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Why Am I Still Single? 7 Things To Consider If You’re Single And Don’t Want To Be

Prayer Singles Who Are Wanting To Be Married

To: Todd Wagner (pastoraloffice@watermark.org)

From: xxxxx

I have question that I’ve been pondering and praying about for a long while now and wanted to know what your views and interpretations of the Bible concerning singleness are?

More specifically, I am a 36 year old single woman who desperately wants to have a life partner in a deeply devoted Christian husband and of course children. I’ve always wanted a big family as I’m an only child to older parents and have a very small family. I always pictured myself getting married and having children, but I question if it’s in the cards for me.

Now, I know that Paul had written about marriage and staying single if it’s at all possible in I Corinthians 7 and I do realize that as a single, I’m able to do many of the things that married people cannot. I have the capacity to put more of myself into service for the Lord, get closer to Him and that my ministry can be much more than if I had a husband and kids.

My question is this: If God has a plan for me NOT to get married, wouldn’t I be wired by Him in a way that being single doesn’t bother me? I heard it preached at my former church singles group that for a very few people…those not meant to be married, that God would instill in them the capacity to not be concerned with whether or not they will get married…that they wouldn’t long for it most of the population does. Do you think that is true? Is it true that if I weren’t meant to be married that God would sustain me and that I would have a peace about it?

I ask because I don’t have a peace about it. I’m also no spring chicken and wrestling with this matter a lot. On top of it all, I don’t think I’ve ever had past a 2nd date with a man. Am I meant to live my life single? Is this addressed in anymore detail within the Bible?

Your feedback concerning this matter would be greatly appreciated. I’m striving to get into the Word, to sit at the feet of Jesus and I know that He’s truly all that I need, but the want for a family can’t be shaken.

Thank you in advance for your counsel,

xxxxx

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From: Todd Wagner

To: xxxxx

XXXXX,

So encouraging to read your email and see you seeking understanding in this as we should in all things. I am sure you have already asked your community group their thoughts and what the Lord has already said to us about these things in His word. (if not I would beg you to stop reading here….see what y’all can come up with on your own and then take a peek at some of my thoughts.

Here are a couple of biblical truths I would share with you on this topic and additionally would love for y’all to meet with Cynthia Culver and let her share with you her own reflection on God’s word related to your question.

1. The Lord does not promise us a removal of all desires that He won’t fully satisfy on earth

He does promise us peace and joy as we abide with Him. Desiring to be married does not mean you will marry anymore that desiring to be healthy (or believing you will be healthy) does not mean you are going to get healthy. It doesn’t hurt, but it doesn’t guarantee.

There are plenty of people who want something God is perfectly okay with who will never receive it. There are plenty of married people that desire to not be married anymore or that desire to feel differently about their spouse that the Lord fully expects to stay right where they are loving, cherishing and honoring Him all the way to the end.

It is a mistake to think the Lord will take away our desires if they are not going to be satisfied.

(Matt 26:39, 2 Cor 12:7-9) It is TRUE and worthy of full acceptance to believe that while the Lord does not always take away desire He does give us the ability, as we abide in Him, to master our flesh, not be ruled by our feelings/desire and to live with joy, peace and fullness of life despite our circumstance. (Phil 4:19)

2. It is always wise to focus on heeding the admonition of Matthew 6:33

In other words, it is always wise to seek the Lord not a man/relationship/wife. You may have heard me say the first thing I tried to teach my little girls is to reject the lie that anyone or anything other than Jesus can satisfy you. Desiring a husband or wife is fine. Seeking one above our pursuit, satisfaction in or intimacy with the Savior is not.

3. There is nothing wrong with desiring to be married if you are single (or having the desire when you are married to periodically wish you were single.)

However, there is something terribly wrong with having our longing for a specific human circumstance/condition cripple our joy or effectiveness where we are. There are millions of people, single and married who long for something different.

What makes God’s people unique among the living is their “peace which passes understanding” (Phil 4:6-7), their ability to be content in every circumstance” (Phil 4:11), their steadfast peace (Isaiah 26:3), their strength to endure what others cannot (Ps 71, verses 1-9 specifically); their confidence that the Lord has not forgotten them and their ability to run and remain faithful when others are weary. (Isaiah 40:27-31). People who praise Him in the storm are heroes of the faith, a great glory to the Father and a source of wonder, light and potential salvation to others.

What else could we want?

4. It is okay that it is hard and it is okay to share with our loving heavenly Father that we long for a different circumstance (Ps 13)

It is not okay to believe our “hard” path gives us the right to surrender or become bitter. It is not okay to feel entitled. One of my favorite sayings is appropriate here, “Worry is believing God is not going to get it right, bitterness and despair is believing God got it wrong. Joy is believing God is sovereign, good, faithful and lovingly and intimately acquainted with your ways.”

It is okay to know that we live in a less then perfect world with less than perfect circumstances. It is not okay to quit fixing our hope on the King or  to stop seeking satisfaction only in Him (Matt 6:32-34; 1 Tim 6:6-8).

5. God does not want us to travel on this journey with unmet desires, “needs”, bad health, or less then perfect circumstances alone

The enemy loves to mock us in our singleness, bad health, bad circumstance, bad marriage, bad boss, injustice, hunger, etc.. (Matt 4:1-3.) God loves to comfort us with His people (Hebrews 3:13, Gal 6:2, 1 Thess 5:14, Romans 12:10-15, Hebrews 10:24-25).

Share with trusted brothers and sisters your pains, hurts, fears and longings. Let them pray for you. Walk with others. Depend on the Lord AND all His means of grace for you. (Matt 26:36-39).

6. This one is delicate. Do you know why you are still single?

TRUE: Some people are single because that is just the way it is today.

ALSO TRUE: Some people are single for other reasons. Some have unrealistic expectations related to a suitable mate.

Note: The 4th person of the Trinity is not on Christian mingle…quit looking for him.

Note: That girl that was discipled by Mother Theresa and turned down the job Heidi Klum got because she had to keep training to defend her Cross fit title and finish her third rewrite of her Old Testament commentary/walkthrough is not at your church or eharmony and she would not be interested in you anyway even if she was, so come back to earth, take a selfie and join the rest of us.

Some people are single because they are not ready to be in a relationship. Part of the means of grace the Lord gives us is friends who tell us the truth.

(Proverbs 27:5-6) Do you know…I mean really know yourself? Are you needy? (that scares everyone) Are you awkward? (that is just awkward) Have you dealt with your hurts, habits, hang-ups? Any relationship is only as healthy as the least healthy person in it.  You might be single because you need to be single.

Radically, relentlessly, daily, biblically deal with your pain, insecurity, anger, hopelessness and neediness. Some people are single and God’s grace is sufficient for them. Some people are single because God is gracious to others. Know which one you are. (Ps 139:23-24).

Pray for friends that will be as honest with you as Simon Cowell was to those who auditioned on American idol, pray for friends who are as gentle with you as a mother is to a nursing babe and pray for friends who persevere with you as much as father would trying to save the life of his child.

  Pray you have these friends…especially ones Simon.

7. Lengthen your patience don’t lower your standards

A bad marriage is infinitely worse than your worst day as a single person. Till death do us part is a long time. (Prov 20:25; Eccl 5:1-2)

I know a lot of people who were sure they wanted/needed nothing more than to get married who quickly realized once married, how wrong they were.

If you want to be rash, impulsive, or move forward without knowledge then don’t be mad at God when you are married without joy. (Prov 19:2-3). Don’t marry anyone who is not already well married to Jesus.

If they are not faithful to Him, they won’t be faithful to you. (2 Cor 6:14)

Praying for you and know I am full of admiration for you if you are one of the Lord’s servants who is seeking Him with all their heart and yet still single for reasons neither your community can figure out.

Ps 84:10-11,

Todd

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15 Nollywood Oldest Singles Approaching and Passing 40!

Prayer Singles Who Are Wanting To Be Married

Most of the times, when we talk about being single, people’s thoughts rush to the ladies only. This time around, we will not spare the guys! We will be looking at both actors and actresses of Nollywood who have refused to find who to tie the knots with.

It is really painful to watch these handsome and beautiful actors and actresses grow old without making families of theirs, seeing how much they’ve contributed to the social and moral development of our society.

But surprisingly, this pain is just the palaver of the society and never theirs. They do not bother an inch about marriage, rather they even regard the people who are disturbed about their status as mere busybodies in other men’s business.

Here are the top 15 Nollywood actors and actresses who we may have to wait till eternity for them to walk down the aisle.

Bimbo Akintola – 45

Bimbo has said time and again that she is not in need of a husband. She has publicly declared that she is single and not searching.

Kalu Ikeagwu – 40+

We can’t really tell what’s stopping Kalu from getting married. He is above 40 and it’s beginning to tell on him. The British-Nigerian actor and writer is pretty successful and has all it takes but is yet to get married.

Ada Ameh – 40+

For the robust and beautiful Ada, she’ll always say, “I’ll get married someday”. Maybe we need to support her claims with serious prayers so that this “someday” doesn’t remain a dream.

Nonso Diobi – 39

Nonso Diobi does not seem to have marriage on his agenda. Despite his family’s desire that he gets married, Nonso is not at all budged.

Rita Dominic – 38

You could hardly tell the age of this evergreen and good statured Nollywood actress. Rita is one of the Nollywood actresses who has maintained a disciplined lifestyle, at least to an extent. We are earnestly hoping that she allows a man to take her down the aisle.

Jim Iyke – 38

Jim Iyke has ever portrayed himself as a playboy. He has engaged in both serious and frivolous relationships which so many people hoped would turn to something meaningful but, never!

Funke Akindele – 38

Funke has made it in the entertainment industry. She is considered one of the most successful and richest actresses, but we’ll be glad to see her find someone she’ll spend the rest of her life with.

Genevieve Nnaji – 36

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It doesn’t look Genevieve will ever agree she’s found the right man. She is always talking about marrying and staying married. She dreads divorce, and who knows when she’ll find this man that she can “stay married” to.

Osita Iheme – 32

Osita Iheme, aka, Pawpaw, frankly confessed that the major problem is that he does not know who to marry. The petite-statured actor is actually searching so I think he shouldn’t have been included in this list, seeing he is even giving marriage a consideration.

Ebube Nwagbo – 32

The innocent-looking Ebube is really advancing in age with only very few noticing it. She seems to be engrossed in her business and career that marriage is not in her plans now.

Benita Nzeribe – 30+

Benita does not agree that she is growing old. She is still spending the time to let every Dick and Harry know that she is still young, maybe younger than her looks. She says she hasn’t found the right man to love and will get married as soon as she finds him, rich or not. But who knows when this will be?

Tonto Dike – 30

The light-skinned and rascally Tonto feels its yet too early to say “I do”. Marriage is not yet on her list of priorities at the moment.

Rukky Sanda – 30

Judging by her beautiful and chubby looks, one could hardly tell that Rukky has clocked 30. She is still enjoying her spinsterhood and does not give a damn to what people are saying about her marital status.

John Njamah

As much as we know, John has no marriage plans at the moment. To tell you how nonchalant he is about this, he is still living in his family house at Festac with his siblings.

Halima Abubakar

Marriage is the last and worst thing Halima ever wants to talk about. In fact, if she has her way, she’ll slap the faces of people who ever attempt bugging her life with the issue of marriage. She feels it’s nobody’s business and therefore she should be allowed.

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Why Does God Wait to Answer Prayer?

Prayer Singles Who Are Wanting To Be Married

Why would God wait to answer our prayers?  Wouldn’t we expect that since God is all-powerful that He would answer immediately?  What is the purpose for God’s delaying our prayer requests?

Outside of God’s Will

One reason that God may not answer our prayers or that He waits is that we are asking for the wrong thing.  We may be asking for something that is not in God’s will for our lives and we might be asking for selfish reasons.

  James, the half-brother of Jesus wrote, “When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures”(James 4:3).

  For example, if we ask for money and we are not already giving to our local church or we have not been helping the poor, why should God give us more money so that we might spend it on ourselves?  Also, we might have the wrong motives in asking for something.

  If we ask for a better job, the job that we think would be better may actually be worse than the job we have now.  God is sovereign and He knows what is best, and holds our best interests in mind for our future (Jer. 29:11).

In the  Lord’s Prayer, we are to ask that His will be done on earth just as it is in heaven (Matt 6:10).   We know that God’s will for believers is to grow in grace and knowledge, so we can ask for spiritual understanding of His Word just before we read the Bible.

  There is confidence in praying when we know His will for out lives as it says in I John 5:14-15, “This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us.

  And if we know that he hears us—whatever we ask—we know that we have what we asked of him.”

We must remember to pray with faith.

Doubt

When we pray, we may have serious doubts about God’s ability or willingness to answer our prayer.

  James 12:6-7 indicates that if we pray in doubt, God will not honor our requests saying, “But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind.

That person should not expect to receive anything from the Lord.”  God may be waiting for us to pray in real faith, in expectation of receiving an answer, or to see if we are serious enough to continue to pray for it.

Sin Stops Prayer From Being Answered

God will not answer the prayer of a believer if they are in a state of perpetual, unrepentant sin (I Pet. 3:12). Psalm 66:18 is clear that “If I had cherished sin in my heart, the Lord would not have listened.

“ If we are obedient, He will hear our prayers (John 15:7) but if we are unforgiving, He will refuse our petitions before His altar (Matt. 18:35).

  Matthew 5:24 is says that when we fail to forgive others, this is cause for a failed request for His help, “leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift.”

Prayer is Answered in God’s Timing

God also expects us to wait patiently on His perfect timing (Psalm 66:18).  In Hebrews 10:36, “For you have need of patience, that, after you have done the will of God, you might receive the promise.

” The minor prophet, Habakkuk speaks for all of us when he grew impatient in waiting for God to answer his request in 1:2, “How long, LORD, must I call for help, but you do not listen?”  I can most certainly identify with Habakkuk in his sentiments.

  Psalm 37 is a great Psalm to read when you are seeking the desires of your heart with the realization that it may take some time. Read these key verses from Psalm 37 on waiting:

7  “Rest before the LORD and wait patiently for him; do not worry when men succeed in their ways, when they carry out their wicked schemes.“

25  “I was young and now I am old, yet I have never seen the righteous forsaken or their children begging bread.”

34  “Wait for the LORD and keep his way. He will exalt you to inherit the land; when the wicked are cut off, you will see it.”

Sometimes the desires of our heart take time.  They do not happen overnight.  God is most often at work when He appears to be the most silent.

  Even though Daniel had to wait three weeks before his prayer was answered, God had actually answered his prayer that very day that he prayed.

  Don’t think that since God does not immediately reveal to you His answer, that He has not answered it  and has not answered it right away.

  Daniel had his prayer answered the very same day of his request but it took three weeks for God’s sovereign timing for it to reach him – and it did at exactly the right time, “Do not be afraid, Daniel. Since the first day that you set your mind to gain understanding and to humble yourself before your God, your words were heard, and I have come in response to them”(10:12).

Stories of Waiting For Prayer To Be Answered

Don’t ever give up on praying.  God shows us that persistence pays off in Luke 18:1-8, “Then Jesus told his disciples a parable to show them that they should always pray and not give up.  He said: “In a certain town there was a judge who neither feared God nor cared what people thought.

  And there was a widow in that town who kept coming to him with the plea, ‘Grant me justice against my adversary.’ “For some time he refused.

But finally he said to himself, ‘Even though I don’t fear God or care what people think, yet because this widow keeps bothering me, I will see that she gets justice, so that she won’t eventually come and attack me!’” And the Lord said, “Listen to what the unjust judge says.

  And will not God bring about justice for his chosen ones, who cry out to him day and night? Will he keep putting them off?  I tell you, he will see that they get justice, and quickly.

However, when the Son of Man comes, will he find faith on the earth?”  The point of this parable is that if we continue steadfastly in prayer God will honor that persistence.  Never give up on praying because God may be waiting to see if it is important enough to us to continue in prayer, day and night, day after day.

I heard the story of a faithful mother who had been praying for 28 years for her son to come to faith in Christ.  Year after year her son was rebellious.  He abused drugs, was in and jail, and showed no signs of ever knowing Christ.

  The days and years dragged on with absolutely no indication that there was anything different in the man‘s life.  Then one day, 28 years after his mother first prayed for him, this man came to a saving faith in Christ.

  Today this man, Terry Williams, uses his testimony to help other prison inmates find their way to a relationship with the only One Who can save: Jesus Christ.

  What if this mother had given up?  What if she decided it was not important enough to keep praying each and every day?  What a difference this mother made in her steadfast prayers due to her undying love for her son.   Today her son is making an eternal difference for others in prison.  This was all due to prayer.  Even though she had to wait

Another article you might be interested in:

Does God Answer The Prayers of Unbelievers?

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Why Christian Singles Are Marrying Later

Prayer Singles Who Are Wanting To Be Married

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We’re back with Francis Chan, who is kind enough to join us today and tomorrow. Francis and his wife Lisa are the authors of the new book, “You and Me Forever: Marriage in Light of Eternity.

” As you know, Francis, men and women are postponing marriage later and later — even among Christians in the church — but they still have the full intent of marriage.

What is this trend doing to the church and what is it doing to the institution of Christian marriage?

The Marriage Bed

I believe that at least 90 percent of those who are postponing marriage are already sleeping together, so they don’t see a big need to rush. There is no sense of “I want to get married to really consummate this.”

I mean, there is so much immorality in the church, and it is disgusting. People need to know that God hates that. Don’t fool yourself by saying, “We are going to get married anyway at some point. We are in love.”

I would respond by saying, “No, you don’t understand. You are a temple of the Holy Spirit. You are a member of Christ and you are joining yourself, basically, to a prostitute. You are entering into a union that God wants nothing to do with.”

This is an immoral practice, and I believe there is more and more of that in the church. It is becoming more and more acceptable. It is still just as heinous in God’s eyes as it has always been. And so don’t fool yourself.

I really do believe that premarital sex is the main reason why people are okay to postpone marriage. Sexually people are exploring and messing around and dishonoring God.

It is destroying the church and its members in so many ways because now they feel guilty. They don’t feel they can be used by the Lord. And, honestly, because of their unrepentant heart, their prayers aren’t being answered.

That is probably not the answer you are looking for.

Ignoring the Mission

The other thing is that some of the postponing of marriage is because people are not seeing a lot of marriages they want to become .

Often you see these singles who are radically on fire for the Lord and serving him, and then they get married. Once people get married either they spend all of their days enjoying each other and neglecting the mission, or they start fighting with each other, and they are in counseling all the time and ignoring the mission.

It doesn’t seem really exciting to either idolize your family to the neglect of the mission, or to be in such a desperate state of just trying to get along that you are not really accomplishing anything for the kingdom. That is another reason.

I don’t want to make it all about immorality, although I do believe that we are not doing so well in the area of purity within the church.

Starting a Marriage and a Church

Talk more about marriage on mission and how old were you when you were married?

I was 26 and Lisa was 22. We were both virgins when we got married.

Two or three weeks into the marriage, I looked at her and I said, “I know we have never talked about this, but suddenly I feel God wants me to start a church.

And this would mean, if it is okay, you work and support us, if that is all right. Because I don’t want to take any money from the church. I don’t even know if anyone is going to show up.”

So that is how our marriage started: “Let’s gather some people in the home. Let’s start the church.” Eventually that became Cornerstone Church, and I ended up shepherding there for seventeen years.

Live as Though You Had None

How would you explain this conviction from Scripture?

I would start in 1 Corinthians 7 and explain from Scripture what Paul is saying about how marriage has the potential of distracting us from this undistracted devotion to the Lord. He tells the married couples, “Hey, those who are married, live as though you are not” (see 1 Corinthians 7:29).

What is he talking about there? Why would the apostle Paul who says, “Husbands, love your wives,” also say, “Hey, those who are married should live as though they are not.”

There is also another truth: there is something bigger than you just enjoying each other. The time is short, and that is why he says: “Those who are married, live as though you are not.” You know, it is just there is something bigger than the two of you.

If you just spend your days enjoying each other, you are going to miss out on something greater. You also don’t want to set that example for your kids. It is also unbiblical.

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Why Get Married? — Is marriage worth the sacrifice? — Marriage

Prayer Singles Who Are Wanting To Be Married

Marriage has been getting a bad rap lately, and it’s entirely unjustified. Decades of studies on human wellbeing provide the same conclusions consistently: By every measure, marriage wins over staying single or living without ceremony with another individual.By every measure, marriage wins over staying single or living without ceremony with another individual.

Married people live longer, stay physically and mentally healthier, are kinder to each other, and are less ly to abuse one another. They experience less physical pain, feel more secure, make more money, retire with more assets, and are more ly to say they are happy with their lives than their cohorts who have stayed formal marriage or been divorced.

Similarly, the children of marriages are healthier, happier, smarter, safer, and contribute more to the rest of society.1

You may find it strange, but living with another individual without the ceremony provides almost none of those advantages. We are homo ritualis, creatures molded by ritual.2

Is Marriage Risky?

Yes, there are risks. Yes, there is commitment. There is no difference between these sacrifices and those we make today to get a solid education, or to retire in comfort.Yes, there are fights, tears and emotional turmoil. Yes, there are sacrifices.

But there is no difference between these sacrifices and those we make today to get a solid education, find a well-paying job, make long-term financial investments and prepare to retire in comfort. No difference, other than that the payoff is so much greater.

As for the risks: as with a home or a car, with proper maintenance and precipitous action those can all be greatly reduced.

Yes, that’s hard work. Everything good is hard work. Good, healthy fun is also hard work. That’s what makes it good—because it’s something you achieved through your persevering, don’t-let-go-don’t-ever-let-go hard work.

So what have we done to marriage? What was wrong with it that we so easily threw it away? Why have so many otherwise intelligent people deliberately attacked and torn apart such a precious institution?

Truthfully, I can only see one cause. Society acts as an organism. When it feels it has lost its viability, it triggers its own demise.

The decline of marriage is the soulless, impotent non-culture of secularism shutting down its mechanisms of reproduction, atomizing into unconnected individuals, preparing the bed of its own extinction.

Without a sense of the transcendental, there is no oxygen left for life to breathe.

As Rabbi Jonathan Sacks put it, “Having children and raising them involves enormous sacrifice . . . religious people understand the concept of sacrifice . . . (but) throughout history, people in a secular, consumerist, individualist culture find it much harder to live by sacrifice.”3

To marry is to have faith in life. To believe that there is purpose to humankind, and eternal meaning to your own existence.4

Marriage on a Higher Plane

The truth is that marriage is much more than a commitment to life with another person.Marriage is a choice to live on a higher plane. It is a choice to live life on a higher plane.

Look at the world around you—a plethora of living beings and things, each traveling its own road in its own direction, each fighting for its own survival, seeking its own pleasure and fulfillment, as though the entire universe is about nothing but this small creature.

If you did not know otherwise, you would expect a universal battle between innumerable forces, a cosmic traffic jam, a cacophony that should last less than a moment before all is destroyed in the havoc.

But you know otherwise.

You have been there as the sun veers further south each morning, the trees shed their summertime attire, the squirrels obsess over hoarding nuts and seeds—indeed, as the entire world turns about in majestic harmony.

And then the autumn winds bring the sleep of winter, winter awakes into the glorious eruption of spring, and the creatures of spring somehow all agree to slide gently into the heat of summer.

All about you the cycle of life plays again and again, the elements of planet Earth miraculously fine-tuned to the orbits of sun and moon, as the organisms that grow, scutter, swim and fly upon this earth dance elegantly to that tune.5

What makes this miracle possible? Something most inexplicable. Embedded within a world defined by diversity and change are universal constants, unchanging over time and space. And to their meter, all of life pulsates in harmony.

Now that is astonishing. The eternal breathes within the temporal, the unchanging within constant change, infinity within the finite. How does this work?

It could only be with a power that transcends all such terms and definitions, neither being nor not-being, but the Creator of all that is transient and all that is constant, finite and infinite, of all the above. In this dance of life, heaven and earth join to touch G‑d.6

The Choice of Marriage

So our world tells its story at the intersection of two themes, and you choose where you wish to live—as yet another competitive organism fighting to survive, to win in a struggle over many other little lives,You can choose to live in that scattered world of the competing organism, or in the wondrousness of eternity. to avoid pain and to attain pleasure, to gasp a breath of air and then begin its journey to decay, as another spark that erupts to glow for a fleeting moment, only to darken, to fall and to perish into the dust.

Or to choose to dwell in the wondrousness of eternity, to join with another who is not you and dance within that circle of sun and earth, day and night, love and awe, summer, autumn, winter and spring again.

To bring yet more life into this world with the awesome power of the Infinite, as a new little person emerges the nothingness to join your circle-dance, and then another, and yet another, and from them others who will beget yet others.

You have risen to the eternal, “as the days of the heavens upon the earth.”7

At a marriage celebration, the kabbalists say, an infinite light descends into the world in an explosion of unbounded joy. From that light comes the power to create life without end.8

That is why marriage must be sanctified. Because only through that sanctification can this union rise beyond the desires and passions of temporal creatures, to enter into the cosmic eternity.

Marriage at the Center of Being

The mystery of marriage runs yet deeper; it lies on yet a higher plane—not only in the circle, but in the point around which that circle turns, and in the dynamo that turns it.

The marriage of man and woman is a reflection of the cosmic marriage.The marriage of man and woman is a reflection of the cosmic marriage.

As a circle is turned by the dynamic of opposite poles engaged in union by a higher force, so the universe is brought into being by its Creator through the union of opposites.

And a marriage, too, is sustained by the dynamics of those very same opposites.

That is why marriage is not about finding one who is the same as you, or even one who is just right for you. Even if by some miracle this person were just right for you when you started, at some point the tectonic plates will shift, even so slightly, and the parts will no longer fit.

And who would want such a union of sameness—one that demands that you remain as you are, ever still, so as not to disturb the perfect-fittedness of this other? You are alive. Life is change. Life is forever being “not that”—ever-transcending, escaping that which you were a moment ago.

Rather, marriage is a union with one who is not you. It is in marriage that you learn to step beyond the cramped boundaries of defined being, to discover your true self that can be neither spoken or known—but only touched, deeply, by the other with whom you unite.

Marriage is the union that lies at the center of all life—the union of energy and matter, time and space, body and soul, heaven and earth, the eternal and the temporal, Creator and the created. It is the generator of life, of being, of existence.

In marriage, man and woman play G‑d. Indeed, when we were created, we were created in G‑d’s image, as it says, “In the image of G‑d, the human being was created”—and what is that image? “Male and female He created them.”9

That is the image of G‑d upon this earth: A man and a woman, two selves, two others, ever-becoming one. Nothing can be more transcendent.

Get married. Stay married. Become eternal.

Источник: https://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/361650/jewish/Why-Get-Married.htm

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