Prayer For Wives In Their Family Role
Role of Husband in the Bible
Role of the Husband in the Bible – Leader The role of the husband in the Bible starts with leadership. Scripture makes it very clear that a husband must be a leader of his home and have healthy control of his life.
1 Timothy 3, in speaking of two church leadership positions traditionally filled by men, teaches that an Overseer and Deacon must manage their family well.
Verse 5 specifically says, “If anyone does not know how to manage his own family, how can he take care of God’s church?” Furthering this understanding, Ephesians 5:21-24 says, “Submit to one another reverence for Christ. Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.
For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
” Again, in 1 Corinthians 11:3, Scripture says, “But I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.” One of the primary roles of a husband in the Bible, then, is to lead. Leadership simply means influence. Therefore, a biblically-based husband should influence his family.
Husbands are not dictators, they should not demand, they should not rule over their wives. Instead, husbands should influence their wives and families in accordance with biblical teaching. They should exemplify, with their voice and their actions, attributes that bring glory to God and value to their spouse and family. The fruit of a good biblically-based husband is a strong, confident, spiritually mature wife and family.
Two very specific ways a husband influences his home is through his provision and protection.
Role of the Husband in the Bible – Provider and Protector
The role of the husband in the Bible starts with leadership, but encompasses provision and protection. A husband will never influence his wife if he does not care for her.
He can demand and she may follow as a result, but he will never truly have her heart unless he provides for her needs, cares for her well-being, and protects her both physically and spiritually.
For as Scripture says:
- “Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever” (1 Timothy 5:8). “Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them” (Colossians 3:19). “Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers” (1 Peter 3:7).
God loves His daughters and the children they bear. When He gives one of His daughters to a man, He desires that the man cares for her. In no place does Scripture teach or endorse that women and children be considered second rate or inferior to men. Instead, He finds them so precious that He asks for special care to be given them; a care that only biblically-based men can provide. Women are very capable of taking care of themselves. However, God did make men and women different and thus due to the physical nature and strength God gave men, He has charged them with the provision and protection of their families.
The physical nature and strength of a man is to be managed with grace and gentleness. God did not create men to lord over women nor did he create women to simply wait on men. He made them both to complement each other through healthy companionship.
Role of the Husband in the Bible – Companion The role of the husband in the Bible is fulfilled through the heart of companionship.
Ephesians 5:25-33 says, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.
In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church—for we are members of his body. ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.
’ This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” The relationship between a husband and a wife is meant to be one of love, respect, and support. They are to help each other.
This idea is introduced at the beginning of the Bible in the story of the creation of Eve. Adam needed a companion, a suitable helper, yet one could not be found until God created Eve. Genesis 2:20-24 says, “…But for Adam no suitable helper was found.So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said, ‘This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called “woman,” for she was taken man.
’ That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.” This also leads to another understanding of companionship. God created men and women with natural, physical, and emotional differences. Usually where one is weak, the other is strong.
Therefore, a husband and wife can help each other by meeting the other person’s needs through physical and emotional intimacy. 1 Corinthians 7:2-5 addresses this, “But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband.
The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and wise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife.
Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” When the needs of our spouse are properly met through healthy companionship, the two can help each other and can live a successful life together.
Lastly, through their companionship a husband and wife work together as a team to develop and grow a family. God’s plan was that every home operate under the specific roles of both a husband and a wife and that through this they raise healthy children who honor God with their lives. Ephesians 6:1-3 says, “Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.
‘Honor your father and mother’ —which is the first commandment with a promise— ‘so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.’” Children are blessed through the honor of their mother and father working in unison to train them up in the way they should go.
The companionship between a man and a woman is directed by the influence of the husband through his provision and protection and is covered by his caring, gentle, and graceful love for his wife and family. Without the biblical roles of a husband being fulfilled by a strong man of God, the family unit risks the difficulties brought on by sin and spiritual distortion. Satan desires the destruction of the family, but through Christ and proper understanding of biblical roles, the family is a strong and safe place to grow in God.
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Power Of Prayer In Marriage: Prayers Couples Should Say Over Each Other
Several factors have been reputed for their ability to foster intimacy between couples. Some of them include frequent date nights, mutually engaging in a daily activity that both partners enjoy, regular sex, and open communication amongst others.
However, there is one activity that if engaged in regularly, can trump all of the aforementioned and promote love and utter bliss in the home. It is about couples praying for one another.
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Why Prayer Is Important In The Family
There is usually a recital in many Christian homes about the fact that when a family prays together, they will inevitably stay together. This is absolutely true. When couples pray for one another, they access each other’s soul and minister to each other’s specific needs in such a way that they might not be able to do through any other means.
While you may sometimes not be able to comfort each other with mere words, you can pray instead. When you do so for each other, the Holy Spirit, knowing each person's specific needs, will minister to them accordingly.
Again I say to you, if two of you agree on earth about anything they ask, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven (Matt 18:19).
Probably, the best part of praying together as a family is that you can both accomplish more in the place of prayer. There is something about the agreement of the both of you in your closet that makes your request irresistible!
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How Husbands And Wives Should Pray For Each Other
Generally speaking, a husband should pray for his wife while she is physically present as well as during his private prayer time. This is not because either of them has advantages over the other. However, there might be certain things you want to say to the Lord on your spouse's behalf that you might not be comfortable saying when you both pray together.
Besides, when you pray for each other in your privacy, you can do it for longer periods of time and express all your emotions and deep thoughts to God unfettered, without either of you feeling ill at ease.
However, praying for your wife daily with her being present, or she praying for you daily with you present, could create a special bonding moment for you. This is because you can see your partner's heart desires for you expressed in a powerful way to God, who can bring them to pass.
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2 Prayers Husbands Should Say For Their Wives Daily
So as to walk in a manner worthy of the Lord, fully pleasing to him: bearing fruit in every good work and increasing in the knowledge of God (Col 1:10).
Lord, I pray for my wife (slot in the name of your wife here) that she would live a life worthy of you and please you in every way.
I declare that she is fruitful and bearing fruit in every good work as she grows in your knowledge in Jesus name.
Who forgives all your iniquity, who heals all your diseases, who redeems your life from the pit, who crowns you with steadfast love and mercy, who satisfies you with good so that your youth is renewed the eagle's (Psalm 103:3-5).
Father, thank you because you forgave my wife (slot in the name of your wife here) of all sins and healed all her diseases. Therefore, she shall live in health all the days of her life.
Thank you, Lord, for redeeming her from death and crowning her with your love and tender mercies. Lord, I thank you that you fill her life with every good thing in the name of Jesus.
May her youth be continually renewed the eagle's (Amen).
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3 Prayers Wives Should Say For Their Husbands Daily
Honor the Lord with your wealth and with the firstfruits of all your produce (Prov. 3:9).
Father, I pray that my husband (slot in your husband's name) honors you with everything he owns and his entire being. I pray that he continually loves, worships, and adores you as Lord.
May he be guided to lead our family in the things of the Lord in Jesus name. And let his barns burst with your blessings, and his wine vats brim over with your goodness in Jesus name.
Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding (Prov. 3:5).
Lord, I pray that you help my husband (slot in your husband's name) to trust in you completely and not in himself. Help him to put you first in everything he does and in so doing, you will direct his path and crown every one of his efforts with good success in Jesus name.
John Neff / ShutterstockLord, I pray that you will keep my husband (slot in your husband's name) from deliberate sins. Do not let them control him, Lord. Let him be free of guilt and innocent of great sin. And Father, let the words of his mouth and the meditations of his heart be pleasing to you (Amen).
This is by no means an exhaustive list, but a helpful guide to get you started. You can also consider praying specifically for a challenge or difficulty your spouse might be experiencing at the moment.
Bible Verses About Family
In the Bible verses about family that we find throughout the Scripture, the family is often seen together as one unit in blessing, responsibility, and punishment.
Though there are not a lot of quotes that speak of the entire immediate family in one passage, there are some, and they provide quite a bit of insight.
We have done our best to gather 20 of the most relevant family related passages in the biblical text for understanding how God sees the family and what is expected of a family. These Scriptures on family are great for study or reflection.
“Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them. Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord. Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.”[English Standard Version, Colossians 3:18-21]
“but he raises up the needy affliction and makes their families flocks.” [Psalm 107:41]
“And because the midwives feared God, he gave them families.”[Exodus 1:21]
“Let deacons each be the husband of one wife, managing their children and their own households well.”[1 Timothy 3:12]
“For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.”[1 Corinthians 7:14]
“Your wife will be a fruitful vine within your house; your children will be olive shoots around your table.”[Psalm 128:3]
“Meanwhile all Judah stood before the LORD, with their little ones, their wives, and their children” [2 Chronicles 20:13]
“And since he could not pay, his master ordered him to be sold, with his wife and children and all that he had, and payment to be made.” [Matthew 18:25]
“They were enrolled with all their little children, their wives, their sons, and their daughters, the whole assembly, for they were faithful in keeping themselves holy.” [2 Chronicles 31:18]
“And Joshua and all Israel with him took Achan the son of Zerah, and the silver and the cloak and the bar of gold, and his sons and daughters and his oxen and donkeys and sheep and his tent and all that he had.
And they brought them up to the Valley of Achor. And Joshua said, “Why did you bring trouble on us? The LORD brings trouble on you today.” And all Israel stoned him with stones. They burned them with fire and stoned them with stones.
“if anyone is above reproach, the husband of one wife, and his children are believers and not open to the charge of debauchery or insubordination.”[Titus 1:6]
“They must be silenced, since they are upsetting whole families by teaching for shameful gain what they ought not to teach.” [Titus 1:11]
“from whom every family in heaven and on earth is named,” [Ephesians 3:15]
“A devout man who feared God with all his household, gave alms generously to the people, and prayed continually to God.”[Acts 10:2]
“And when the days of the feast had run their course, Job would send and consecrate them, and he would rise early in the morning and offer burnt offerings according to the number of them all. For Job said, It may be that my children have sinned, and cursed God in their hearts. Thus Job did continually.” [Job 1:5]
“To the woman he said, I will surely multiply your pain in childbearing; in pain you shall bring forth children. Your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you.”[Genesis 3:16]
“wise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.” [1 Peter 3:7]
“And they said, Believe in the Lord Jesus, and you will be saved, you and your household. And they spoke the word of the Lord to him and to all who were in his house.
And he took them the same hour of the night and washed their wounds; and he was baptized at once, he and all his family. Then he brought them up into his house and set food before them.
And he rejoiced along with his entire household that he had believed in God.” [Acts 16:31-34]
“She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.” [Proverbs 31:27]
“He must manage his own household well, with all dignity keeping his children submissive, For if someone does not know how to manage his own household, how will he care for God’s church?” [1 Timothy 3:4-5]
What Do these Scriptures teach us about Family?
In these Bible verses about the family, we find that both the family and having children are a blessing from God.
Colossians 3:18-21 is one of my favorite passages because it describes the proper roles of the man, the woman, and the children in the family relationship that we also find reinforced in other scriptures on family.
The man is supposed to love his wife and children with gentleness and kindness, the woman is to submit to the authoritative role of her husband, and the children are to obey their parents. And Job prayed for his children on a regular basis.
When there is a family unit, they are often effected by the actions of the other family members.
Sometimes the whole family is punished for the sins of the father, and an entire unbelieving family can be sanctified and considered clean simply because one of them is a believer.
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Marriage Preparation / Improvement: Roles of Husband and Wife
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Traditionally and Biblically, the roles of husband and wife were fairly well defined. God created men and women different and assigned them different roles.
Modern philosophies, however, pressure modern families to believe these roles will not work in modern society. Indeed, they may not work – if we want to have the kind of families people in the world have. But if our primary goal in marriage is to serve God, then we will find the roles defined in the Bible are the only ones that will work!
Biblical roles require the following:
The Bible teaches wives to submit to their husbands.
Genesis 3:16 – God decreed that the man should rule over his wife. This is neither the invention of men nor the product of evolution. It is a decree of Almighty God.
Ephesians 5:22-24 – The wife should submit to her husband as the church should submit to Christ. And, she must submit in “everything.
” She has no more right to pick and choose which decisions she finds acceptable or reasonable, than the church does regarding Jesus' decisions.
The only exception is if her husband tells her to do something that would be sinful to do; then she “must obey God rather than men” (Acts 5:29).Further, the church should cooperate with Jesus' authority in every way possible, submitting willingly love (John 14:15). wise, the wife should not try to look for loopholes or sneak behind her husband's back or manipulate his decisions by devious means. The command to love her husband (Titus 2:4) should lead her to seek to know his will so she can obey it.
1 Peter 3:1-6 – If her husband is disobedient to God and even if he misuses his authority, even then the wife is not justified in refusing to submit. In fact, this just gives more reason why she should submit, so she can set him a good example. [Cf. Romans 12:17-21.] [See also Colossians 3:18; Titus 2:5; 1 Corinthians 11:3,8-12.]
Ephesians 5:25-29,33 – While the husband is head of the wife, he must also rule with love as Jesus does for the church.
A man who loves his wife will not use his authority just to get his own way and please himself. Instead, he will rule for the good of all (1 Corinthians 13:5). This often requires him to sacrifice his own desires for the good of the group, even as Jesus did in dying for the church.
Further, the husband should make a reasonable effort to consult his wife in decisions that affect her; he should take her will into consideration. God grants the church the right to influence His decisions by our prayers.
For a husband to refuse to do this would be failing to love his wife as himself: you would not people to make major decisions that affect you without your input.
wise, using family funds to do as you please, without careful consideration of the wife's needs and views, is selfish and unloving.
This does not mean the husband always does what the wife wants. He does what he honestly concludes is best; but making good decisions requires a willingness to receive input from those who must follow the decisions.
Again, Jesus acted with love for the church, even when we were in sin (Romans 5:6-10). Therefore, the husband must not be unloving toward his wife, even when she is disrespectful or even sinful. On the contrary, he must seek to put love in the home, even when the wife is unloving, just as Jesus did for the church.
1 Peter 3:7 – The husband should strive to understand the needs of the wife and value her, so that he can make his decisions accordingly.
He should honor her (cf. cherish – Ephesians 5:29). The wife should not to be treated as property or a slave, but as a valued and respected companion.The fact the husband is the leader does not mean the wife is any less valuable or important. In God's plan, value and importance are not determined by authority, but by the service we perform (Matthew 20:20-28).
Men and women were each uniquely created by God to fill the role He planned for them. Though their authority and abilities differ, each is equally valuable and important in his/her role (cf. 1 Corinthians 12:14-22).
Young people, do not marry someone unless you are truly convinced that he/she will practice Biblical roles.
Young lady, God will require you to submit to your husband for the rest of your life, even when you don't his decisions and even if you think he is unreasonable.
The marriage commitment must be to “love, honor, and obey.” Consider that carefully long before you say, “I do.”
Young man, God will require you to love your wife and make decisions for her good without bitterness, even when you think she is not submitting to you properly. When you choose a marriage companion, choose someone whose example and conduct indicates understanding of Bible roles and commitment to follow them.
This is another reason why it is so important to really take your time and be sure you know a person well before you marry.
The Bible often states the husband's responsibility to provide family income.
Genesis 3:17-19 – From the beginning the man was responsible to labor with his hands to provide bread A man who is able to do this but will not, is lazy and foolish (Proverbs 24:30-34). [1 Thessalonians 4:10-12; 2 Thessalonians 3:10]
Ephesians 5:28-31 – The man should labor, not just to provide for himself, but also to “nourish and cherish” his wife as he does his own body. These terms include providing and caring for her, as well as protecting her. (Cf. v23.)
1 Timothy 5:8 – The man who will not provide for his own, especially his own household, is worse than an unbeliever. Yet, all across the country there are men who fail to provide for their families as they ought. Even though they are able-bodied, they live off welfare or off relatives or institutions. Meantime, their families suffer.The Bible is filled with examples of men who were employed in various occupations by which they provided for their families, including occupations that often took them away from their families through the day.
This includes sailors, shepherds, physicians, tax collectors, carpenters, fishermen, preachers, etc.
There is no passage, however, that teaches wives, especially if they are mothers, that they are similarly obligated to leave their families and work to provide income.
Mothers are instructed to be homemakers, managing the home.
Genesis 2:18ff – The wife was created to be a companion and helper to her husband. She finds her fulfillment, not in competing with the husband in his work nor in taking his responsibilities, but in assisting him. [Titus 2:4]
1 Timothy 5:14 – She should manage the household. (Cf. Proverbs 31:27.)
Titus 2:5 – She should be taught by the older women to be a homemaker (NKJV; “worker at home” – ASV).
Psalm 113:9 – She should rejoice and praise God for her role as mother and keeper of a home. Husbands ought to praise their wives for fulfilling this role.
Proverbs 7:11,12 – It is a shame for a woman to gad about instead of staying at home.
John 10:11-14 – Some work cannot be done by one who is simply hired, as well as it can be done by one who has a personal relationship. What is true of caring for mere animals would surely also be true of caring for our family members.
Ladies, no one can love and care for your husbands and your children you can.
Can you hire another woman to fulfill your role as companion to your husband and submit to him in your place? Then why think your can hire a day-care center, babysitter, or other hireling to love and care for your children in your place?
The roles of wife, mother, and homemaker are not the only responsibilities God requires of women.He also requires them to teach His word, be active in the church, care for the needy, visit the sick, and be diligent in prayer and Bible study, etc.
Some of these activities may even briefly take her away from her house. But it should be clear that filling all her God-given roles would constitute a full-time job for any mother.
The Bible simply does not approve of the idea of modern society that family roles are to be shared equally or interchanged or hired out to others. Most of the major problems that exist in modern homes can be traced to a failure of husband, wife, or both to understand and properly fill their God-given role.
There may be circumstances in which the husband or wife is unable to do their work, so their spouse may take the duties of a companion in an emergency circumstance. And wives may find ways to contribute to family income without leaving their children or neglecting their families or their homes.
But the fact remains that God said the man is responsible to be the head of the family and the one to provide the income, and he said that the woman is to be in subjection and is to be the homemaker.
Yet, all across the country there are families in deep trouble because husbands and/or wives neglect their God-given duties because they spend so much time doing things other than what God requires them to do.
Young ladies, make sure you marry a young man who is willing and able to provide for you and the family.
If he doesn't hold down a job or doesn't show clear evidence of being able to provide an adequate living, or if he might encourage or even expect you to work so you cannot stay home and be a mother to your children, you need to resolve this before marriage.And while you should prepare to provide for yourself if you cannot find the right young man to marry, nevertheless you need to organize your education and lifestyle so that, when the right man does come along, you are prepared and willing to be a fulltime homemaker.
Young men, you make sure that the young woman you marry is committed to staying home and being a fulltime mother to your children. If she is career-minded or expects a lifestyle that you can't provide, make a serious effort to resolve this before marriage.
And throughout marriage, avoid making financial commitments that require two incomes. Some couples, early in marriage, develop commitments and attitudes that encourage the wife to continue working outside the home even after the children come. The best way to avoid these problems is to never put yourselves in the situation where you must have two incomes to make ends meet.
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What Is the Role Of A Wife? Bible Definition of A Wife
We live in a time where words are constantly being redefined. One word that has experienced extreme redefinition lately is the word wife. This has led to confusion and an inordinate amount of instability in families. Because of this, it is important to know what is the Biblical definition and role of a wife.
What is the common definition of the word wife?
The word wife is commonly defined as (1): a married woman considered in relation to her husband. This has significant meaning when looking at the Bible definition of a wife.
What is the Bible definition of the word wife?
The first Biblical reference to a wife is found Genesis 2:21-25 when God made a woman from Adam’s rib. Here the concept of a one flesh relationship in marriage is established.
The Hebrew word for wife is “ish-shaw,” which is the feminine form of “ish,” which means husband. Conceptually, as the woman was an extension from the man, the word for wife is also an extension of the word for man.
wise, the English word woman denotes a man with a womb. In the Greek, the word for wife is “gyne,” which is from the root “ginomai.” This is the same root as the word gynecology, which is the study of a woman or female.
It is clear from these words that a wife is a woman. As a woman, God gave her certain roles. We find those roles in Titus 2:3-5, 1 Timothy 5:14; and Proverbs 31:10-31.
What is the role of a wife?
Proverbs 31:10-31 gives four roles for a woman. These roles apply perfectly to the marriage relationship. Many may disagree with these roles, but it is clear that this was God’s plan for wives.
Proverbs 31:10-12 says a woman’s virtue and discretion is priceless (See also 1 Timothy 5:11-14; Titus 2:3-5; 1 Peter 3:1-4). She keeps the secret details of her intimate family life separate from others.
She is devoted to being good her husband and does not gossip to others about him. She shares her heart with him as he does with her.This verbal intimacy and private time develops a deep trust and strengthens their bond to one another.
A wife must be chaste or sexually faithful to her husband and provide for his sexual needs. 1 Corinthians 7:1-5 says that the wife’s body belongs to her husband and that she should not withhold herself from him sexually (1 Corinthians 7:6-9; Matthew 19:1-19).
This is for two reasons: to meet his sexual needs and to protect him from temptation to have a sexual affair. wise, she abstains from things that might lead her to be physically attracted to someone other than her husband.
(For more on this see the article entitled, “What Is The Bible Definition and Explanation Of Fornication?”)
Genesis 1:26-27 says God gave mankind dominion over all living things on the earth, which includes the husband’s dominion over his household (1 Corinthians 1:1-16; 1 Timothy 2:12-14; Ephesians 5:22-32). However, the wife has the role of keeping or managing the household as a sub-dominion.
This requires a wife to submit to her husband’s leadership (Ephesians 5:22), not in a way that is demeaning, but is in synch with supporting one another as believers (Ephesians 5:21). This involves a voluntary placement of her role under the Biblical leadership that her husband exhibits as a servant leader.
(For more on this, see the article, “What Is The Role Of A husband? Bible Definition Of A Husband.”)
Keeping of the home includes normal household duties such as cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, decorating, and managing household affairs in addition to other things. This is not to say that the husband cannot do any of these things and should not help where needed, but God has given this role to the wife.
When a wife keeps a home, it creates an environment to which her husband can come home and share time with his wife. It also creates an environment where children can be raised with structure and order.
This helps establish the family dynamic as one that is devoted to loving and supporting each other and establishing a family way of doing things that is in keeping with God’s charge of how to raise children and run a home (Deuteronomy 6:4-9).
To model Christ as a wife, she must model Christ as a woman (Proverbs 31:10-31).
This is because Christ is the cornerstone and the Word of God is the foundation of all of all that we say and do (Acts 4:9-12; 1 Corinthians 3:9-15; 1 Peter 2:1-8).
When a wife strives to model Christ, she influences her husband with her Godly behavior (Romans 12:18-21; 1 Corinthians 7:13-17; 1 Peter 3:1-6). As she fulfills her role motivated by her love of Christ, she demonstrates reverence for her husband and sets a Christ example for her children.
The wife models the church in the marriage relationship
Ephesians 5:22-32 says that marriage is a model of the relationship between Christ and the church.
This means that a Godly husband must love his wife first (Ephesians 5:25), Christ loved us (the church) first (1 John 4:19).
He seeks to provide for her physical, emotional, and Spiritual needs above his own needs. He does this as a servant leader to inspire his wife, not intimidate her, which leads to conflict.
The wife should seek to encourage and reverence her husband to be more Christ (Ephesians 5:32. Him, serving her husband should be desire to inspire him to be what God has called him to be. As the church is to Christ, so must the wife be to her husband (Ephesians 5:24). With this attitude, the marriage will be fruitful and serve as a model to others of God’s relationship with us.
A wife is a woman who is tasked with the roles of being discrete, chaste, a keeper of the home and Spiritually minded for her husband. She uses the example and inspiration of Jesus Christ to place the needs of her husband above her own in providing for his physical, emotional and Spiritual needs. In doing so, she glorifies God by modeling the relationship between Christ and the church.
Article By Dr. Michael Williams
Dr. Michael L. Williams is a pastor, author, Christian educator and Biblical counselor who has served in ministry since March of 2000. Dr. Mike holds under-graduate through post graduate degrees in Christian Education and formerly worked as a nurse. Dr.
Mike is the Senior Pastor of Selah Mountain Ministries, which he founded in March of 2010 in Albuquerque, New Mexico, USA (selahmountain.org).
In addition to counseling, he teaches how to overcome life issues Biblically on topics such as anger management, marriage, addictions, and other subjects typically referred to as mental illnesses. Dr. Mike is also a writer at What Christians Want To Know. Dr.Mike lives with his wife Pamela Rose and adult daughter Hollie Rose. He and Pamela have other adult children and several grandchildren as well. Learn more about Dr. Mike at his personal ministry web site Wisdom4Today
Resource – Scripture quotations are from The Holy Bible, King James Version. (1) Google. (2014). “Wife”. Retrieved from Google, //www. google. com/?gws_rd=ssl #q=definition+of+wife
Understanding our Roles as Biblical Women
I take my role as a Biblical woman very seriously. I know that the Lord has a plan for my life.
Currently, my primary role is as wife to my husband Jason and future Mommy to the twins preparing to make their way into this world in December.
I am a homemaker. A wife. A mother-to-be. A cook. A cleaner. And perfectly where God wants me to be.
God’s design for womanhood
Do you know how I know this? God told me so in His word. He has left instructions for how He wants us to live. We just have to listen!
And so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled. ~ Titus 2:4-5
God instructs us that we are to love our husbands. We are to love our children! We are to be self-controlled, which means to constantly be striving against sin in our lives and to be pure.
He wants us to be working at home. I know being a stay at home wife and mother is HARD work. It takes constant diligence and work. He instructs us to be kind to our family and to others. This also can sometimes feel a full time job!
And we are to be submissive to our husbands. Plain and simple, God has laid this out in His word.
Just from these two simple verses we can glean all of that. Other Bible verses such as 1 Peter 3:1-4 and 1 Timothy 2:9-10 can help us to further understand our roles.
But we will never know what our Biblical roles are as women if we don’t STUDY! There are some excellent Biblical resources out there to help us understand our roles.
5 Resources to Help Understand Our Roles
This is hands down, my favorite book on Biblical womanhood. I have read it through twice and plan to do so many more times in my life.
It walks you through verse by verse on what it means to be a Biblical wife, mother, and sister in Christ. Peace gives so many real life examples and it is so easy to learn from her humble writing.
An excellent companion guide was also written for men and my husband and I HIGHLY recommend it: The Exemplary Husband.
2) Radical Womanhood: Feminine Faith in a Feminist World by Carolyn McCulley
McCulley writes from a the perspective of one who was caught up in the Feminist world for many years. She shares her experiences and her thoughts on Radical Womanhood within a Feminist world.
She presents many of the dangerous feminist ideas and thinking that have crept into our church today and taken hold of women’s hearts. A wonderful study on what it really means to be a Biblical woman!
3) Feminine Appeal: Seven Virtues of a Godly Wife and Mother by Carolyn Mahaney
Mahaney takes 7 virtues found in Titus 2 and applies them to our lives and wives, mothers, and women of God. She is so humble with real experiences in her life.
She is open and honest about the reality of having to ask for help when you have little kids. She presents the Titus 2 model in a way that we can really identify with and grow towards.
4) Disciplines of a Godly Woman by Barbara Hughes
My sisters and I are currently going through this book together. It’s a wonderful general overview of our lives as Godly women. It has sections on submission and joyfully serving. I highly recommend this study for women of any age, regardless of if they are married or not.
They also have a companion guide: Disciples of a Godly Man and a family study: Disciplines of a Godly Family.
5) True Woman 101: Divine Design: An Eight-Week Study on Biblical Womanhood by Mary Kassian and Nancy Leigh Demoss
I have not personally gone through this study yet, although I plan on doing it soon! But I highly respect both Kassian and Demoss. Their perspective on Biblical womanhood is rock solid Biblical.
Intentional By Grace is currently going through the study on their blog. Hop over and catch up in time for the second half of the study!
Of course, none of this takes the place of actual Scripture. Those study tools and Bible studies can help us to better understand the Bible, but they should never take the place of actual study and memorization of His word.
If we want to truly understand what the Lord has to say about our roles as Biblical Women, then we need to head to His word. We need to intentionally study what His word has to say on the subject and hide it in our hearts.
If we have daughters, we are to teach them what it means to be Biblical women. If we have sons, we must instruct them on what to look for in future wives. We must also instruct our own hearts on how to behave and think.Memorizing God’s word on what it means to be Biblical women is vital! When our sons and daughters ask us about the Biblical role of women, will you know what to tell them?
Is is written on your heart in a way that your daily life spells out what a Biblical woman is? I know I need to work on this area and have God’s work close to my heart.
I decided to take up the challenge to memorize God’s word in this area. The Lord has already greatly helped me to battle anxiety through memorizing His word. Now I am deciding to hide His word in my heart concerning what it means to be a Biblical woman.
I am currently memorizing:
- 1 Timothy 2:9-10
- Colossians 3:18-24
- Proverbs 19:14
- Proverbs 18:22
- Ephesians 5:22-24
- 1 Peter 3:1-4
- Titus 2:3-5
- Proverbs 21:9,19
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The second annual Homemaking Ministries Online Conference 2015 pre-registration is now open!! Join us for 12 video sessions, over $200 in bonuses, a beautifully designed home management binder and more. The conference is live October 27-29, 2015 but after the sessions go live, you can watch anytime, anywhere, and on any device! The perfect conference for a busy homemaker on the go.
This year’s theme is The Ministry of Homemaking and we will be exploring topics such as prayer, homemaking schedules and routines, how we can find joy in our homemaking, spiritual disciplines for busy homemakers, and more! Plus, join our exclusive group as we share resources, tips, encouragement, and more. Find out more about the conference and pre-register here.