Prayer to Overcome Jealousy
13 Powerful Prayers for Overcoming Jealousy
There are many reasons why an individual may experience jealousy. These powerful prayers for overcoming jealousy will help you to find peace and heal your heart from any discontent.
Wonderful Counselor, I bind that spirit of jealousy that’s attempting to consume my life. I curse it out completely in the name of Jesus, for it is more than cruelty and overwhelming fury. Remove it now, mighty God, along with the hatred, anger, fear and insecurities that fuel it.
Loving Lord we know that the jealousies of the flesh are ruinous and evil – and are abhorrent in Your eyes and yet You display a good and godly jealousy over Your children, and the things of God that are precious in Your sight.
Thank You Lord that You are jealous in that way over Your love for me – I thank You also for the godly jealous displayed by Paul over the church of God and pray that we too may develop a desire him, to pray for Your protection of the church, from the evil ways of Satan who desire to lead believers astray – in the same way that he deceived Eve in the garden of Eden.
Help me more and more to develop a godly passion – a godly jealousy over the things of God. Help me not to perpetuate truth through compromise, nor water down the gospel of grace in order to maintain a false unity – but rather Lord I pray that I may develop a passion for the truth as we seek to share the gospel of grace with all who are wiling to listen, in Jesus name I pray, Amen.
Father, I am not glad. I am jealous. So, please, make me glad in You. Change my heart by the power of your Spirit. I’m not turning to anyone or anything else. Just you. I lift up my jealous, sinful soul to you Forgive me through Jesus. Strengthen my faith. Help me.
Everlasting Father, I desire to be as holy as You are. Set me free of the thoughts that consume my mind which cause the jealousy to arise. Substitute the negativity and cruelty within my heart with Your peace and love, and gentle kindness.
Dear Heavenly Father,
I pray for wives who struggle with jealousy. I pray they would not be jealous of other marriages, other women, or of their husbands.
I pray that instead of being jealous of their husband’s opportunities, job, friends, or anything else, they would be confident through their faith in You! Instead of letting jealousy root in their heart over what another wife has or a friend has, that thankfulness in the gifts You have given would satisfy. Remove and carve from our hearts any bit of jealous that resides in Jesus’ name, Amen.
Father, come and be the all consuming fire in me! Consume all my flesh Lord, that I will be free from all envy and jealousy, that I will only look to YOU for all I need; that I will serve only an audience of ONE. I pray I will be more and more YOU, and walk and talk You. Conform my mind and thoughts to Your thoughts Lord. Take complete control of me Holy Spirit that I will not do my own will, but only Yours!
Loving Father forgive me for my feelings of jealousy which I know are not righteous and very detrimental, to my well-being, my health and my relationships. Keep me from looking at the attributes and achievements of others and wishing I had their gifts and graces. – Help me Lord to develop an attitude of contentment and peace, which I know only comes from You.
Lord sometimes my stupid jealousy has caused rifts between dear friends and me – and even has contributed to problems with my own family.. and this desire to have what belongs to others – or to enjoy the popularity and charisma that others seem to have, has become at times so stifling that I don’t know which way to turn – and I know that this is not Your will for my life.Forgive me for my jealousies and help me to develop an attitude of gratitude for all that I am and all that I have. And Lord I pray that You would give me the grace to change my thoughts from those of envy and jealousy to right thinking and pure thoughts.
Lord I know that it says in scripture to think about whatever is true, and good, whatever is right and pure, whatever is lovely and admirable, and whatever is excellent and praiseworthy and to fix my mind on such things. Help me Lord to change my thought pattern from the bad to the good – for I know that all things are possible with you and I ask this in Jesus name. Thank You Father. Amen.
Prince of Peace, help those who are struggling today. May they experience Your love and show love in return to all they come into contact with.
Help me to not be envious towards my neighbors and friends but rather to be happy for them and encourage them to go even further. Cleanse me of anything that breaks Your heart, oh Savior.
Help me live a righteous life, Heavenly Father. Because on this day I declare it, I decree it and speak it into my life, in JESUS’ mighty name, Amen!
Dear Lord we bring before You the many people that are enmeshed in a web of envy and jealousy, which we know has a very detrimental effect on the lives of all who are caught up in its destructive ways.
Lord we know that jealousy is a cancer that rots a person from the inside out and we know that jealousy is a root that gives birth to other fleshly evils and unwholesome desires – and Lord, we ask You to look down in compassion and pity all who have succumbed to this ruinous route.
Lord we know that all good things comes from You and we pray that in Your grace You would seek out those that do not yet know You but who desire to turn from their envious and jealous attitudes – and draw them into a saving relationship with the Lord Jesus. And Lord, if they are believers who have jealous streaks in their heart we pray that You would convict them of their need to turn from this destructive path so that they may return back into fellowship with Yourself.
Lord If there are any hidden jealousies that are tucked away in my own heart, I pray that in Your grace, You would bring them to my attention so that I may confess them as my own struggles, even if I am unaware of them or have camouflaged them in my foolish pride.
Thank You Lord that You died for each one of us and do not turn Your back on any who cry out to You for help… so in Your love and compassion we pray that even now You would draw very close to those that are sinking in a cess-pit of jealousy and draw them into Your arms, in Jesus name we pray, Amen.
Dear Lord, Please help me. I get jealous of my own husband. I get jealous of the time that he has, the things that he gets to do or doesn’t do, I get jealous of the opportunities he receives, and it hurts. I need to appreciate what you have given specifically to me, embracing it and responding to it all with joy in Jesus name, Amen.
Father, Please give me the GRACE to overcome any immoral fleshly activity in my life that would fuel dissension and jealousy.
Remove any pride that would cause me to think myself more deserving or better than others.
Help me to “Put on” the Lord Jesus by coming into Your presence daily and worshipping You, and communicating with You in prayer and studying Your word, that My mind would be renewed.
Dear heavenly Father, I so often look at other people and simply wish I was them, or had what they have – and Father it seems to be developing into an obsession, which frightens me Lord. Help me to overcome this obsessive jealousy of wishing I was someone else and of being envious of their opportunities and personalities.
Lord I know that I am fearfully and wonderfully made and that You scheduled every day of my life and that You even know the numbers of hairs on my head – and in my heart I know that You died for ME… because you loved ME. Help me Lord to be content with ME and who I am and please help me to overcome this desire to always be someone else.I pray Lord that every time a feeling of jealousy or envy starts to creep into my thoughts, that You would help me to take that thought captive and hand it over to Jesus – and help me instead to fix my mind on You – and call to mind that You died on the cross and rose again because of Your love for ME.
Thank You for loving me and I pray that I may learn to become the person You made me to be – and be released from always wishing I was someone else. Thank You in the name of Jesus Christ, my Saviour. Amen
Father, uproot in me any of the works of the flesh, that would war against Your holiness in me! Bring to me, the Spirit of burning and burn off all the flesh that would yield to jealousy and envy, cruelty and hatred.
Father do not allow your turtledove to be turned over to the wild beasts of the earth! Rescue me from all darkness! Fill me with more of Your love, peace, kindness and patience. Overwhelm me with YOUR LOVE, that I would not think or act in worldly ways.
Give me GRACE to deny my flesh and to walk in the light as You are in the light.
Here is a great video from Pastor Rick Warren where he discusses how to triumphant fear in the relationship and find peace and comfort.
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7 Tips for Overcoming Jealousy in Relationships
“It is not love that is blind, but jealousy.”
“He's so jealous, I have to face the wall in restaurants!”
Kevin sat beside her, rather meekly.
“Mark, can you please make him understand that I love him,” Katherine continued. “I don't want anybody else. But his insane jealousy is going to tear us apart unless something changes.”
Kevin admitted that when they went out in public, he would insist she sit toward a wall so that she couldn't see (or be seen by) other potential attractive mates.
If he caught her chatting or joking with male neighbours or colleagues, he would assume right off she was having an affair.
She had stopped seeing a really good male friend she'd known since childhood and he'd “banned” her from chatting to a 70-year-old married man who lived next door. This was maddening.
His jealousy was all-encompassing; from attractive male movie stars to male teachers of her young children.
At first (before realizing how destructive it was to become), she'd been flattered by the intensity of his jealous attentions – after all, it showed he cared, right? But the constant anxiety, loss of her freedom, and sheer clinginess (he would text every half-hour if she went out with a girlfriend) were now torture to her and also to him.
Most people feel a little jealous sometimes, especially when they have strong feelings of attraction and love for their partner, and a little jealousy occasionally can add zest to a relationship. But just as a spark can illuminate a room, a blaze can burn it to the ground. So what's behind jealousy?
What does jealousy in a relationship mean?
At the root of jealousy lies fear of loss. many jealous partners, Kevin feared loss of their relationship, loss of self-respect, even loss of 'face' fearing how his friends would see him if he were to be 'made a fool of'. Fear makes for feelings of insecurity.
When fear lessens, so does jealousy. More than feelings of fear, jealousy also leads to a smorgasbord of other emotions such as anger, hate of love 'rivals', disgust (sometimes self-disgust), and hopelessness.
So why might a person be jealous? Kevin's ex-wife had cheated on him and he felt he'd never got over this. 'Once bitten, twice shy', he was now creating imaginary threats. We're told it's great to have 'a good imagination', but he was using his to torment himself.
Of course, if your partner is continually sexually active with other people, then jealousy is totally justified. And perhaps the whole relationship needs to be re-evaluated.
But here I want to focus on helping you if you feel unduly jealous (that's to say, there is no real or proper evidence that your partner is or has been unfaithful to you). These tips also focus on sexual jealousy rather than, say, being jealous of the amount of time your partner spends with their mother or kids.
So how can we start to break the jealousy cycle, reclaim self-control, and stop driving our partners and ourselves crazy?
1) It may sound trite, but how about you believe your partner?
Yes, take them at their word. If they do lie to you, then they are not making a fool anyone but themselves – remember that. It's been said that trust is the cornerstone of any relationship.
It's very insulting for your partner to have you always doubting their word or decency of behaviour. Constant questioning by you can even be as destructive as having an affair in the long run.
You'll still distrust your partner for a while ( sheer habit), but find the strength to start acting as if you believe them. If you've been checking that they really were where they said they've been, then stop doing that. When they tell you they love you, believe them.
2) Easier said than done, but stop comparing yourself to others
Some (not all) jealousy is driven by low self-esteem. “How could they love me? I don't understand how someone them could be attracted to someone me!” We none of us are supposed to understand exactly why someone loves us. Does the Mona Lisa painting know why it is so valuable? Of course, you may be able to appreciate attractive qualities in yourself, but consider this:
There are better looking, richer, funnier, smarter, younger people around than just about all of us, but these are qualities of a 'product'.If he or she loves you, it will be because of an extra, indefinable quality you have that they couldn't even explain – some deep part of your humanity they connected to which transcends looks, youth, wealth, and so forth.
Some of the most loved people in history have been well down the list when it comes to looks or wealth. Stop trying to 'work out' why they can possibly you.
3) It might be a terrible thought, but be prepared to lose them
I said that not all jealousy is driven by low self-esteem; and that's right. People with quite high self-esteem can experience intense jealousy if they tend to feel they themselves must always be the centre of things.
People this tend to look at other people as material property. And maybe they just don't want to share that 'property', even as far as letting their partner innocently smile or socialize with another person.
Perhaps as a kid they were a little spoilt.
But people are not objects or toys to be constantly guarded. To love someone properly, we need to be prepared to lose them. What? Am I mad? Sounds it, you might think (and I do have my moments), but hear me out.
Anger, fear, and jealousy drive out love; and love needs a strong dash of fearlessness to flourish.
Okay, so you fear losing your loved one to someone else (and possibly fear how this will make you feel about yourself).
If you must keep using your imagination, use it to imagine the 'worst' happening and you still being okay; not just surviving, but thriving in this imagined scenario.
Fantasize about how well you'd react, how whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Write down 10 positive ways you'd to respond and how you'd build your life up even better if this relationship were to end.Fear is much greater when we feel that 'all our eggs are in one basket'. Don't build your whole life around any one person.
“How can I live without you?” is too daunting – really imagine how you would, if you had to, live without this person.
But don't leave this list lying around to be found by your partner, as this may start them feeling insecure. :-/
4) Don't – just don't – play games
Jealousy is excruciatingly uncomfortable. People sometimes try to make themselves feel better by trying to get their partner jealous. Don't do this.
Flirting with other men or women all the time in front of your partner; constantly saying how attractive, fun, and witty someone you work with is; and going your way to talk about past lovers just demeans you and won't make either of you feel better in the long run.
This isn't to say you have to pretend that no other attractive people exist in the world, but you can acknowledge this without using it as relationship ammunition.
If your partner is ever unfaithful to you, that is a reflection of them, not you; and if this were to occur, it's better that they don't have the 'ammo' to turn around and say: “Well, you were always talking about…
” or “Can you blame me? Because you were always flirting outrageously with the auto repair man (girl who works in the bar)…” Keep your dignity long-term and ditch the game playing.
5) Stop confusing make-believe with reality
Jealousy, many psychological problems (from hypochondria to paranoia), is driven by the destructive use of the imagination. The imagination is great…if you use it for your own benefit, not if it messes with your mind. Stephen King has a stellar career from making stuff up and writing about it.
But he distances himself (thankfully for him!) from stuff he creates in his head. He doesn't believe everything he writes is real just because he imagined it. Right now, I can imagine an alien invasion headed right towards Earth.
I can vividly 'see' the pesky aliens about to land the mother ship in my local park, but I don't believe it.
Stop trusting your imagination so much. Think about it:
- Your partner is home later than you thought they were going to be.
- You start to imagine them having an intimate drink with that handsome guy you saw working in her office or that luscious sister of his new gym partner you happened to see one time.
- You become angry, upset, frightened – without having any evidence that what you imagined is real.
- They come home and you react 'weirdly' by being very cold or you have an outburst of anger toward them.
- They become defensive and angry back in turn.
I recall seeing a video of a dog becoming very angry – with its own leg. The more its leg moved, the angrier it got with it – not realizing that it, the dog, was moving the leg. We laugh when we see a dog do this, but psychologically people do a variation of this all the time.
When you stop getting emotional just because you've imagined something, you'll take a hefty step toward regaining control of that jealousy.
6) Lengthen the leash
Okay, since we're talking canines, here's another dog reference. Start relaxing with lengthening the 'leash'. If your partner wants to spend the weekend with his or her friends, let them. Keeping them 'imprisoned' will only build their desire to escape your possessiveness.
Let them have their freedom (and no, this is not the same as letting them walk all over you). If you are out with them, let them chat to their attractive colleague (bearing in mind that they may not find their colleague as attractive as you imagine).
If you suspect your partner is trying to make you jealous, then short circuit this by relaxing about it; but how?
7) Use your imagination to make you feel better, not worse
Try this exercise:
Close your eyes and relax. Now think about the type of scenario that makes you the most jealous. Is it knowing your partner is out and you imagining them with someone else? Is it seeing them talking and laughing with someone else?
Now, breathing deeply and focusing on relaxing different parts of your body in turn, just imagine seeing yourself looking calm, relaxed, even disinterested in that type of situation.
Because ultimately in life we only have ourselves to answer to, and you can only truly control yourself. Visualize your partner doing all the things that made you feel jealous and see yourself not responding with jealousy, but rather with calm detachment.
The more you can do this, the less jealousy will be able to mess with you.
To get a flavour of this, click on this free audio session, relax, and listen.It might sound strange to say that jealousy is more about self-love than real love for another person, but jealousy does make us focus more on our own feelings than the feelings of the other person. Overcoming jealousy isn't about making your partner face the wall in restaurants or trying to prevent them ever looking at anyone else; it has to be about you managing your own emotions.
I worked with Kevin hypnotically; worked with his traumatic memories of having been cheated on by someone who wasn't Katherine and, bit by bit, got him to lengthen the leash. Now, I'm happy to say, his beautiful fiancée sits with her back to the wall at restaurants because, as Kevin says: “Why deny other men the chance to admire a beautiful face.”
Do you think you're driving your partner away but can't seem to stop?
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