. Thank you for asking.

You’re a joy to serve,
Rick

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Источник: https://rickthomas.net/letter-counselor-counseling-rebellious-teenager/

Top 7 Bible Verses For A Rebellious Child

Parents Prayer For A Rebellious Teenager

Rebellion is a deliberate defiance and opposition to authority, and it often leads to confrontation and suffering.

It is especially hard for parents and families when they have a rebellious child, as their heart breaks for the poor decisions that their children are making.

Whether it is a child, a teenager or an adult child, their words and actions impact the people around them. These decisions will effect the rest of their lives, so included here in this article are my top 7 Bible verses for a rebellious child.

God’s word is so relevant in every situation, and this is so true when discussing a rebellious child.

Wise King Solomon wrote this verse describing how a child’s actions will define who he is and how he is accepted. If a young person acts with purity and an upright heart, then he will be seen as joy and a blessing.

However, if a child chooses disobedience and defiance, then he will be labeled as rebellious and difficult.

There are many reasons why a child might be oppositional and resistant to those in authority. Some of these reasons might be due to neglect, poor parenting or even abuse, and these are all tragic situations for a child to have to endure.

This verse confirms that a child should not be left to his own devices, because he cannot raise himself and he will bring shame to his mother and father.

Children need love, supervision, caring, and discipline in order to grow in favor with God and man.

The natural state of man is to sin, so there is a propensity for rebellion in each and every one of us.

Solomon explains here, we all have folly bound up in our hearts as children (and even as adults), so we need discipline to push us in the right direction.

Proverbs 22:15 goes on to elaborate even more by saying, “do not withhold discipline from a rebellious child.” So correction and discipline are a necessity in correcting rebellious attitudes and actions, especially in children.

Another way to correct and counteract a defiant child is to teach them God’s word.

it says here in the book of Deuteronomy, teach your child about God and his love and his laws that are always meant for our good, as you are spending time together.

Whether walking or driving or resting at home, it is always important to share the truths of God’s word with our children, so that it becomes a part of who they are. The Lord’s truth will combat sin and rebelliousness in all of us.

Life can sometimes be very hard, as we face various trials and challenges on a daily basis. This is true for children and young people as well, so this verse reminds us all that we should always focus our lives on God and his will for us. The earlier we turn our hearts over to him, the more problems and pitfalls we are ly to avoid.

As it states at the end of this same chapter, “the end of the matter; all has been heard. Fear God and keep his commandments, for this is the whole duty of man. For God will bring every deed into judgment, with every secret thing, whether good or evil” (Eccl. 12:13-14).

Our actions have consequences, so the Lord encourages us to choose wisely.

I believe that this is a great verse for a rebellious child, because it shows us exactly how we can combat a defiant and disobedient heart.

When we love God with all of our heart and soul and mind and strength, there is no room left for insurrection to lift its ugly head in our lives. Focusing our attention on the Lord, will release us from the pull of sin.

The Lord is quick to forgive us our sins, when we repent and turn back to him.

Finally, in order to stop a rebellious child, it is most important that they realize that obeying their parents is not only a commandment, but it is also pleasing to the Lord.

He doesn’t want to shame young people, but rather his desire is to admonish them as his beloved children (I Corinthians 4:14).

God is calling us to greater things than what the world offers, and he encourages all of us to seek wisdom and love him with all of our hearts.

CONCLUSION

Remember parents, it’s more about relationship with your child than it is about laying down the law. Following the rules is expected, but by overstating their necessity you will most ly see only an outward display while the heart has not changed.

By having a true relationship, your child’s behavior is most ly an inner, heartfelt, desire their love for you. It often seems that young people don’t realize the consequences of their decisions, so they make poor choices without regard for their future.

I heard recently that “decisions have descendants,” and I believe that this is so appropriate in this case. Rebellion and parental defiance will have negative consequences both now and in the future, and it is imperative that children realize that now before it is too late.

God loves them (and us) so much, and he wants to give us a bright hope and a future without baggage or scars to weigh us down.

Written by Karla Hawkins

God has been good to me over the years, and I have much for which to be grateful to Him. First of all, I feel blessed to be the pastor’s wife of a thriving church in northern Michigan and the mother of four amazing grown children.

It is also very rewarding to be a Christian author, editor and translator for the Kingdom of God. Some of my favorite pastimes include supporting my children’s contemporary Christian band ONLY9AM, singing on the worship team at church, traveling, and connecting with family and friends via social media.

When I am not working, I love spending time with my family and especially with my precious three-year-old grandson.

Источник: https://www.patheos.com/blogs/christiancrier/2015/04/01/top-7-bible-verses-for-a-rebellious-child/

Handling a Rebellious Teenager: 10 Practical Tips

Parents Prayer For A Rebellious Teenager

Listen: Collett Smart chats to Emma Mullings about handling a rebellious teen.

Parenting is challenging role at the best of times—but if you have a rebellious, wayward teenager, you’ve got an especially tough gig.

Late nights make you worried and exhausted, fights and hurtful words can leave you angry or heartbroken, and self- blame may set in as you try to work out ‘what went wrong’.

Family psychologist Collett Smart offered some keys for parents to handle a rebellious teenager, but first, she said, it’s important to determine whether your teen is actually rebelling, or simply going through a normal growing up process.

Rebellion vs Normal Teen Behaviour: Know the Difference

If your teenager’s pulling away from you, disconnecting, spending most of their time away from the home, and ignoring some of their childhood boundaries, that’s quite normal behaviour, says Collett.

“They’re trying to become their own person,” she explained. “It’s actually called developmental individuation. That’s the fancy term. They want to grow independent. They don’t always want to do everything their parents do. They will say no to certain things, or sometimes flat-out refuse and push a little bit.

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“It’s not so positive when it’s happening in your kitchen or living room, but it’s normal for your teen to fight, and for you to lose some battles. It’s important to realise that your teen’s in the process of moving away from you.”

Rebellion, on the other hand, is a destructive process.

“You actually can watch your child destroying part of their lives and refusing to abide by any rules,” she said. “There’s often chaos in the relationships around the child. It’s when your teen really just flat-out refuses to follow any kind of advice or anything their parents try and reach out to them with.”

For parents in this situation, the following practical keys will help you navigate this season.

1 – Know That You Can’t Control Your Teen’s Choices

it or not, teenagers are autonomous humans who can make their own choices. It’s not your job as a parent, or even your right, to control them. It’s an important and liberating point to remember when you’re faced with a rebellious teenager.

This also means you needn’t blame yourself, or other parents, when teens go off the rails.

“We must be careful not to label ourselves as bad parents, or think, ‘look at those parents, they have a rebellious teen, they must have done something wrong’,” she said. “It’s very easy for us to become judgey.”

At the same time, though, remember that many rebellious teens have reasons for their decisions. Often they feel hurt in some way.

Knowing this will help you to have some understanding and compassion in approaching them.

2 – Don’t Give Up on Your Teenager

For a frustrated parent, giving up and walking away from your child emotionally can be the easiest solution—but it’s not helpful.

“Having a rebellious child is very tiring and stressful and you can feel very angry and frustrated, but if I can just implore parents, no matter how exhausted or disappointed you are, just be the best parent you still can be to your rebellious teen,” Collett says.

By continuing to ‘be there’ for them, this will send a message that they are loved, which is the message they need the most.

3 – Look For Opportunities to Encourage and Praise

Just as parents with toddlers take every chance to praise their child for succeeding at a task, the same principle is helpful with teenagers, says Collett.

“Tell them that you love them. Find something they’re doing well.”

“Catch your teen doing something right,” she said. “Sometimes it’s very difficult when your teen is rebellious and angry. But still tell them that you love them. Find something they’re doing well. Even if it’s as basic as them happening to unpack the dishwasher that week. You might think, ‘Well they should be, that’s their chore’. But thank them.”

“And praise your teen sometimes just for effort, not for accomplishment or being the best, but just for actually having a go at something.

“Pick times when you can just love on them.”

4 – Pick Your Battles; Let Go of Some Rules

As kids grow older and push the boundaries, it’s important to relinquish a few, says Collett.

“Around age 15 or 16 you need to back off from your teen,” she said. “Lessen some of the rules. Still have a few boundaries but really pick your battles. For example for a messy room, just shut the door for a while. Some things are not game-changers and not moral issues. Let some things go.”

5 – Don’t Get Drawn Into Yelling Matches

If you let your emotions get control and yell at your teenager, you’re not actually making any progress. In fact you’re shooting yourself in the foot, says Collett.

“Young people already know when they’re doing things badly or are upsetting their parents, and their motivation is sapped when they know they’re failing,” she said. “It just becomes a downwards spiral.

So they have lower expectations of themselves and they just start to help less, and do less and become more stressed, and the survival instinct kicks in. So yelling doesn’t help.

At that point they’re actually not even hearing you.”

Instead, wait for a moment when you can talk with your teen calmly instead, says Collett.

6 – Find Neutral Territory Where You Can Talk

If an emotional explosion with your teenager is inevitable, though, taking the discussion outside the home can help.

“Find neutral territory if you can, to talk about things,” Collett suggests. “ a coffee shop or somewhere where you’re not at home.”

7 – Leave Little Wordless Gifts

While you may not feel giving anything to a teenager who is breaking all the rules and taking you for granted, there is still a place for small gifts that say ‘I still love you’.

“Even if they’re out at a party and you know that they’re getting drunk, leave their favourite biscuits or chips on their bed,” Collett says. “Just little things where you can actively consciously send little messages saying, ‘I love you, I’m still here, and I still want to chat with you’.”

8 – Keep Attending Their Events

Although a rebellious teenager won’t communicate well, stay in touch with what’s happening in their school or sporting team, and continue to go along to their special events. Even if they’re ly to ignore you, it’ll send the message that you’re still around and haven’t given up on them.

“Offer to pick them up, even if they are ly to flatly say ‘no way’,” Collett suggests. “Keep offering, keep extending that olive branch, so they know that you’re still there.”

When your teen won’t talk to you, being present in the background is an alternative way to send a message of love.

9 – Respect Their Boundaries

To a moody teenager, there’s few things worse than their parent treating them a little kid. By paying attention to their boundaries, you will communicate to your teen that you respect them and understand they are becoming an adult.

“If they say ‘I don’t want to talk’, respect that, but still keep saying ‘I’m genuinely interested in you and when you want to, I’m still here,” Collett suggests. “Even if they never actually take you up on it, they will still know that you’re still there.”

10 Look After Yourself

If you’re the frazzled parent of a rebellious teen, don’t forget to take time out for yourself. “Invest in self-care,” advises Collett.

“It’s important to have your own network, other people you can talk to, and if there’s a point where it really escalates, get help for yourself and your family. We’re quick to go to the doctor when our children’s legs are broken but we somehow don’t go for help when our family needs emotional support.”

By looking after yourself and filling your own emotional tank, you’ll be better equipped to navigate your child’s difficult teenage years much more effectively.

Источник: https://hope1032.com.au/stories/life/parenting/2016/handling-rebellious-teenager-10-practical-tips/

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