Prayer To Bring Ups Children Wisely
Bringing up children
Raising a child is the hardest, most responsible and satisfying task a human being can face. It's also the job for which people receive the least formal training.
Each person's knowledge of how to bring up a child usually comes from their surroundings and their own upbringing. This may result in patterns from the parent's own social experiences being repeated and passed on to their children.
Parents are role models
Parents are the most influential role models children are ly to have. Parents who pay compliments and show respect, kindness, honesty, friendliness, hospitality and generosity to their children will encourage them to behave in the same way.
Parents should express their unconditional love for their children, as well as provide them with the continued support they need to become self-assured and happy.
It's also important that parents set reasonable expectations for their children and tell them in plain words what they expect from them.
Before having a child, it's a good idea for both partners to understand each other's attitudes to parenting.
You can do this by talking about the issues raised in this article, talking to your friends and surfing the many parenting websites.
Discipline is crucial when bringing up a child. All children need and want reasonable boundaries. Through discipline your child learns that some kinds of behaviour are acceptable and others are not. Setting boundaries for children's behaviour helps them to learn how to behave in society.Discipline is difficult to deal with because it demands consistency. Being a parent is a 24-hour job. The rules have to apply every day.
Inconsistency and lack of discipline create confused and rootless children – who will test their parents constantly to find out what the world is all about. This is why parents, who put in the effort every day to provide consistent boundaries to their children, will (eventually!) end up with better behaved kids.
Spending enough time with your children
A child's greatest need is quality time with their parents.
Finding time to spend together as a family can be difficult. In many households, parents have to go to work, which limits the time they have to spend with their children. In addition, children are involved in school and other activities.
Try to arrange a time each day, such as during breakfast or dinner, when the entire family can be together. Fixed routines are important for children.
It's also a good idea for everyone to get together and talk. Mealtimes provide a perfect opportunity to chat about the events of the day. Everybody should take part in the conversation: parents should pay attention and show interest in whatever their children say.
Make it a family rule that everyone eats together and stays at the table, at least until everyone has finished eating. This encourages them not to rush their food – but more importantly it gives an opportunity for conversation.
Children to have special days reserved for special activities. For example, Thursday afternoon at the library with Dad, or Friday night swimming with Mum. Such rituals and routines build strong families.
Encourage your children to take part in planning activities. It's good for a family to do a variety of fun things together, such as playing games and going to the movies or concerts.
What will good communication teach children?
Offering explanations will help children work matters out for themselves. Take time to point out how things are connected, for example, in terms of cause and effect.
Parents, who think out loud with their children, will see them develop a similar train of thought. They will learn to talk and think in a more sophisticated way.
If parents express emotions and feelings, their children will learn it's okay to do the same.When your children want to talk or ask questions, encourage them. If you're dismissive, or always say you're too busy, they may express frustration and stop wanting to share their thoughts and feelings.
If the family has a problem that concerns your child, involve them in the discussion. Try to find possible solutions together with him or her.
When discussing options, also talk about consequences. The possible outcome will influence your final decision. Be open to the child's suggestions. Let them take part in the negotiations and the decision.
A child who experiences this kind of communication will become confident and learn the rules of good communication.
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7 Steps to Prayer That Bring Results
If you’ve been praying, but feel your prayers aren’t bringing results, there is an answer. Mark 11:24 says, “You can pray for anything, and if you believe that you’ve received it, it will be yours.” The Bible clearly defines the formula for this kind of successful prayer that is 100 percent effective.
You were meant to live a successful, overcoming Christian life. God has magnificent plans for you. He has set aside an inheritance of abundance for you to enjoy. But God’s will is not automatic. You have a part to play.
If you’re ready to experience a 100 percent success rate in prayer, here are the seven steps to prayer that bring results.
Step No. 1: Base Your Prayers on God’s Word
“This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us. And if we know that he hears us—whatever we ask—we know that we have what we asked of him.” –1 John 5:14-15 (NIV)
The key to seeing the kind of results God wants you to achieve through prayer is not just shooting random arrows in the air, hoping something might happen. James wrote, “You do not have because you do not ask. You ask and do not receive, because you ask amiss” (James 4:3, NKJV). If you want to hit the bulls-eye every time you pray, your prayers must be the Word of God.
You can go boldly to the throne of grace (Hebrews 4:16), by knowing what God’s will is in advance and having it firmly fixed in your heart.
So, the first step to praying prayers that bring results is to locate the promise or promises that fit your situation in the Word of God. Then, an arrow to a bulls-eye, shoot that prayer with boldness and confidence.
This principle works in any area of prayer. Do you need healing in your body? Don’t pray what the doctor says or what religious tradition has taught you. Pray, “By His stripes I am healed” (see 1 Peter 2:24, KJV). Say, “Thank You, Lord, that You’ve provided healing for my body. Help me to receive it now. I thank You and praise You for it!”
Do you have a financial need? Don’t pray your problem—pray the answer! God has said He will provide for you, so pray, “Thank You, God, that You have said You will supply all my need according to Your riches in glory by Christ Jesus. I call in this promise now, in the Name of Jesus” (Philippians 4:19).
When you focus on the answer, it will activate your faith.
For more on effective prayer, try these 3 Prayer Secrets from Gloria Copeland.
Step No. 2: Submerge Your Prayers in Faith
“And whatever things you ask in prayer, believing, you will receive.” –Matthew 21:22 (NKJV)
Once you begin praying God’s Word, the next step in praying effectively is to submerge your prayers in faith. That means you don’t wait for a manifestation to believe you receive—that’s not faith!
This might seem difficult at first, but as you practice applying your faith, it will become a way of life for you. Here are some quick-start tips for adding faith to your prayers.
God’s Word is always true. If He says it’s done—it’s done. So, as you pray, begin to move yourself from believing He can to knowing He will.Start your confession of faith before you see the manifestation of answers to your prayers. Then, hold fast to your confession without wavering. Don’t speak faith one day, then doubt the next. Hold on tightly; don’t let go; and no matter how tempting it might be, speak the Word only about your situation.
When the 10 lepers came to Jesus for healing, He told them to show themselves to the priests, and when they went, they were cleansed. They didn’t stand there and wait for Him to do something. They did exactly what He said do. They acted on His word. That is how you apply faith.
The same was true of the woman with the issue of blood. She acted on her faith when she reached out to touch His robe to take her healing. When faith was applied (acted on), results came.
Kenneth Copeland put these steps into practice when he lost his voice while preaching a long series of meetings in Jamaica. Instead of shutting down the meetings, he took these steps to submerge his prayers in faith.
First, he found the scriptures that promised him healing. Then, he applied his faith. He said, “Lord, if I were to ask my voice if I’m healed, it would say no. If I were to ask the people here if I’m healed, they’d say no.
But I’m not asking my body; I’ve asked Your WORD and I believe I receive it in the Name of Jesus.”
He didn’t see it, he didn’t feel it, but he knew it. He walked right back out to the pulpit and whispered into the microphone, praising God. His voice came back, and he kept right on preaching!Every single time you act in faith with that kind of dogged determination on the Word of God, you will always wind up the winner.
Looking to strengthen your prayer life further? Find 7 Steps to a Deeper Prayer Life here.
Step No. 3: Stop Fear in Its Tracks
“For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war according to the flesh. For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds.” –2 Corinthians 10:3-5 (NKJV)
Satan is a master trickster. But because he doesn’t have any real authority, he has to rely on the same old tactics. Mainly—fear.
Fear is debilitating. It will hinder your belief in God’s Word, it will stop you from receiving, and it will rob you of THE BLESSING. But Satan is wrong 100 percent of the time. Praise the Lord. He always is. He’s never told you the truth yet.
If you want to see results in your prayer life, fear and doubt can no longer be part of your vocabulary.
You don’t always need to say everything you think! And you certainly don’t need to say things you don’t mean. Jesus said, “Let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes’ and your ‘No’ be ‘No’” (Matthew 5:37, WEB).
Anything outside of that stems from evil. Clean up your vocabulary and begin to talk the Word of God.
Refuse to allow doubt and fear to enter into your consciousness. The Bible says you have the ability to do so (2 Corinthians 10:3-5).
You can’t stop the devil from knocking on the door, but you sure don’t have to answer! Brother Hagin said, “I can’t keep the birds from flying over my head, but they sure don’t get to nest in my hair.”Not only Satan, but even people will try to talk you your stand of faith—don’t listen! Say, “I refuse to doubt or fear. I am standing on the truth, and the truth makes me free!”
For more ways to strengthen your faith, try these 3 Ways to Overcome Unbelief.
“Then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have good success.” –Joshua 1:8 (NKJV)
Part of having faith for prayer that brings results is seeing yourself succeeding and taking possession of what you’re believing for. Does this mean you see in the natural? No.
It means you see it with your spiritual eyes. When you can really see it, not just in your mind, but deep down in your spirit, it has become a reality to you—as real as a natural manifestation.
That’s the kind of believing prayer that brings results in the natural.
Dr. Bill Winston said it this way: “God told Abraham, ‘As far as you can see, I’ll give you.’ Until you see it, you’re not entitled to it. Without revelation there is no restoration. You’ve got to see it to have it.”
Part of seeing yourself succeeding is avoiding places, people and situations that talk failure. You can’t be around people who always talk about failing. It will eventually rub off on you.
Decide right now to succeed. Quit planning to fail. Don’t plan for a what-if. Plan for success, plan for victory, plan to receive everything you’re believing God for. Stretch your faith as far as it will go. “I can’t” should not be in your vocabulary.
Watch Gloria Copeland and Pastor George Pearsons, as they expand on this teaching about prayers that bring results.
Step No. 5: Testify That Your Prayer Is Answered
“And they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony.” –Revelation 12:11 (NKJV)
This verse tells us we overcome the plots and plans of the enemy two ways: by the blood of Jesus and by the word of our testimony (speaking it out). Everything you need has been provided by the blood of Jesus, and as a born-again believer, those things are rightfully yours.
But, we do have an enemy who is out to steal, kill and destroy our rights. Jesus already did His part in defeating him, and our part is simple—our words. You’ve taken a lot of steps to get to this point in achieving prayer that brings results. Don’t stop now!
When you testify to answered prayer, you achieve two things:
- You claim what is rightfully yours. You have the right to have anything the sacrifice of Jesus procured. When you testify to that right, it begins to take place in your life.
- Your testimony of faith will encourage others and help build their faith. That’s why Jesus told the man who had been demon-possessed to go home and tell his family everything the Lord had done for him (Mark 5:18-20).
Your testimony is a powerful tool in your prayer life.
Find out How to Meditate on the Word of God here.
Step No. 6: Get Involved Helping Someone Else
“The only thing that counts is faith expressing itself through love.” –Galatians 5:6 (NIV)
So far, we’ve learned that prayer that brings results is fueled by faith. And now, we see that faith works by love.
In other words, if we want our faith to be at a level that will bring results in our prayer life, we’ve got to express that faith through love to others.
Our faith is strengthened as we reach out to others.
True prosperity is the ability to use the power of God to meet the needs of mankind in every realm of life—spirit, soul, body, financially and socially.
Step No. 7: Get on the Giving End“Give, and it will be given to you.” –Luke 6:38 (NIV)
If you want to be on the receiving end of prayer that brings results, start by getting in on the giving end.
What does that mean?
If you need healing, pray for someone else to be healed (James 5:16). The way you measure out is how it will be measured back. The Word says God is Love.
If you need your children to be more involved with God, go witness about salvation to someone else’s child.
If you need more time, give what little you do have and ask God to redeem it for you—He’ll give it back in abundance. Walk in the light you have, and God will give you more.
Jesus said, “give and it will be given to you again.”
God is looking for someone He can use to become a channel of His blessings. The more He gives, the more you give. You can become a rich blessing of giving, not just receiving. If you’ll take the receiving end off your mind, and focus on giving, you’ll be in position for answered prayer.
In conclusion, when you determine to take these seven steps, your prayers will bring results every time. All you have to do is develop the kind of believing faith that receives all that Jesus did for you on the cross. You don’t have to struggle in your prayer closet anymore. Go boldly to the throne of grace!
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Powerful Blessings to Pray Over Your Children
God has given us many tools to a raise our children. One of the most powerful tools is our language. It’s important that when it comes to our children that we use our language for good.
Proverbs 18:21 teaches us, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” Our kind words bring warmth into our relationships with our children; harsh words bring tension and separation.
Positive words build trust and confidence with our children; lies break trust.
There is a season in life when our children depend on us to do everything for them. However, as they transition into adulthood, we must continually release them to the Lord.
This shift in power isn’t always easy and we may overstep our boundaries to do more than we should.
Yet, when we have released our children into God’s hands, we can pray over them in faith, trusting in God to do great work in their lives.
In the midst of our busy lives, we have to ask ourselves: Are we praying for our children? Are we praying, powerful, promise-filed, hope-inspired prayers? Are we praying God’s Word and promises over their lives? We are challenged each and every day to pray more, particularly for those who we care about most. The Enemy is a trickster and he will use any tactic he can to break your family down and destroy your relationships with each other. It’s important that you recognize that there is a battle over families today, and that we should do everything in our power to protect those we hold dear in our lives. Prayer should be your starting place. It is essential that we pray over our children and families, so that we may stay alert, aware and are able to discern God’s voice against any force trying to destroy us. You can begin today by lifting up powerful blessings to pray over your children.
A Prayer for Blessings
A great verse to pray over your children is from Numbers 6:24-26 which says, “The Lord bless you and keep you, the Lord make His face shine upon you and be gracious to you, the Lord turn His face toward you and give you peace.
” The words we use in our child’s life have the power either to bless or curse, to build up others or to tear them down. Sometimes, our words have more power than we realize. The blessings in Numbers 6:24-26 declare that God will “keep” you, be “gracious” to you and give you “peace.
” This means our words for our children can “keep” them – that is reassure, protect and support. Our words can be full of grace, making a situation in their life better than it otherwise would be.
We can accept responsibility for an error we made in a situation with our child, for example, rather than shifting the blame by minimizing our world. Our words can bring peace by restoring relationships when they have been broken. Trust in the power of invoking God’s blessing in your child’s life.
A Prayer for Encouragement
Another great verse to pray over your child if you want to encourage them is Ephesians 4:29 which says, “Do not let any unwholesome talk come your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.
” It’s important that we pray that our language be transformed, that we lift our children up with our language as opposed to tearing them down with our words.
If you turn on any TV show on any night of the week, you not have to watch very long before you hear examples of speech that tears down others. Most of the comedy on TV sitcoms comes from husbands and wives, parents and children, or co-workers putting each other down.
But this is characteristic of our old life, not of our new life in Christ. Rather than using your words to tear your children down, use your words to build them up.
A Prayer to Enlist the Power of the Holy Spirit
If you’re ready to bring blessings into your child’s life, pray that God will give them a spirit of power, love and sound mind. 2 Timothy 1:7 says, “For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline.
” In times of fear, it’s important that your child is ready to stand in power, love and a sound mind under the power of the Holy Spirit. Their faith in God will be strengthened when they overcome the spirit of fear.
When they do this, they will be better armed for spirit attack and find themselves growing into strong warriors for Christ.
A Prayer to Eliminate Anxiety
Next, pray that your child will not be anxious about anything. Philippians 4:6-7 says, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.
And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus” (Philippians 4:6-7). Our children are filled with worries just we are.
They have to deal with everything from peer and social pressure, to bullying, relationship and family problems. They also have to deal with the constant images of crime and unrest flashed on our TV screens daily.We must pray that they will grow in their trust in God to keep them and prepare them for the future. When we teach our children to pray to God regularly with their requests, both small and great, we help them build a stronger faith in God.