Prayer For Daughters Future Husband
Praying for Your Future Husband
If you read the Christy Miller series in high school or college, you no doubt were inspired by Christy’s decision to pray for her future husband as she wrote him letters. Many girls started doing this in their own lives, and now there’s a tool to guide young women in this endeavor: Praying for Your Future Husband.
This prayer guide is for young women who want to be intentional about seeking God’s direction for their future.
We asked the book’s authors, Robin Jones Gunn and Tricia Goyer, to share some encouragement to women who are still praying for their future husbands. Keep reading and be reminded that you are being relentlessly pursued by God.
After all, every earthly story of romance is borrowed from the eternal love story between God and His children.
Maybe it was your Sunday School teacher or through the pages of a book that you first heard about praying for your future husband. Maybe you clung to the message and ran with it. Maybe you’ve prayed so many prayers you’re running words. Or perhaps your words have become as route as saying the alphabet.
On the other hand, perhaps you’re still considering if it’s worth praying for your future husband at all. You’ve done so many things to prepare for him. You’ve poured your heart out in so many ways. Part of you worries about being disappointed. Yet is that what prayer is about — a magic elixir for getting what we want when we want? We know it isn’t.
Prayer is an extraordinary mystery.
This sacred privilege of communicating with our heavenly Father is more than a cozy, open invitation to come to Him anytime, anywhere. Even though His ears are open to the cries of His children 24/7, prayer is more than that. Prayer is also an act of obedience. We are exhorted to pray for others and to pray without ceasing.
Neither Tricia nor I pretend to have prayer all figured out. What we do know is that God hears. He sees. He knows us. He cares more than we can ever comprehend. And most important of all, God answers prayer.
Perhaps you’ve noticed that the way God answers prayers often isn’t what we expect. We look back years later and see that what God did was oh so much better than what we first envisioned when we sent our heartfelt requests heavenward. He created us, and He desires the best for us. God always gives His best to those who leave the outcomes with Him.Another, even more amazing mystery is that, when we pray for someone else, we change. All of us were made to be loved, to give and to receive love. When your heart connects through prayer to the One who is the source of true love, you’ll find that praying for your future husband will wondrously result in your heart being changed. And when your heart is changed, your life is transformed.
What sort of changes will God bring about in your future husband’s life as a result of your praying for him now? We don’t know.
As you pray for him, what sort of changes will God initiate in your heart? We don’t know that either.
But we do know one thing:
God proves to be good to the man who passionately waits, to the woman who diligently seeks. It’s a good thing to quietly hope, quietly hope for help from God.
It’s a good thing when you’re young to stick it out through the hard times. When life is heavy and hard to take, go off by yourself. Enter the silence. Bow in prayer.
Don’t ask questions: Wait for hope to appear (Lamentations 3:25-29, The Message).
I love that last line: “Wait for hope to appear.” Isn’t that what you need most when you’re still praying for your future husband, especially when so many of your friends are married and have children?
Perhaps you’ve prayed and prayed, but God hasn’t answered. Your prayers seem bulbs planted in a winter garden. Each time you check for results, all you see is barrenness, debris and frost. You doubt the warmth of your faith when you first planted the prayers in a season of light and hope.
Patience, dear God Lover. Nothing is wrong with your prayers. Leave all of them safely hidden with the Lord. Hold fast to the hope that He has heard and is at work in the garden of your heart.One bright spring morning you will be stunned when you see what God’s resurrection power has done with those requests you buried so long ago.
What is it that the Lord is asking you to work on in your life during this season? Please don’t compromise your standards. Don’t start making excuses to justify why you’re settling for actions or relationships that you know in your heart aren’t what you want your life to be about.
How can you change that destructive behavior today? What are the new choices you need to start making?
Most importantly, be at peace. See this time as an opportunity for God to develop His patience in you. And don’t forget: Love is patient.
Will you get married one day? Statistics say that you will. We all know that staying married is a whole lot more important than just getting married. How you spend this stretch of waiting and allowing God to develop His patience in you will only benefit you during the difficult times that all married couples go through.
And just as there are two people in every marriage, there are two people who are learning patience as they wait for each other. If you’re having a hard time, your future husband most ly will, too. Your prayers will make a difference.
How do I pray for God to develop patience in my future husband?
- Pray he will turn to God and that God’s peace will help him to be inwardly calm and willing to wait.
- Pray he will have a quiet and steady faithfulness to God.
- Pray he will be content in every state he finds himself in.
- Pray his eyes will be focused on things to come, rather than things he wished he had now.
- Pray he will not push for answers before the time is right.
- Pray he will trust God’s sense of timing.
- Pray he will be reminded of all the times God has been patient with him.
- Pray he waits with hope and expectancy.
Of course, as you pray these things for your future husband, be sure to pray the same for yourself. Patience is holding a closed bud of promise in your hand. Imagine that closed, white rose in your mind. Consider allowing each petal to unfold slowly, in its own way.
Can you see the beauty of each stage? Can you see God’s hand wrapped around yours, watching the unfolding with you?
The Love Story
Will your love story come true? For many of you it will. Concerning your future husband it could be in the near(er) future, or some, it could be years in the distance. It could be a quick romance. It could be a slow falling in love. It could be exactly you pictured it or nothing you ever dreamed.
But when the day comes that your story is celebrated by your closest friends and family, you’ll know that every prayer was worth it. And you might even wish you’d prayed more, because prayers are the first gifts you give to your future husband. Gifts that heaven participates in giving.
While we can’t guarantee every one of you will have that type of love story, there is another type we do believe will take place. Everyone, everywhere can have a beautiful love story with her God. It begins the moment you look into His eyes, realize how much you are loved, and give your love and commitment in return.While we cannot guarantee your prayers will lead you down the aisle to a waiting mate, we do know that every prayer whispered is precious to God. None of them are wasted. While we hope your prayers for the man of your dreams come true, we know that your prayers bring you closer to the God of your eternity. And seeing the love in His gaze is the most beautiful love story of all.
If you are to be committed to anything, be committed to preparing your heart for God’s — in this way — and in every other aspect of your life. The love you’ll experience will be life-changing, and the celebration in eternity is one to look forward to with all your heart.
Copyright 2011 Tricia Goyer and Robin Jones Gunn. All rights reserved.
10 Verses to Pray for Your Daughter
I have always wanted to be a prayer warrior.
I remember hearing stories of the power of prayer from missionaries that would come to our church growing up, or testimonies of women who prayed for their husbands and children incessantly until they came to know Jesus. I love those stories, and I wanted that – I wanted to make a difference through prayer too.
I wanted to be a praying mother, but after I had my first baby, I struggled with figuring out what to pray for.
Sometimes we feel we aren’t “good” at prayer just because we don’t know where to start.
Thankfully, I read several good books and articles around that time with really helpful lists that gave me some direction during my prayer time.
I read a whole book on praying for my sons, but I was unable to find a good equivalent book for girls.
(Somebody, please write that book!) So many prayers for our children can be prayed for both boys and girls, and a few of these can as well, but I wanted focus here on some things that I especially hope and pray for my girls as they grow.
Eternal salvation is still the most important thing I pray for all my kids! I want them to recognize what Jesus did in dying on the cross to pay for their sins and rising again. I want them to turn to Him to save them and always remember His love for them.
If you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. For with the heart one believes unto righteousness, and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. — Romans 10:9-10
To Find Her Identity in Christ
As a woman in today’s culture, where we are expected to be able to “do it all”, I have struggled with my identity and purpose and have had to remind myself that I am first a child of God, saved by His grace. I pray that my daughters will always find their identity in Christ and remember that their purpose is to glorify Him.
But you are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, His own special people, that you may proclaim the praises of Him who called you darkness into His marvelous light. — 1 Peter 2:9
To Walk in A Manner Worthy of Her Calling (and to Have a Spirit of Repentance When She Fails)
Along the same lines, I pray my girls keep their ultimate purpose in mind as they live their daily lives, which is to glorify God and point others to Christ. And, when they inevitably stray from what they know is right, I pray that they recognize it and turn back to Jesus in repentance.
I, therefore, the prisoner of the Lord, beseech you to walk worthy of the calling with which you were called, with all lowliness and gentleness, with longsuffering, bearing with one another in love, endeavoring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. — Ephesians 4:1-3
Therefore, having these promises, beloved, let us cleanse ourselves from all filthiness of the flesh and spirit, perfecting holiness in the fear of God. — 2 Corinthians 7:1
To Have a Love for God and His Word
The Bible is God’s written Word to us, and I pray that my girls will have a love for God and His Word, and will turn to the Bible first for their answers.
With my lips I have declared
All the judgments of Your mouth.
I have rejoiced in the way of Your testimonies,
As much as in all riches.
I will meditate on Your precepts,
And contemplate Your ways.
I will delight myself in Your statutes;
I will not forget Your word. — Psalm 119:13-16
Use and Cultivate Their Spiritual Gifts for God’s Glory
I pray that my daughters will recognize their spiritual gifts and talents that the Lord has given them, and use those gifts to bring glory to God.
Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms. — 1 Peter 4:10
To Have a Desire for Wisdom
Proverbs is clear that godly wisdom is to be prized. I want my girls to seek to be biblically wise in all their decisions and interactions.
Wisdom is the principal thing;
Therefore get wisdom.
And in all your getting, get understanding.
Exalt her, and she will promote you;
She will bring you honor, when you embrace her.
She will place on your head an ornament of grace;
A crown of glory she will deliver to you. — Proverbs 4:7-8
Healthy and Godly Relationships with Family and Friends
Healthy relationships play such an important role in every person’s life, and much pain comes when relationships sometimes go bad. I pray for my girls to have and offer the support that comes from God-Honoring friendships and family relationships.
Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace. — Ephesians 4:2-3 (NIV)
Her Future Husband and Marriage
While many women honor God through lives of singleness, and my daughters’ may as well, in all lihood, my girls will someday get married. I want to pray now for their future husbands, and for them as I hope to prepare them for a good marriage.
Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies. — Proverbs 31:10
Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. — Ephesians 5:33
To Value Her Role in the Home and Family
The Bible calls women to be “keepers” of their homes, and I think this can apply whether my daughters are working in the home, the home, married or single. I want my daughters to learn how to manage their home well no matter their situation in life, and to realize how valuable and honorable that role is.
And so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled. — Titus 2:4-5 (ESV)
To Train Their Own Children to Love The Lord
Mothers play a major role in nurturing and raising their children, and they are often the first to teach their children about God. I pray for my daughters as they will hopefully take on that important role someday in their own families.
And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up. — Deuteronomy 6:6-7
I’ve also just started to realize that keeping prayer in the back of my mind helps me to pray for more for my children.
Something that no one tells you is that praying for our kids doesn’t have to happen during a designated prayer time – if I am thinking about something specific for my kids, why not pray about it right now? As I encountered certain verses in my devotion time, or certain life situations that remind me of these things that I want to pray for my kids, I am learning to take a moment right then to pray for my children and cover them in prayer all through our days together.
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What do you pray for your daughters? Here are just a few resources to help moms strengthen a life of prayer and faith themselves…and for their daughters (or sons)!
Prayers for My Future Husband
Welcome to our 14 day journey in “Prayers for our Future Husbands”! We are so excited that you decided to join us for praying for your future husband. This is going to be awesome! And did you know that your future husband needs these prayers? He truly does.
So, of course you can just read these prayers but I would to ask that you also write these prayers out in your own words in your journal, diary, notebook or whatever works for you. Then, after this 14 day journey, you can save those little prayers in a special box or chest.
Then on your wedding day give them to your husband. He can read them whenever he’s having a bad day. He will really love this girls. You can hold onto these prayers forever! But we want them in your own words so that it’s really coming from you and the Lord.
Ok, ready to start?! Great! Thank you again for joining! God bless.
Here are the steps simplified:
Step 1.There are 14 payers for you to pray for your future husband for 14 days.
Step 2.We want you as the reader, to read it,
Step 3.Pray it, and
Step 4. Write/or pray it in your own words.
Step 5. Save all your written prayers for your honeymoon! Give your husband one prayer a day on your special honeymoon, it will make it even more special.
Prayers For Husband | 13 Bible Verses to Pray Over Your Husband
Saying prayers for husband can be a powerful instrument that can guide your man on all areas of his life. For those of us who are believers, we know this to be true: there is power in the Word of God.
We pray because we know we will be guided in dealing with the daily challenges of our lives. We also offer the same prayers for our husbands and other loved ones. Learn these prayers for husbands in this post.
The Power Of Praying
Recently, I was reminded of this when I read an Instagram post that spoke about using the Word of God to pray over our children (stay tuned for that in the coming weeks). I wept when I read those words. Somewhere along the way, I forgot about the power that comes from praying the Word of God for the people I love.
And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose. (Romans 8:28)
And the Lord will make you the head and not the tail; you shall be above only, and not be beneath, if you heed the commandments of the Lord your God, which I command you today, and are careful to observe them. (Deuteronomy 28:13)
For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope. (Jeremiah 29:11)
I was reminded that not only can I look at the Word for direction on how to pray when it comes to my own life and my family as a whole but also for each of the individual members that fill it. It’s not only I can pray for them but also I can pray over them.
My Mom’s Weapon Of Choice
My mother’s email address is armed4warfare. I always cringed when she would give this address to someone. Is the lady at Macy’s going to think she is some militant woman ready to do combat? But, the thing is, my mom made it with spiritual warfare in mind. My mom is a warrior, and God uses her in mighty ways when she goes before Him in prayer. Her weapon of choice? God’s words!
A Deeper Look At God’s Words
And, while the manner in which I pray may be different, God can still use me to bless and minister on my own family. Not only has this encouraged me to step up my prayer game but it also has encouraged me to take a deeper look at God’s word. After stumbling upon a post that shared Bible verses to pray over your husband, I felt compelled to share some of them with you.
I have heard so many women speak to the fact that we are tired of fighting for our marriages and families. We have grown weary, but maybe we are doing it – fighting all wrong? Perhaps our prayers need to change from Lord please help my husband not be so stubborn to Lord please help my husband continue to lead our family, help us to live in a way that will glorify you.
Over the next few weeks, as I take a closer look at the Word particularly when it comes to incorporating scripture into my prayers, I will share Bible verses that we can pray over our husbands, wives, and children. If you know of some additional ones, please leave them in the comments. My prayer is we will see God move in our marriages and our families as a whole as we put Him first and seek Him in all things.
13 Prayers For Husband Bible Verses
Take a look at these 13 Bible verses to pray over your husband:
1. How To Love Your Wife
“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. So, husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church.”
~ Ephesians 5:25-29 (NKJV)
2. Walking In Unity
“I, therefore, the prisoner of the Lord, beseech you to walk worthy of the calling with which you were called, with all lowliness and gentleness, with longsuffering, bearing with one another in love …” ~ Ephesians 4:1-2 (NKJV)
“And this I pray that your love may abound still more and more in knowledge and all discernment, that you may approve the things that are excellent, that you may be sincere and withfense till the day of Christ …” ~ Philippians 1:9-10 (NKJV)
“And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.” ~ Romans 8:28 (NKJV)
“And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.”
~ Ephesians 4:32 (NKJV)
6. Strength And Protection
“The Lord is my strength and my shield. My heart trusted in Him, and I am helped. Therefore, my heart greatly rejoices. And with my song, I will praise Him.” ~ Psalm 28:7 (NKJV)
7. The Company He Keeps
“He who walks with wise men will be wise, but the companion of fools will be destroyed.” ~ Proverbs 13:20 (NKJV)
“No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man, but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it.” ~ 1 Corinthians 10:13 (NKJV)
“Do you see a man who excels in his work? He will stand before kings. He will not stand before unknown men.” ~ Proverbs 22:29 (NKJV)
“Beloved, I pray that you may prosper in all things and be in health, just as your soul prospers.” ~ 3 John 1:2 (NKJV)
11. Fear And Stress
“The Lord is on my side; I will not fear. What can man do to me?” ~ Psalm 118:6 (NKJV)
“The fear of the Lord is the instruction of wisdom, and before honor is humility.” ~ Proverbs 15:33 (NKJV)
“And my God shall supply all your need according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus.” ~ Philippians 4:19 (NKJV)
For more about prayers for husband, watch this video prayer from DailyEffectivePrayer:
Special thanks to my mom and bonus to my dad for helping me find prayers for husband scriptures. These are just a handful of ones we wives can use to help us as we bring our husbands to the Lord in prayer. They will make you feel secure and safe for your husband’s welfare. Start praying for your husband using these verses, and be at ease all the time!
What are some Bible verses you use to pray over your spouse? Share them in the comments section!
Up Next: Bible Verses to Pray Over Your Wives (I’m looking at you husbands!), and later: Bible Verses to Pray Over Your Children
Editor’s Note – This post was originally published on November 11, 2013, and has been updated for quality and relevancy.
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Praying for Your Future Husband5 minute read
It’s not a big secret that I’ve been praying for my future husband for years. That’s one reason why I was thrilled when I was given the opportunity to review a book called Praying for Your Future Husband.
It’s a short, sweet book by Robin Jones Gunn and Tricia Goyer. These two women have prayed for their future husbands and have written books for girls in which the heroines prayed for their future husbands.
Both women have also prayed and are praying, still, for their daughters’ future husbands.
Praying for Your Future Husband is a powerful book that may light a stick of spiritual dynamite under your heart as you read and ponder how you can pray – or pray better – for your future husband.
“When your heart connects through prayers to the One who is the source of true love, you’ll find that praying for your future husband will wondrously result in your heart being changed. And when your heart is changed, your life is transformed.”
(Praying for Your Future Husband)
Praying for Your Future Husband is good – very good.
I think it’s written for teens and I suspect it’s also written for girls who date, but that isn’t a good reason why a twenty-something girl who prefers the idea of courting to dating shouldn’t read the book.Why? Because Robin and Tricia are writing from their hearts and their stories – writing just to encourage the girls of this generation to pray for the guys they’re going to marry. They’re honest. They’re funny. And they’re both convicting and inspiring.
'When your heart is changed, your life is transformed.'
Part of me wishes I’d read this book ten or fifteen years ago and part of me hopes I’ll have a daughter someday and she’ll read it when we’re praying, together, for her future husband. Praying for Your Future Husband is subtitled Preparing Your Heart for His and it’s a lovely touch – the combining of encouragement to pray for that unknown man, and for your own heart.
What girl can’t feel encouraged to pray when she reads a book that prompts her to pray…
- …for His Heart
- …that He Will Be a God Lover (a lover of God)
- …for Patience
- …for Understanding
- …for Trust
- …for Loyalty and Faithfulness
- …for Strength
- …for Protection
- …for Intimacy
- …for “The List” (the list of things a girl wants her future husband to be)
- …for Contentment
- …for Commitment
But Praying for Your Future Husband is more than a prayer list. Each of the items on this “list” is a chapter in the book. Robin and Tricia tell their stories. They invite the reader to draw parallels to her own life. They provide a prayer for a girl to pray for her future husband and another prayer to pray for her own heart. And then they provide a space for personal thoughts and a list of questions to ponder and discuss. There are Bible verses and inspirational quotes sprinkled throughout the chapters. And there are stories – there are lots and lots and lots of stories. They’re all told by a girl – a girl just me (or you) – and they tell how she prayed and God answered her prayers for her future husband in wonderful ways.
Mrs. Gunn and Mrs. Goyer – both happily married for decades – don’t forget to address the issue of singleness. Does praying for my future husband guarantee that he’s out there somewhere? Well, no, Robin and Tricia make it clear that prayer isn’t a way of demanding the things we pray for, but is “an extraordinary mystery”.
One of the stories is narrated by a woman who didn’t marry until she was in her forties.
And another is by a woman in her thirties who dreams of children’s car seats in the back of her car, who shares her heart and her story as she prays for her future husband and…waits. Mrs. Gunn and Mrs.
Goyer encourage their readers to realize that, “He created us, and He desires the best for us. God always gives His best to those who leave the outcomes to Him.”
Secure in that wonderful fact, what can we do, but pray…?
Robin Jones Gunn and Tricia Goyer don’t just tell us to pray, they invite us to pray. They provide a list, at the end of the book, of 52 ways for a girl to pray for her future husband – each one motivated by a Bible verse. And they explore the “why” and the “how” simply, clearly and in such a full-of-faith way that it’s inspiring.
“What sort of changes will God bring about in the life of your future husband as a result of your praying for him now? We don’t know. As you pray for him, what sort of changes will God initiate in your heart? We don’t know that either. But we do know there’s only one way to find out.”
(Praying for Your Future Husband)
Praying for Your Future Husband has renewed my vision to pray for my future husband and I’m sure it’ll do the same for any girl who reads the book.