Prayer For Loneliness In Marriages
Powerful Prayers for Marriage and Restoration [Quotes + Verses]
Do you feel your relationship is in trouble? Perhaps your better half has left, your marriage is on the rocks, or you simply feel place with the person you are with. You value the relationship that you have with your husband or wife, and you honor and respect the vows that you took in front of God and witnesses.
Despite the best of intentions, there are times when even the most perfect relationship has problems and issues. It is common for a member of the relationship to run-away from those problems, or refuse to face them by trying to leave the relationship and the home you’ve made together.
Do not despair, there is hope, you just have to find faith and encouragement from our gracious Lord above.
Prayer can repair the most damaged marriage. The power of God can bring two people, who are intended to be together, back into a love filled marriage. Your union will know the love from the blessings of God if you keep your eyes on Him in all things. Through prayer, anything is possible.
God is all-powerful and all-knowing, He can mend any bridges that may have been burned by conflict, clear away any confusion, and give you the power to forgive when needed most. If your relationship is in need of a blessing and you have nowhere to turn, always consider the power of prayer.
God is always there to listen, and his followers on earth are always ready to assist in having your prayer requests heard.
“And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.” Ephesians 4:32
Prayer for Restoring Marriage
Lord, I come before you today with a heavy heart; my marriage is in grave trouble, and I need Your help and closeness. Please make changes in my spouse's heart. Make us compatible again, and bring us closer together as we were before.
Fill us with Your love and give us the strength to love one another, care for one another, and fulfill your life long wishes for us. Show us the harm caused by careless, uncalled for words, and the pain caused by emotional distance. Heal the division between the two of us.
Make us one again. In Your precious name I pray, amen.
Prayer for a Loving Soulmate
I seek a partner who enhances me by his/her very being.
who brings more love, joy, peace and prosperity to my life, Who I can love fully and who can fully receive my love, Who loves, honors and cherishes me completely, and always.
May my heart be open and my head be clear. May my life be ready to welcome True love. May I be embraced in a circle of your love An uplifted by your grace. And so it is.
Prayer for a Marriage In Need
My heart cries out to You, my Maker of Heaven and of Earth! Please bring healing to our broken hearts, bring restoration to our relationship, ignite lost passion, and inspire forgotten intimacy. Please transform the two of us from the inside out, and lead us in Your way. We trust in you, Precious Jesus. Always. Amen.
Prayer for a Lost Love/Partner
Precious Savior, please pray that my heart's desire be granted, and the return of the love of my life would come to fruition.
I pray that my spouse/partner may have healed his/her wounds from the past, and forgiven all that has gone wrong between the two of us.
Lord, help my lost love be able to follow his/her heart to their desire and love me for me. I ask that we be forever reconciled as one, from this day forward.
Prayer for a Friends’ Troubled Marriage/Relationship
Heavenly Father, I come before you and lay this troubled marriage/relationship in your hands. I ask that you would revive this couple, and draw them toward happiness shared together.
I ask that you would renew their love and passion for one another, and that you would untangle the conflicts and strife that has damaged and angered them towards one another. Please bring understanding and tenderness of heart to both of them.
May they both embrace the miracle that you desire to do for them, and within their spirits. Amen.
Prayer for Financial Peace In Marriage
I lift up my heart to You today, my precious Lord. Please help us to rely on You more in our marriage when it comes to our finances. We can be easily distracted by the amount of money in our bank account, or even by the jobs we currently have.
Help us not to trust in the matter of money itself, but more importantly, trust in Your economy and Your word. May Your Holy Spirit fill us with wisdom in how to manage our finances, give us generous hearts to give to those in need, and teach us to not worry about money so much.
We pray there would be peace in our marriage, especially over finances, at all times, and in all ways. May Your presence keep us grounded, keep us calm, and keep us in Your will always.
Prayer for Clear Communication in Relationships
Lord, I feel my partner and I have had a difficult time clearly communicating with one another lately. We are both lacking in our compassion and understanding towards each other.
I pray we would be better than this, and that You will open our hearts to You. Holy Spirit, please help us be better communicators with each other.
I pray that we would live with understanding for what the other person is going through, and that we are thoughtful in our words and actions. Amen.
Bible Verses about Marriage:
«Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.» Mark 10:9
“Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers a multitude of sins.» 1Peter 4:8
“Enjoy life with your wife, whom you love, all the days of this meaningless life that God has given you under the sun—all your meaningless days. For this is your lot in life and in your toilsome labor under the sun.» Ecclesiastes 9:9
A Hopeful Prayer to Heal Broken Marriages
“Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.” (Ephesians 4:2-3, NIV)
These verses and our marital promises look perfectly applicable and fulfillable in the gold script of our wedding programs and pictures that hold the smiles and love that permeated the day we said, “I do.
” Though no one walks down the aisle intending for it all to fall apart, marriages are shattered daily.
Paul’s advice to the Ephesians is hard to live out in daily life, especially when reality doesn’t align with the pages of marital bliss we read through while planning our futures.
When the bottom falls out, and our trust is wiped off the map of our marriages, these verses look impossibilities and unrealistic expectations. Putting another person in the light of this verse knocks if off-skew.
We were never meant to worship another person, nor seek safety and completion in one. Two become one in marriage, but marriage itself is a reflection of God’s love for His church. His love for us.
Christ in us comes first, and when it doesn’t, the rest of our relationships are set up to derail.
There are no perfect solutions to fix broken marriages. We live in a broken world full of broken people, broken promises, and broken trust. But there is One who can be trusted. One Whose promises are always fulfilled.One who loves us for who we are, right where we are …brokenness and all. In moments of marital agony, heartbreak, and suffering, we are never alone.
One day at a time, one prayer at a time, He will pull us through to the future we cannot see.
Don’t be quick to write the conclusion before He’s finished speaking, and know that even if the worst happens, He is still God. He is still good. And we are still loved.
Trust and Worship God
Sovereign, omnipotent, all-knowing. These are the big and complicated words that describe who You are. Never fully able to grasp how deep and wide and long Your love is for us, we humbly praise You today for who You are.
Whether or not we meet you in moments of clarity or confusion, You are God. You are good. You are sovereign, omnipotent, all-knowing. When the world is unfair to us You are fair to defend us. As we unravel, You rewind the spool.
What we cannot see, You have already gone before and prepared for us.
So good are You God, that even when no words or feelings of joy are flitting to the surface or permeating our minds, the Holy Spirit is faithful to stir in us three words of hope: “Don’t give up.”
Be Honest with God
Father, we understand that we live in a broken world, and sometimes marriage doesn’t flesh out in the way You purposed it to. We fail each other and fail You, so often. But miraculously, You love us no less. You never give up on us.
It’s never too late, even when we feel it’s too late for our marriages. We’re feeling that way, today, Father – it’s too late. We are ready to throw our arms in the air and give up. We feel given up on, misunderstood, and hurt beyond repair.
When trust has been broken into too many pieces to glue back together, how do we come back together?
The hurt and pain in our hearts threatens to squeeze our eyes dry of tears, and the misery of loneliness fills the air even when in good company.
Chipped and stripped, lost and lonely, we revisit our wedding vows and weep for what has been tainted and torn. Peace seems to elude us. Harmony is on the run.
All we have left is to run to Your capable arms and weep at Your feet for what to do next.
Today, we give our marriages to You. Forgive us for putting them and our spouses before You. Forgive us for putting ourselves as well as our desires and plans for the future before You and Yours.Search our hearts, Lord. Convict us and clear out all the hardness and ick that is clogging up the flow of Love in our lives. Reset our relationship with You. Restore our hope in Jesus Christ and open our minds and hearts to the healing truth that only He can rush into our lives in these moments of madness.
Give us the strength to be brave. Replace the fear of what might happen and what the future might hold with Christ-centered courage. We can’t be strong right now. We are broken and barely breathing. But You, the living God, in us, are our strength.
Through the Holy Spirit of the One True God, empower us with humility, gentleness, patience, peace, and unity (Ephesians 4:2-3). Curb our anger from morphing into bitterness and hatred. Forgive us for the times we lose our tempers and our sanity towards our spouse.
Have Faith in God
“Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.” (Ephesians 4:2-3, NIV)
Father, these things in Ephesians seem impossible right now. All of the things these verses say are things we cannot do apart from You. But we vow today, to have faith in You.
We promise to trust You through the brokenness and heartbreak, trusting that it will not last forever.
The process of forgiveness will begin in our hearts this very moment, but we will leave restoration and reconciliation in Your hands.
Take it all – our marriage and our lives. We have come to the end of ourselves and the ability to repair what has been broken in ourselves, our spouses, and our marriages. We are taking a backseat to Your sovereignty. Break it all if you must, in order to restore completely what has been lost. As we walk through the unknown state of our futures, we are believing You for who You say You are.
“‘For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.’” (Jeremiah 29:11-13, NIV)
Come Lord Jesus. Into our lives with miraculous healing.
In Jesus’ Name,
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I Am Lonely In My Marriage — A Devotional
There have been moments in my marriage I have felt utterly alone. Severed and separated from the love I thought was strong enough to outlast anything.
Have you ever thought to yourself, I am lonely in my marriage?
Sometimes marriage can leave us feeling the most isolated and lonely we have ever felt before. Probably because our spouse is supposed to be the closest one to us and when that bond broken it can leave a gaping wound in our hearts. Especially when we still see our spouse day in and day out, a reminder of the agony we are suffering.
Hardships, trials, frustration, bitterness, arguments, financial stress, lack of intimacy and resentment are just a few ways husbands and wives can be pushed into isolation. Sinking into hopeless is a miserable place to be in a relationship, and unfortunately many marriages experience it.
The message I feel encouraged to bring to you today is God loves you! I know that sounds cliche, but listen and truly accept these words, that are not just mine, but inspired by a magnanimous God…“He loves YOU!” He loves you, He cares for you and your marriage, and He wants you to be fulfilled in every way!
“But in all these things we overwhelmingly conquer through Him who loved us. For I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor any other created thing, will be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” – Romans 8:37-39
“The Lord himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.” – Deuteronomy 31:8God has said,“Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” So we say with confidence, “The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. What can mere mortals do to me?” – Hebrews 13:5-6
God will always be there with you! No matter how isolated or lonely you may feel in your marriage, cling to God! Rest in His Word and pray in faith that you will experience restoration in your marriage relationship.
Do you ever get tired of praying for your husband or your marriage?
Some of you may have been in prayer about many things including praying for your husband or seeing change in your marriage, and I feel encouraged to tell you to KEEP PRAYING! Don’t lose hope just because you do not see answers… rather keep praying and petitioning in faith that God is moving!
“Let us not lose heart in doing good, for in due time we will reap if we do not grow weary.” – Galatians 6:9
“See that no one repays another with evil for evil, but always seek after that which is good for one another and for all people. Rejoice always; pray without ceasing; in everything give thanks; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” – 1 Thessalonians 5:15-18
It is God’s will for you to continually pray. Do not let the hardships, the trials, and the negative emotions that rise, keep you from praying or spending time with God. 1 Thessalonians 5 continues in verse 19 by urging:
“Do not quench the Spirit.”
Continue to seek after God daily, whether your husband does or not. Pray for your husband and wait on God. Make sure you are being intentional about growing as a Godly wife and remain in faith, hope and love that your husband will too.
Know that God cares about the transformation of our character! Sometimes we endure really painful seasons so that He can refine us. So ask God how He is refining you!
Has your loneliness ever lead you to thoughts of divorce?
I would to encourage those of you who are in such despair you are contemplating the pros and cons of separating from your husband.
DON’T LEAVE! That option is never easy to even consider… but the reward you will receive by staying is so great! The marriage covenant is too important to God and should be for us as well! Hold fast and hold on tight for as long as you possibly can, in faith!!
*If you are considering leaving your husband due to a life threatening situation such as physical abuse, this is much different than the situations I am referring to above. Please use your judgement and seek professional help.
How can we starve our negative emotions of loneliness in marriage and dwell on the friendship we have with God?
Simply draw near to God. Reinforce your thoughts with God’s thoughts of you found throughout His Holy Word.
Your marriage will experience seasons that are difficult and challenging, but remember these words and trust in God to carry you through…
‘Do not fear, for I am with you; Do not anxiously look about you, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, surely I will help you, surely I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.’ – Isaiah 41:10
Life verses are passages of scripture found in the Bible that capture our attention and feed our soul. They are so comforting, they almost seem tangible. God’s Words are powerful!The Bible is a manual for life. It is full of hope and wisdom that we can glean from. I have experienced the power of God’s Word, how it can transform my perspectives, my character, and my heart. The Bible has changed my life for the better!
Life verses are the scriptures that are life changing. They are the ones you want to memorize because they give peace, strength and confidence. Life verses are the very Word’s of God that mean something very personal to you.
My church shared a sermon series on life verses that inspired me to write this encouraging article for you.
We had the privilege of hearing from different pastors on how they cling to their life verses! Each one explained how God used specific scriptures to carry them through difficult times or how God’s Word ministered to their spirit just when they needed it. Each one was incredibly inspiring to me in different areas of life including marriage and parenting.
I felt called to share with you a few particular life verses for marriage that I hope will empower you in your relationship with your spouse. May you find hope for your marriage and find strength to carry on even through the tough seasons.
1. “Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.” – 1 Peter 4:8
This is a great life verse for marriage because marriage is a union of two sinners.
There will be times that you and your husband will fail each other, mess up, do something hurtful, and times that you will sin.
It is important to remember God’s definition of love and how loving each other deeply can cover those sins and help you reconcile. Knowing this verse will remind you of the power of love!
2. “Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” – Ecclesiastes 4:12
My husband proposed with a ring that had this life verse inscribed on the inside. This verse is incredibly meaningful to both of us.
Understanding that two are better than one, but that two with God is even stronger has saved our marriage multiple times! The three cords represent a husband, a wife, and God.
As the three form a close relationship with each other they cannot be quickly broken. Oh how so many marriages would benefit from clinging to this verse!
3. “Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.” – Ephesians 4:2-3
This life verse is an obviously great reminder for marriage. If a husband and wife are humble, gentle, patient, and selfless, eager to keep the peace in their relationship, there would be a lot less fighting in the world. This verse reminds us to remain calm and do as Jesus would do. Please let these words sink deep into your heart and live it out in your marriage.
4. “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” – Jeremiah 29:11
I have seen this life verse written out on journals, home decor and more. It is highlighted because it reveals the heart of God towards humanity. These words fill our hearts will hope and faithfulness.
Sometimes we want to know all the plans God has for us, but I don’t think we would be able to handle knowing all that He has for us in the future. He is strengthening us each day.
This verse helps me to trust in God and trust in His timing and His plans for my future.
5. “Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” – Mark 10:9
When I married my best friend, we entered into marriage believing divorce would never be an option. Years later came hardships and trials that threatened our relationship and wore us down to the point of pondering divorce.
If it wasn’t for verses such as this, who knows where we would be today. God’s Word saved our marriage and it can save yours too! You and your husband have been joined together.
Don’t let anyone or anything separate your love for each other.
Write these verses on your heart! Memorize and meditate on them daily! In your marriage relationship, talk to each other about these verses often, and encourage each other to trust in these words, while living them out!Sharing life verses and how each verse has impacted someone’s life is extremely encouraging. Hearing stories of how others cling to verses for hope and strength reminds us to trust in God no matter what season of life or marriage we are in; so here are a handful of other women sharing stories of their life verses:
For When You Need To Know The Way To Use Your Words by Jacque Watkins
25 Verses To Pray Over Your Husband by Marquis Clarke
The Other Scriptures About Marital Sex by Hot Holy Humorous
When Doubt Threatens My Marriage by Jen Schwickerath
Striving To Love Without Conditions by Marquis Clarke
That Time My Marriage Was Saved by Sybil
A Positive Life Verse For Young Couples by Tayler Beede
1 Peter 4:8 Transformed My Life, My Marriage by Melissa Hoogenraad
Trusting In God’s Promise For Marriage by Jamie
Anchor Of My Soul by Liss East
Praying Together In Marriage by Meggan Moore
Psalm 37:4 Saved My Marriage From Being Destroyed By An Affair by Shannon Chilson
Marriage Takes Work by Jennifer J. Roos
Here are a few more encouraging life verses for marriage you can check out:
Ephesians 5:21, Matthew 19:4-6, 1 John 4:7-8, 1 Corinthians 13:4-8, Colossians 3:18-19, Proverbs 12:4, 1 Corinthians 7:3
If you have a life verse for marriage please share it in the comments and explain how that verse has helped you through marriage.
Are you married or are you preparing for marriage?
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Cure Loneliness and Be Happier
There are simple and effective ways to cure loneliness, yet loneliness remains a serious problem in today’s world. People are often afraid to seek new friends or don’t know if they can trust strangers. They may not know where to go to find a good friend, or where to turn in time of need. And some individuals may be surrounded by people, yet . . .
they still feel lonely and unfulfilled. It may be a struggle to stop feeling lonely in the midst of a crowd.
Lonely in a crowd? Lonely inside your marriage? Loneliness can be so discouraging, but there is hope.
A Good First Step
A good place to start in your journey to cure loneliness is to understand the reasons for your loneliness and to become fully aware of how loneliness is affecting your life.
Defense mechanisms may prevent people from recognizing just how lonely they feel. And they may be compensating for loneliness in various ways, such as working, drinking, or partying too much, perhaps in an effort to push aside empty or sad feelings.
Or some people may hang out with the wrong friends to deal with their loneliness . . . friends who may be a bad influence, and actually make them lonelier.
Sometimes people deny their loneliness or try to ignore chronic lonely feelings and despair. Also, some folks who have been lonely for a long time feel their loneliness is part of who they are, or may be incurable. Thus, they never really try to cure loneliness.
No matter what your situation may be, here's the good news: you can cure loneliness or make it better with a little consistent effort. No, it’s not as hard to do as you may think. Simply take the right action to create a shift in your thinking. That's how to find happiness, too.
Of course, if a person’s loneliness has led to a depressive condition . . .
. . . he or she may have a hard time trying to break through the barrier of discouragement to explore possible solutions and anecdotes. But it can be done!
In fact, lonely people often battle depression and anxiety, as well.
Get a leg up on loneliness by adopting a fresh perspective
Cure Loneliness Tips that Work
1.Figure out where you can find a few good friends — new friends. Visiting your local watering hole, lounge or bar may not be the best choice. So where can you go?
Reading your local newspaper may be a good place to start, and reveal a different perspective on connecting with others. Even in small town papers, you’ll find articles on community events, and the activities of groups and organizations. If one interests you, make some phone calls and look into it.
Let’s say you love gardening. And you read an article about the local chapter of a gardening club and what they are doing in your area. Call a contact person or representative and ask how you can become involved with the group. Go to their next meeting and meet some people. Go to the meetings and participate in a project.
You’ll meet some mighty fine people, have fun doing work you love and learn more about gardening; plus, you’ll be able to share your gardening wisdom with others . . . all of which will make you feel LESS lonely.If you're struggling with loneliness, I recommend a powerful, one-of-a-kind email course you can take to overcome lonely feelings and get help with anxiety and depression.
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It can give you a fresh perspective that can lead to big changes in your life.
2.Think about ways you can be of service to others in need. By finding a way to help others, your own emotional needs will often be met, and it will help you to cure loneliness in a big way.
When we give of the heart we receive of the heart.
The act of doing a good deed pushes out lonely feelings and opens the door to feeling more connected with others, and engenders a sense of belonging and attachment.
In touching someone’s life, our loneliness dissipates. And our service opens new doors of opportunity and connection.
Do a «random act of kindness» and bake a dozen cookies for your sick neighbor, or offer to take them to town. Find someone in need and be there for them.
You'll feel much less lonely by doing good deeds and putting smiles on face.
3. Another way to cure loneliness is to search the internet for organizations doing good work in your community, or groups devoted to a hobby or interest of yours, get info and go to a meeting.
Get involved in one or two. Offer your expertise or time. You’ll meet lots of good people who are trying to make a difference in the world. And just one new friend may make a difference in your life . . .
and help you to cure loneliness!
For example, Starbucks sponsors a volunteer matching program:
You can make a difference in the lives other by giving of your time, and it will help you to feel more connected, more important and fill you with good, old-fashioned goosebumps.
Teach a class at the local adult education center. Your students and colleagues will form relationships with you. You'll be chipping away at that stubborn loneliness in no time.
4. One of my favorite ways to cure loneliness (one I heartily recommend to my clients) is to go within and consult the wisdom of your body.
You probably have good ideas locked within yourself, just waiting to be uncovered.Perhaps they have been trying to come to your attention through dreams, or day dreams, but you haven’t noticed or you’ve been too busy to follow up on your good ideas.
Sit in the silence and wait for ideas or inspiration to emerge, leading you in the right direction.
Contacting inner resources and accessing the powers within will make you feel less lonely and give you a sense of belonging to something greater than yourself.
Just how do you find the treasure-trove of helpful information hidden within? It’s easier than you might think. Pay attention to your daydreams and fantasies, which can be useful ways of exploring logical opportunities for change. What ideas or notions bubble into awareness?
Tap into your dreams.
Think about how you can cure loneliness before you fall asleep, increasing the lihood you’ll dream about it. Write your dreams down as soon as you awaken. Analyze the symbols to unlock the wisdom of your dreams. Once you've planted the idea in your mind, forget about it and go to sleep.
Brainstorm. Think freely and openly! Brainstorm to find as many good ideas as you can. Select the best to explore further.
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You can do insight meditation, too, a powerful technique for plumbing the depths of your inner mind, and waiting for insight to pop up, not from logical thought but the intuitive part of your brain and body. Sitting in the silence, being at one with the universe or your Higher Power, is a wonderful way of centering yourself . . . and of finding peace in solitude.
Sitting in the silence puts you in touch with your inner resources and strengthens your connections to the universe within and without you. Somehow you never feel alone while meditating, but you feel a great sense of connection to all the world and everyone in it. Amazingly healing, restorative and curative.
SolitudeSome people are afraid of solitude, and avoid spending time alone. They are often prone to co-dependent or addictive relationships. But, spending time in solitude is one of the best ways to not be lonely . . . because solitude connects you to something far greater than yourself, and fills you with a sense of deep, soul-gratifying peace and harmony.
Listening to the silence is a spiritual act that does wonders for your brain, improves your mood and lifts your attitude. A way of attuning your inner being with the celestial.
You feel an inner peace, calm and bliss that decreases depression and anxiety, and helps you to cure loneliness.
If you listen to beautiful, relaxing music, while sitting quietly and meditating upon inspirational words or thoughts, you'll drift away to a special place within — a place where you never feel lonely, but fulfilled in a powerful, but gentle way. You can sit in the silence and court solitude often, and you'll marvel at how it recharges your batteries and makes you feel stronger.
I meditate with music that plays softly in the background, and advice my psychotherapy or coaching clients to do the same. It can help you to get into a calm state of mind, allowing you to enter a state of quiet bliss.
Build a Deeper Relationship with Yourself
Meditating and spending quality time alone, soaking up solitude, may seem scary at first, but it's one of the ways you can build a good relationship with yourself. You'll learn to enjoy spending time alone, especially when you need to get away from the madding crowd or the chaos in your life.
When you are one of your best friends, you can never truly be lonely because you will always have yourself. You can rely upon, confide in and be with yourself.
Read A Good Book
Every good book you read introduces you to new friends and ideas, and takes you on a journey of learning and transformation. Your never alone with a good book in your lap. Reading may be a solitary activity, but your brain lights up and fires away when you read, which makes you feel good.Multiple areas of the brain work together a symphony orchestra making many connections when you read. Reading builds new connections and strengthens the neural pathways of your brain. Talk about stimulating! No wonder reading can be such fun, if you want to go on an adventure that can help you to feel less lonely and more CONNECTED.
Reading can help in your quest to cure loneliness.
5.Take a tip from the happiness literature. The recent research on happiness reveals the secrets of happy people and shows the way to cure the lonely, heavy-hearted blues. The research suggests that the happiest people are those who are outgoing and optimistic types who actively seek to connect with others.
So, why not go out and make good things happen, rather than waiting for good things to come to you?
Anyone can take a tip from the extroverts and develop an action plan to decrease their loneliness. Start with that first step. Make something good happen. Call or visit someone. Get information.
Be bold . . .
Remember to avoid sitting back and feeling defeated. Put a smile on your face and do something different to cure your loneliness.
6. Last but not least is my final suggestion for this article. Take in a decision making partner. Ask a good friend or trusted ally to help you to cure your loneliness.
Talk to your pastor, priest or rabbi, or other spiritual leader, speak to a professional counselor or coach, and take their suggestions seriously.
If you are religious or spiritually oriented, ask your Higher Power for help, and trust in your faith. The help you seek will come to you in one form or another.
Getting counseling and therapy from a licensed therapist may be one of the best ways to get help with loneliness, depression and anxiety. You'll learn more about yourself and get the support you need to make changes and make them stick. Especially if you suffer from an anxiety or depressive disorder.
It pays to shore up your relationships — the ticket to happiness, peace and love
Cure Loneliness: Visualization has been Proven to Work Wonders
The Best News Of All
We’ve come to the end of our article and it’s time for me to reveal the best news of all . . .
What is my terrific news? A secret technique or amazingly magical strategy to cure loneliness?
It’s just a simple word of advice. Believe and Visualize!
Believe you can change and see the changes you want to make and you will find a way to cure your loneliness and be happier than ever. Everyone gets lonely at times. It’s nothing to be ashamed of or to fear.Tell yourself that you can conquer your loneliness, and close your eyes and make a mental movie of your life without loneliness. See yourself acting in new ways.
Imagine that you're able to do anything you want, to make friends and influence people, to find happy, new relationships, etc.
Make your visualization as real and clear as possible. Visualizing what you want is a powerful way to bring it into reality.
Just take your loneliness in stride, avoid negative thinking, and take the right steps . . . simple steps . . . that will result in an improvement of your condition. Plus, don't forget to believe . . . believe and you will achieve!
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Loneliness In Marriage: How To Deal With Feeling Not Cherished?
There is a thin line between being alone and being lonely. And most of us often take the connotation of one for the other. Being alone and isolated can a liberating experience too for many but being lonely is something no one can even desire, especially when feeling so around people or with loneliness in marriage.
We will have to take it with a pinch of salt but it is true that nowadays, in the modern times, our professional responsibilities and a casual lifestyle has left us lonely and deprived in marriage.
Agree or disagree? Even though people make promises to be the partner’s soul-mate for life, the connection fades after a few years of an adventure called as domestic partnership with that legal tag on it and the espoused individuals become just two familiar strangers living together under the same roof, on the same bed, but lacking the warmth; a state of loneliness in marriage.
For many couples, marriage is the very definition of a lifelong companionship and togetherness. But you can also end up feeling lonely in marriage. The factors can be several, and sometimes the couples might not be aware of how things changed between the two in the passage of time. Let us find out how this emotional isolation and loneliness in marriage affects in several ways of life.
Impact Of Loneliness On Our Health
Loneliness is not yet considered as a condition which should be addressed immediately, much less loneliness in marriage, but if we look closely enough we will understand that it needs attention and preventive solutions too.
Being lonely not only takes a toll on our emotional levels, making us feel isolated and depressed, but it also decreases the capacity and functioning of our immune system, increases stress levels and restricts the cardiovascular activities, posing severe health problems.
On the mental front also, it has a very degenerative effect. It puts the individuals at risk of medical conditions such as depression and anxiety issues, panic or paranoia or even leads them towards distorted perceptions of how people feel about them. Self-pity and loss of self-confidence are additional side-effects when you feel lonely and isolated from the rest of the people around you.
The distortion of perceptions, the ruined health conditions as well as the mental trauma you go through brings in negativity in your relationships, making it impossible to nurture them in a positive light.
How Feeling Lonely Impacts Our Relationships
If you feel loneliness in marriage or in any other relationship, you start devaluing that relationship because of your distorted perceptions.
It affects us in ways we start feeling people are not that involved or interested, have changed, become less caring than they used to be and the commitment level may have come down too, which is actually not the case.We start judging the relationship that we are in and the weak links intensify or magnify in our perceptions making us feel it is a futile relationship that has lost its value or charm.
In our defence, and to save ourselves from the hurt, we turn extremely sensitive and hyper alert towards any signs of rejection, even if they are not so, believing that we are no longer accepted in the same way we used to be, further weakening the bond of togetherness. All these thoughts take a toll on our emotional health, and without even our realizing it, we become defensive, turn aloof or isolated and detached and often turn hostile towards the people we love, further damaging the relationship.
Loneliness In Marriage Can Be Poisonous
It is a general belief that marriage can insulate you from the pangs of loneliness as you get a partner for life to share your joys and sorrows and meet the daily struggles of day to day life with a smile. But being married gives you no guarantee that you will not grow disconnected and feel lonely even
when being in a committed relationship that.
Loneliness in marriage will creep in slowly, without you noticing it. And before you could realize what just happened, you will already feel disconnected from your spouse at various levels, such as physical, emotional and mental space.
Symptoms That Point Out You Are Lonely In Marriage
You might not be aware when you are actually falling in trap and getting deeper and deeper into loneliness until it is already too late. If you are feeling alone in marriage, then it holds the same way with your spouse too.
He/she would also be going through the same anguish but not being brave or emotionally strong enough to understand and take control of the situation.
In such cases, you can try and identify these few symptoms listed below to understand your situation better and act upon it before it is too late.
1. There Is No ‘We’ In The Relationship
If you two people do everything individually and there is a lack of ‘we’ conversations but more of “I” or “you” in whatever you two people say, then it is already a huge hint that you people have started on the road of being emotionally disconnected. Once people fall in a routine of jobs and responsibilities, they can hardly get the energy to do something different or the way that can rebuild the bond again.
The isolation and lack of coordination or cooperation indicates that you two are not leading a married life but have already become separate individuals, just sharing the same accommodation and amenities.
If you two do not feel close or connected when conversing in private and there is no feeling of warmth and affection, it is a red alert to act now before loneliness in marriage sets in and you will be drifting apart from each other in a permanent way.
2. Differences In The Basic Values
If you do not share some fundamental or basic values of life with your spouse, you are bound to feel lonely and isolated in the long run.
Physical attraction and sexual intimacy is bound to fade away in a few years, but if there is an absence of a superior connection of the mind, loneliness in marriage begins, on both sides, and it will be hard to put up with the facade of having a successful married life for long.
There needs to be a meeting point of the core values that you two believe in with conviction. If you are always saying the wrong thing at the wrong time to your spouse all the time, then bitterness is bound to arise which will isolate the two of you further.
3. Feelings Of Lack Of Attention By Your Spouse
At some point of time in your marriage, you will feel your spouse is not giving you the attention you deserve.
The hard work that you are putting in be it managing the household or being the bread winner of the family, if you feel that your efforts are not counted, compliments are sparse and infrequent, then you are bound to feel loneliness in marriage, even in a seemingly happy marriage that is perfect in the eyes of the outside world.
But that facade cannot last long and the curtain is bound to fall if you do not take immediate actions to correct the situation. The only way something can be done about it is when you are aware of the impending crisis.
4. Excessive Focus On Parenting
Being a good and focussed parent is the dream and ambition of every parent. As you move forward in your married life, bringing kids in the picture to complete the family portrait is the next step that you take for obvious reasons.
Raising a child takes a lot of efforts and in the initial five to ten years, the focus of both you and your partner can shift from the personal equation you two share towards the upbringing of the children.
For some couples, this can really be a very tricky and taxing stage of married life. You may be missing the love and warmth of your partner whereas they may be busy trying to put their best when it comes to parenting skills.
This lack of understanding and a balancing act can cause issues such as pangs of loneliness which the other may not realize leading to further trouble in paradise.
5. Feel Attracted To People But Later Feel Guilty
If you are not emotionally close to your spouse in a relationship, and the physical intimacy has already faded away, you are bound to feel attracted or inclined to the other sex outside marriage.
If those spells of weak moments fill your heart with a terrible guilt and yet you are not freely able to confess your emotional turmoil to your partner about the same, then the bitterness of being lonely in marriage can bite you harder than you could have possibly imagined.
The additional guilt caused by the feelings of straying away makes it even more difficult to open up with your partner leading to misunderstanding and irreversible differences which are bound to have a negative effect on your married life.
If you are not conscious about these changes in the relationship, it does not mean your partner does also not perceive it.
Being vocal about the issues may be the first step that you can take towards the rectification of the situation of loneliness in marriage.
Ways To Combat Loneliness In Marriage
If you are keen about solving the issue by working together with your spouse, there is nothing that you two cannot do or no problem that you cannot solve.
Taking one little step at a time, you two need to move nearer to each other to bridge the distance and the lack of connection so you both won’t end up feeling loneliness in marriage and despair.
Here are a few things you can do to cement the ever-increasing gap.
1. Find the Root Cause
Instead of focussing on the negative feelings, try and understand where are these feelings coming from and what is the major reason behind them. Once you are able to figure out the root of the problem, then it becomes easier to find a solution to it.
2. Initiate The Conversations
Rather than waiting for your partner to open up and discuss things with you, take the initiative to talk about the increasing loneliness that you both feel in spite of being married. Once you two get into talking about things, the connection will be established again leading to some constructive actions which can build the gap that had formed in all these years.
With the passage of time in marriage, couples often take each other for granted and do not spend enough quality time to keep the flame of love alive. But here you can actually do something about it by making way for shared experiences.
If your partner loves to watch TV at a certain time of the day, join him or her with a bowl of popcorn and just chill out together. Or if there is something that you find doing awesome, call in your partner too to help you do the same.
In this way, you will be spending more time with each other, bridging the gap, right from the beginning, or as soon as you notice loneliness in marriage setting in.
4. Understand Each Other’s Perspective
It is not that you are always right or he/she is always right about something or everything. Acknowledge the different perspectives you can have about the same thing and agree to disagree rather than fighting bitterly over petty issues.
If you are respectful and polite towards each other and value each other’s ideas irrespective of the differences of opinions, then it is sure to harmonize your relationship for the better.
And it’s something you both need to do before loneliness in marriage finds it way.
5. Stop Playing The Blame Game
It is no use blaming your partner or yourself for being lonely in your marriage. It is something which was set in motion by both of you. YOU both have to act on it now and make amends.
6. Explore Your Potential
Instead of depending on your partner solely for your happiness and engagement, try to carve a world of your own too where you can seek joy without depending on anyone else. It becomes too much of burden for your spouse to accommodate all your wishes if you do not have an outlet of your own to find happiness.
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