Prayer Of Forgiveness For Abusive Parents

Teaching Kids to Pray for Forgiveness

Prayer Of Forgiveness For Abusive Parents

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“If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.” ~ 1 John 1.9

When I think of forgiveness, I think of the first time when asking for forgiveness made an impact on my life. Do you remember that one life event when you had to ask for forgiveness from a friend or parent? Do you remember how your heart raced, stomach flipped cartwheels, or not knowing how the person would respond when you asked?

I was 16 and I had taken my grandpa’s truck through a ditch. I was messing around driving and yes took a little detour through a ditch. Needless to say I broke the plastic part off the front bumper.

I remember that awful feeling knowing I needed to ask for forgiveness for doing something wrong. I also felt so scared. That was the moment that forgiveness and grace became real to me.

I asked for forgiveness and received unconditional love, forgiveness, and grace that I will never forget.

It is a story that I use with my small group of children to show the importance of asking for forgiveness and how grace is extended.

Share Your Forgiveness Story:

What is your story? What story do you remember that gave you that light bulb moment, “Wow, this is what it means to ask for forgiveness and receive grace?” Share that moment with your students. This can help them identify how they have felt when they have asked for forgiveness. It is also is a great moment to show that through asking for forgiveness there is Grace.

Teaching Children to Pray for Forgiveness:

  1. Make it personal: Share your personal story of asking for forgiveness. It does not have to be anything big. That makes your story age appropriate. Share how you felt, and then share the outcome. Make sure you tell how grace came into play in your story.

  2. Pray with your student: If your student needs help praying for forgiveness for something they have done, pray with them. Lead them by example and show that you are there to help them in their journey.

  3. When praying for forgiveness: A forgiveness prayer is a conversation between them and their heavenly father. Just as if they were talking to their parent or friend they can have a conversation with God.

    No need for fancy words or fear of what to say, be open and honest and tell them what they have done wrong and to ask for forgiveness.

Prepare to Pray!

If you have younger children, you will want to choose one or two verses for them to learn to pray. Think about something your child is struggling with today. Does he need to remember that God sees everything? Maybe she needs to remember that the Almighty loves her.

Do you have older children? Have them read through the following verses and choose one or two.

Click on the image below to print FREE PRAYER CARDS. Choose the age-appropriate printable for your children and print on card stock. Then help your children to figure out how to pray the scriptures.

Verses about Forgiveness:

Look upon my affliction and my trouble, And forgive all my sins. ~ Psalm 25:18

Help us, O God of our salvation, for the glory of Your name; And deliver us and forgive our sins for Your name’s sake. ~ Psalm 79:9

For You, Lord, are good, and ready to forgive, And abundant in lovingkindness to all who call upon You. ~ Psalm 86:5

For if you forgive others for their transgressions, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others, then your Father will not forgive your transgressions. ~ Matthew 6:14-15

Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you. ~ Ephesians 4:32

If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. ~ 1 John 1:9

Now Pray!

Encourage your children to not just read the words, but to pray them.

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{All of these verses link to BibleGateway. If you would rather choose a different version of the scriptures, then click the link and choose the version you want.}


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9 Powerful Catholic Prayers Asking for Forgiveness

Prayer Of Forgiveness For Abusive Parents

As sinners, there are many things that we need to seek forgiveness for. Whether it is a trespass on our fellow man or a violation of the Lord’s commands, these Catholic prayers asking for forgiveness will encourage you to get your heart back in the right place and seek a path of redemption and righteousness.

Prayer #1

Lord Jesus, for too long I’ve kept you my life. I know that I am a sinner and that I cannot save myself. No longer will I close the door when I hear you knocking. By faith I gratefully receive your gift of salvation. I am ready to trust you as my Lord and Savior.

Thank you, Lord Jesus, for coming to earth. I believe you are the Son of God who died on the cross for my sins and rose from the dead on the third day. Thank you for bearing my sins and giving me the gift of eternal life. I believe your words are true.

Come into my heart, Lord Jesus, and be my Savior. Amen.

Prayer #2

Dear Merciful Lord,
Thank you for your gift of forgiveness. Your only Son loved me enough to come to earth and experience the worst pain imaginable so I could be forgiven.

Your mercy flows to me in spite of my faults and failures. Your Word says to “clothe yourselves with love, which binds us all together in perfect harmony.” (Col.

3:14) Help me demonstrate unconditional love today, even to those who hurt me.

I understand that even though I feel scared, my emotions don’t have to control my actions. Father, may Your sweet words saturate my mind and direct my thoughts.

Help me release the hurt and begin to love as Jesus loves. I want to see my offender through my Savior’s eyes. If I can be forgiven, so can he. I understand there are no levels to your love.

We are all your children, and your desire is that none of us should perish.

You teach us to “let the peace that comes from Christ rule in our hearts.” (Col. 3:15) When I forgive in words, allow your Holy Spirit to fill my heart with peace. I pray this peace that only comes from Jesus will rule in my heart, keeping out doubt and questions. And above all, I am thankful.

Not just today, not just this week, but always. Thank you for the reminder, “Always be thankful.” (Col. 3:15) With gratitude, I can draw closer to you and let go of unforgiveness. With gratitude, I can see the person who caused my pain as a child of the Most High God. Loved and accepted.

Help me find the compassion that comes with true forgiveness.

And when I see the person who hurt me, bring this prayer back to my remembrance, so I can take any ungodly thoughts captive and make them obedient to Christ. (2 Cor. 10:5) And may the confidence of Christ in my heart guide me into the freedom of forgiveness. I praise you for the work you are doing in my life, teaching and perfecting my faith. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Prayer #3

Loving Father, hear my prayer as I am now experiencing deep hurts, anger, resentments and bitterness in my heart.

Thank you for the grace you have given me to humbly acknowledge my pain. Touch all the areas of woundedness in my heart and fill it with your love and peace. Change my aching and broken heart with a new heart coming from your Sacred Heart. Because it is only through this that I will receive the grace to forgive even if it is the hardest thing for me to do.

Let me give all this pain and deep hurts to you as an offering of love and give me the grace to see all the blessings that have come from this experience of pain and suffering.

Grant me the virtue of humility to acknowledge my own mistakes
and failures and desire to ask for forgiveness in the future. Only by your grace, your strength and your love can true forgiveness and reconciliation happen.

But I believe that nothing is impossible with you so long as the desire to forgive is there in my heart and people will continue to persevere in prayer for me. Bless me and plant in my heart this desire to forgive and lead me on with patience and perseverance in my healing journey. I believe that in time, true forgiveness will happen.

All these I pray in Jesus’ name through Mary and all the angels and saints. Amen.

Prayer #4

Dear Lord, I thank You for the power of forgiveness, and I choose to forgive everyone who has hurt me. Help me set [name anyone who has offended you] free and release them to You [Romans 12:19].

Help me bless those who have hurt me [Romans 12:14]. Help me walk in righteousness, peace, and joy, demonstrating Your life here on earth.

I choose to be kind and compassionate, forgiving others, just as You forgave me [Ephesians 4:32]. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Prayer #5

Father, today I ask forgiveness of all the negative and harmful words I have spoken about myself. I do not want to abuse myself in such a way again. Transform my thoughts and let me understand how marvelously you made me. Change my habits so I use my tongue to speak hope and favor upon my life. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

Prayer #6

Heavenly father, through the obedience of Jesus, Who offered His Life in the service of all, help me with Your Kindness. Make me strong through the Eucharist. May I put into action the saving Mystery I celebrate in the Mass. Protect me with Your Love and prepare me for eternal happiness.

Prayer #7

Happy those whose offence is forgiven, whose sin is remitted. O happy those to whom the Lord imputes no guilt, in whose spirit is no guile. I kept it secret and my frame was wasted. I groaned all day long, for night and day your hand was heavy upon me. Indeed my strength was dried up as by the summer’s heat.

But now I have acknowledged my sins; my guilt I did not hide, I said: “I will confess my offence to the Lord.” And you, Lord, have forgiven the guilt of my sin. So let faithful men and women pray to you in the time of need. The floods of water may reach high but they shall stand secure. You are my hiding place, O Lord; you save me from distress.

Rejoice, rejoice in the lord, exult, you just! O come, ring out your joy. all you upright of heart.

Prayer #8

O Lord, Jesus Christ, Redeemer and Saviour, forgive my sins, just as You forgave Peter’s denial and those who crucified You. Count not my transgressions, but, rather, my tears of repentance.

Remember not my iniquities, but, more especially, my sorrow for the offenses I have committed against You. I long to be true to Your Word, and pray that You will love me and come to make Your dwelling place within me.

I promise to give You praise and glory in love and in service all the days of my life.

Prayer #9

Father, I know that I have broken your laws and my sins have separated me from you. I am truly sorry, and now I want to turn away from my past sinful life toward you. Please forgive me, and help me avoid sinning again.

I believe that your son, Jesus Christ died for my sins, was resurrected from the dead, is alive, and hears my prayer. I invite Jesus to become the Lord of my life, to rule and reign in my heart from this day forward.

Please send your Holy Spirit to help me obey You, and to do Your will for the rest of my life. In Jesus’ name I pray, Amen.

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Forgiveness Prayer – How We Can All Heal Together

Prayer Of Forgiveness For Abusive Parents

many of us, I tried many methods of forgiveness prayer to heal the deep wounds from childhood, including methods for self-acceptance, controlling behavior and emotions, and coping with stress, as well as numerous spiritual practices and meditations.

While they all had their place and many helped on a surface level, I still felt ruled by a deep inner pain and self-attack, which would easily flip into reactivity and lashing out at others.

While I could hold a nice mental concept of forgiveness for short intervals – a kind of bandaid that helped for a little while – it wasn’t long before the same deep and painful wounds would get triggered again.

I came to realize that whatever is resisted (and therefore unhealed) within us will continue to create scenarios in our relationships, work environment, our bodies, and our entire life experience, which expose our inner wounds again and again, until we can accept them  as they are and bring love to them.

Through the guidance of teachers Adyashanti, Eckhart Tolle, Ramana Maharshi, Bruce Tift, and many others, I’ve learned and practice a far simpler, more direct approach to forgiveness prayer that is acceptance and love. You can find this practice here.

Rather than trying to correct, heal or fix inner wounds, I’ve discovered that peace can only be realized by letting my intense feelings and inner sensations be as they are, bringing love to them, and experiencing them within Conscious Awareness.

This approach is what I call forgiveness prayer, a way of living daily life as a kind of prayer, committed to healing for ourselves, others in our past and present, and ultimately all life.

 You can learn how to do this healing practice here. 


I define prayer as shifting attention to and living from what is divine with us, our Essential Being. This can be called Presence, God, Spirit, The Divine, Awareness, Consciousness, your True Nature, or many other descriptions that point to the truth of our Being.Becoming conscious of the reality of Being is essential for true forgiveness.

We can only truly forgive from what within us is already and always forgiving. From the state of Pure Awareness, forgiveness isn’t even an issue because everything is automatically accepted as it is. It resists nothing, including resistance itself.Consciousness allows the world and all life within it to be as it is. All of it is arising IN Consciousness.

WE are Consciousness.


However, on the human level where we are identified with being a body / mind, forgiveness is the sincere willingness and heartfelt intention to:

  • Allow everything in our experience to be as it is.In doing this, we might still feel called to act in ways to bring about change in our lives and / or in the world.

    By first accepting everything as it is, avenues open up to express our vision for change with love and connection rather than resistance and disharmony.

  • Bring kindness and love to everything arising in Consciousness. This includes:
  • Everything we experience arising within us – thoughts, beliefs, memories, expectations, aversions, habits, emotions, body sensations.
  • All our perceptions of the world and its inhabitants. 
Our thoughts to label anything and anyone we experience with various concepts of “good” or “bad.”

    However, all of these are simply our perceptions and have nothing to do with the Awake Beingness which is all life, including us.

Forgiveness also means that when our wounds get triggered and we forget to practice forgiveness prayer we can bring kindness and love to OURSELVES as well.

Forgiveness prayer takes practice and patience with ourselves. Don’t be hard on yourself if you feel awkward doing this at first, or if you don't remember to do it at all.

In my experience, the pain of holding grudges itself points me back again and again to the forgiveness prayer practices shared here. Pain is a great motivator.Remember, you as a person aren’t what does the forgiveness.

You, Awareness are already doing it. We just have to shift our attention and allegiance there.

Forgiveness Prayer For Ourselves And People In Our Lives Together

In my life, as in the lives of many of you who are reading this, some pretty horrific stuff happened in childhood. I tried everything I could to forgive my parents for all that happened. I finally realized that the way I was trying to do it made it impossible.

As long as I held the belief that what they did was wrong and THEY were wrong, that in itself insured that I couldn’t come to peace with them.

Even when I saw that they were operating from their own wounds, then my emphasis shifted to “LIFE is wrong” which only deepened my suffering.

Thankfully, an intense desire to find love in my heart for myself and all those in my past, a series of realizations allowed me to see my pain and suffering from a different perspective, which began to open the door to a naturally occurring forgiveness prayer.

Pushing against reality creates suffering

I became aware that any time I argue with what was or what is, I suffer.

What was, was. What is, is. Period.

No amount of resistance will ever change the past as it was or the present as it is, including our reactions to the past or present.

Our beliefs create our lives.

In a series of meditations, I saw a past life where many people died as a result of my greed for power. In that lifetime, when I realized what I had done I made a vow to never have power again. I decided I was unpardonably bad and deserved to be punished.

Next, I saw subsequent lifetimes where I was a slave in one, murdered in another, raped, attacked, imprisoned, and etc. in others. The series culminated in the realization that even this lifetime was an outward experience reflecting the inner belief that I was bad and should be punished.

These images clearly showed me that what we hold in our minds to be true (consciously or unconsciously) creates situations that reflect it.

I realized that all of what happened in my childhood as well as every moment since then has reflected and continues to reflect my own beliefs about how I honestly believed / believe I should be treated.

Cause and effect are key factors in how this dream plays out.

Another realization came in the form of a multi-generational image. I looked at how my father’s parents treated him and saw that he treated me the only way he knew how – the same way he was treated. I witnessed the same thing when I looked at my mother and her upbringing.

Then this vision opened up further and I saw my father’s parents’ parents, and ditto on my mother’s side, with all of their hurts being passed down to the next generation. I knew this isn’t just with my family. This is what happens with all life.

This cause and effect dynamic went back in time as far as I could see, a series of dominoes. One “domino” was touched from behind and fell forward, touching the one in front of it, which then leaned into the one in front of it in the same way. On and on it goes.

Why and when did the first “domino” get the impetus to “lean forward” and start the chain reaction of passing on unhealed wounds? I have no idea. But I do know that Consciousness has allowed all of this to be this way or it wouldn’t be happening.

As my perspective moved out from just my personal story, back to the beginning of time, I felt the tight knot of anger, blame, fear, and frustration start to unwind. In my experience this aspect of forgiveness prayer is essential for healing.

As long as we keep our perspective narrowed down to “you did this to me” we can’t truly heal.But seeing it from a wider, more realistic context opens the door to healing.

True forgiveness prayer can’t be accomplished by the mind. It can only occur within the truth of Being

Layering a thought about forgiveness on top of a thought of blame and resentment won’t produce forgiveness. Believe me, I’ve tried.

We can only truly forgive from what within us is ALREADY forgiving.

We must shift attention to the Conscious Awareness within us which isn’t hurt by what happened to us, and has ALREADY accepted what happened with love.

You'll find help with this here.

To experience forgiveness prayer, our emphasis needs to first be taken off the other person(s) involved in our painful situations.

Our first step is to fully accept, allow, and bring kindness to the pain, anger, fear, sadness, and all other intense emotions we experience within ourselves. Until we do that, true forgiveness prayer is impossible.Then, once we’ve attended to our own wounds, we are in a much better position to interact with our loved ones in a less reactive, more open manner.

Forgiveness Prayer For Ourselves And The World As One

In the current climate of political divisiveness in the US and in many areas of our planet, all of our worst character flaws have the potential of being activated.

As long as there is anything unresolved within us, something will manifest “out there” that will uncover and touch into a wound that already exists “in here.”When this happens we actually have a tremendous opportunity for healing and awakening to the truth of Being. 

We can shift our attention away from our thoughts and instead place it on the tight, uncomfortable sensations in the body. Then we can bring a feeling sense of love and kindness to these energies within us, literally being willing to embody the intensity we feel.

Unconsciously, most of us believe these intense inner feelings and energies will overwhelm and maybe even kill us if we let them come up.

They generally originate from a very young time in our lives when some aspect of our behavior wasn’t well received by the adults around us.

An inner intelligence within us finds a way to try to protect us, which in many cases is to try to push the pain down and our Conscious Awareness.

Consequently, these energies become unconscious, but still get triggered in our daily lives.These hurts are here whether we want them to be here or not.

By trying to ignore them or pushing against what or who it is that is triggering them, we actually feed more energy to the pain within.

However, by choosing to allow them to be here (because they ARE here) and finding within us a feeling of kindness toward this young, wounded aspect of ourselves, past hurts within us can gradually, eventually unwind. This page can help you with this.

I also highly recommend Bruce Tift's book, Already Free, which I know you'll find very helpful:

“By training ourselves to remain present with our anxiety [and ALL feelings], we have the opportunity to discover that it’s our avoidance of our core vulnerabilities that gives them the appearance of being a threat; there is nothing inherently harmful in these vulnerabilities themselves.

We begin to live as adults, basing our lives on what is currently true, rather than as if we were children, basing our lives on what used to be true.”

~ Bruce Tift, MA, LMFT, Already Free, pg 186

What Another Person Triggers In Us Was ALREADY Here Within Us

In the unfolding of forgiveness prayer in my own life, I have found it important to investigate within and notice that when I have a strong reaction to a political figure (or anyone for that matter), or to something someone is expressing which I don’t agree with, these hurt and reactive energies were ALREADY in me before this person appeared in my life.

Our adult reactions are often our unconscious strategies which were formed in infancy or childhood to avoid feeling intense emotions which as infants we believe will kill us.

Noticing and investigating this for yourself is a powerful way to open to forgiveness prayer.

Since these reactive hurts are already here in us as adults before we even met the person who triggers them, we can’t honestly make the other person responsible for them.

The responsibility for our own healing (to feel the intense inner feelings we don't want to feel and bring love to them) lies within us.

In the midst of the current political divisiveness in this country, there is a meditation therapy practice I frequently use while I’m watching the news, and many other times during the day, which I find quite healing.

As I said before, even though watching the news and the actions of various folks seems to trigger a reaction in me, they are not the CAUSE of the upset I feel. So I’m using the daily events to evoke wounds that were already within me, so that I can respond to these wounds lovingly within myself.

Want More Help With Forgiveness Prayer?

I highly recommend practicing Meditation Therapy, a variety of do-it-yourself practices which facilitate forgiveness prayer. 

I'd also be happy to support and guide you into knowing yourself as Being and letting suffering unwind on its own in a WellBeing Alignment Session.

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Thank you!  Love and blessings of light, joy, love and healing to you my friend…

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