Prayer For A Christ-Centered Marriage
Keeping Christ at the Center of Your Marriage
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Over the course of our marriage, my husband and I have realized how important it is to keep Christ at the center of our marriage. If we’re close to Christ, our marriage is stronger as a result. When we don’t nurture that primary relationship (us and God), our relationship as husband and wife suffers.
Ecclesiastes 4:12 reminds us:
“Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.”
We are stronger together, as husband and wife. But we are at our strongest when we are interwoven with Christ.
It sounds simple enough, in theory.
But then life enters the equation.
We get busy, we forget, we distract ourselves with less than edifying things. The drift away from our Lord and Savior is usually slow and insidious. Too subtle to even notice at first.
And then the bickering starts. The ungrateful attitudes. The angry words and insults. The silence and hurt feelings.
Unforgiveness. Discontent. Temptation.
And we wonder, “How did this happen? How am I so far from my husband?”
“How am I so far from God?”
The drift is usually passive.
Keeping Christ at the center of your marriage has to be an active choice. It’s a daily commitment to die to self and strive to become more Him in every way.
So what does this look in day to day life?
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Here are some practical ways for you and your husband to keep Christ at the center of your marriage:
Pray together and for each other
Make time for this one, no matter what, every single day. Praying out loud for each other and for your marriage will bond you together. Be thankful, confess areas of weakness, ask the Lord to draw you nearer to Him and nearer to one another. As you open your hearts to the Lord together, you will discover an ever deeper intimacy with your husband.
I’ve found the book The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian to be really helpful in learning how to pray for my husband. She has a chapter dedicated to each of the different areas of marriage, from temptation to your husband’s health.
Some days, I pray through the entire book in one sitting. Other days, I choose one or two prayers that seem the most pressing. I’ve also asked my husband which areas he would me to pray for and then I focus on those.Stormie’s book has helped me to become much more purposeful in my prayer life for my husband.
If you need guidance on how to pray for your husband and marriage, get your copy of The Power of a Praying Wife here. Also, for your hubby, you can check out The Power of a Praying Husband here.
Study the Bible Together
Make time each day to read a verse or a chapter in the Bible together. And don’t just read it and move on. Talk about it.
What did you learn from it? How does it impact your lives? What can you do differently as a result of what you read? If you have kids, let them see you studying the Word together, just the two of you.
And then be sure to do this with them as well. Make Bible study a normal part of family time.
Don’t Waste Precious Time on Unedifying Things
Don’t watch TV shows that are unhealthy. Don’t read romance novels or view pornographic images.
So many things in the media these days will only serve to draw your attention away from Christ (and away from your spouse).
Avoid anything that normalizes, and even glorifies, premarital/extramarital sex, drug use, dishonesty, and anything with nudity. Don’t waste time on negative, hurtful comments on social media.
Instead, Fill Your Day with Edifying Activities
Have a few minutes to read? Instead of scrolling through your social media feed, download a devotional app and read from that. Listen to upbeat Christian music around the house and in the car. If you want to watch a movie, choose a Christian movie or at least one that is family friendly.
I don’t have to tell you how precious each minute of your day is. Make sure you’re using that time to focus on things that nourish your relationship with the Lord rather than draw you away from Him.
Find a Church and Get Rooted in Community
Find a solid Bible-based church home and get involved together! If they have groups that meet in homes (sometimes called House Churches or Life Groups), join one.
Learn what it’s to “do life” with other Christians on a regular basis. Find prayer and accountability partners. Join a Bible study.
If all you do is go to church on Sunday, you are missing out on so many awesome opportunities for growth in your relationship with the Lord!
Getting involved ensures that you and your husband will have a steady stream of accountability, encouragement, and healthy, Christ-centered activity in your life. If you start to pull away from God, odds are someone is going to notice and say, “Hey, is everything okay? Let’s talk.”
Drifting away from God is done much more easily in isolation. Don’t give yourselves that option!
If you get involved in a church, odds are opportunities to serve others will fall into your lap. As a couple (and as a family), there are so many ways to help others! You can collect food and clothing to donate to the needy, serve food at a soup kitchen, volunteer for a renovation project, complete walks/runs for charity organizations, and so many other amazing things!
Serving together allows you to demonstrate the fruits of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23), show Christ- love to others, and to bond together as you glorify Him.
Give Up Your Idols
Often, we think of idols as just being little wooden statues. And we think, okay I don’t have any of those so I don’t have any idols in my life. But, the truth is, an idol can be anything that is not God.
Think of the things that take up the most time in your day or that occupy most of your thoughts. These are the things that you may be idolizing. Money, your job, your spouse, your kids, hobbies, friends.
It could be anything really.
God is very clear about His stance on idol worship:
“You shall have no other gods before me” Exodus 20:3.
“No one can serve two masters” (Matthew 6:24).
So by giving up your idols, does that mean to give away all of your money or leave your spouse and kids?
Of course not.
It simply means to start viewing everything else as secondary to God. When thinking of other things, consider them in the context of what God wants from you and what He wants in your life.
What does God say about stewardship of your money and how can you implement this in your budget? What does the Bible say about marriage and how can you be a more Christ- wife? What is God’s view of hard work and how can you apply that at your job?
View everything in your life through the lens of Christ to ensure that you don’t take on any idols.
You cannot just sit by and hope that Christ will remain at the center of your marriage. As we live in a fallen world, our natural tendency is towards sin. Left to our own devices, that’s where we will end up every single time.
You must actively fight against this if you want to remain close to God and your husband. None of these things are going to happen on their own.
If you think you don’t have time to do these things, consider the amount of time you spend each day on social media. Or texting your friends. Or watching TV.Think about the amount of time spent dealing with the problems in your marriage that result from drifting away from Christ. How much better would it be to invest that time in developing a strong, abiding relationship with Him?
The truth is, we make time for what’s important to us. Make a commitment to actively keep Christ at the center of your marriage every single day!
Now I’d love to hear from you! What do you and your husband do to keep your marriage Christ-centered?
A Sample Christ-centered, Gospel-focused Wedding Sermon and Vows | Prince on Preaching
[All words spoken by the Pastor unless otherwise indicated]
We gather here this evening in the sight of a sovereign God, whom the Bible describes as holy, holy, holy, and in the sight of these assembled witnesses to a ceremony honoring the holy institution of marriage.
Marriage is not the invention of man; it is the invention of God. The purpose of marriage resides within the purpose and plan of God. Your marriage is to honor God because it was created by God and for the glory of God. As in all of life what matters most in marriage is God.
I would also remind those who have been invited here today, that you are not here as spectators but as witnesses.
You have been invited by this couple to witness them be charged and give vows in the sight of God, before you, and before one another.
You have been summoned here to hear vows and you have a responsibility to hold them accountable to those vows. This beautiful wedding party, the guests, and the beauty of this moment is not mere formality and ceremony.
Something fundamental is changing today. We gather for worship because we believe this moment of change has been ordained and designed by God. Joe and Tina, as you hear the charge that you will be given today and make vows know that these witnesses have assembled to hold you accountable.
Joe and Tina stand here today to declare that they believe that it is God’s sovereign and providential will that they commit to one another and become one flesh. They believe that God has directed their steps in such a way to put all of you in their lives and to bring them to one another.
They believe that they gather here today according to the providential will of God.
Joe and Tina, I am honored to be leading this service. We have spent much time in these months leading to today, talking about marriage and working through issues related to your preparation for marriage. I understand that you both have struggles and that you both have incredible strengths.
We have been honest about these things and we have tried to work through them together. I have seen within both of you a desire to submit yourself to the word of God. I have seen within you a desire to change according to the truth of God word and the truth of the gospel.And thus, I am honored to be here today as your pastor, as the one leading this service, but also as your friend.
I have known Joe since he was in High School and you have changed a great deal, most of it is for the good. I have known Tina a short time but it has been a blessing to get to know you. I am thrilled that God has brought you to this moment and that I get to have a part in it.
We live in a world that often ridicules marriage. You will hear people say things to you , “Oh no, your freedom is over now. You are trapped in marriage.” That voice is from Hell itself. Marriage is a gift that brings a new freedom to your life.
A self-centeredness focus on rights and privileges does not bring freedom; it brings bondage.
The Bible says that God gives a woman to a man, to complement him. I stand before you today to give personal testimony that before Judi was in my life, I was not free as I have been since God graciously gave me a wife.
Marriage brings a new liberty according to the wisdom and design of God. What a blessed and glorious reality. You are not perfect and you are not here because you are compatible puzzle pieces that just fit together.
You are people who believe the gospel and have committed your life to the word of God and with that you can live married to the glory of God.
II. GIVING OF THE BRIDE
Dear family and friends we assemble here because of our great love for Joe and Tina in the presence of God to witness the uniting of this couple in the holy institution of marriage. The Word of God tells us,
Genesis 2:21-24, And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam and he slept and He took one of the ribs and closed up the flesh in its place.
Then the rib which the Lord God had taken from man He made into a woman and He brought her to the man. And Adam said, “This is now bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh. She shall be called woman because she was taken man.
” Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife and they shall become one flesh.
I ask, who gives this woman to be married to this man?
Father of the Bride answers: “I do.”
Pray with me. Lord, we thank you that you have brought us here to this moment on this day. We love Joe and Tina and we are excited about you bringing them together.
We pray, Lord, that this covenantal commitment being made today would be one that would honor you and glorify you for their lifetime.
May the gospel be clear in this marriage and may this marriage preach the glorious reality of Christ and the church to anybody who is willing to watch. Oh, Lord, we pray these things in Jesus’ name. Amen.
IV. WEDDING SERMON
Perhaps the most familiar verse in the entire Bible is,
John 3:16: “For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten Son.”
For God so loved, He gave. For God so loved, He self-sacrificed. For God so loved, there was a bloody cross on behalf of guilty sinners.
The Bible describes the Son as the groom, and the church is described as His bride. The Son expresses His love for His bride in self-sacrifice—absolute self-sacrifice, self-sacrifice to the uttermost, love that knows no end, love that goes to a cross and is resurrected.
The church expresses her love to the One that gives everything for her. The bride joyfully submits to her loving head, acknowledging him as her leader and following gladly where He leads. This is the marriage to which all other marriages are to point.
This is the marriage to which your marriage is to point.Joe, I want to say to you today: This is your bride. As her father walked away moments ago, that was no mere formality, and it wasn’t just simply symbolic. Something is changing here today. You have a new responsibility, a responsibility that you have never had before. This is your bride. You are to love her to the point of absolute self-sacrifice.
Your love is to know no end. You are her provider and her protector. Her father has taken care of her and brought her to this point, but he should be able to lay his head on his pillow each night, knowing that you will do whatever it takes to protect Tina and to provide for Tina the rest of your life.
She should be able to sleep with a sense of peace that God has given her a provider and protector.
And Tina, I want to say to you today: This is your husband. No one has forced you to be here. You are to joyfully submit to him, to trust him, to follow his leadership.
You are making a choice today that Joe will be your provider, that Joe will be your protector and you are to love him through submitting to his leadership, supporting him, caring for him, and through being the complement that God has provided him.
I would remind you as well today, when your father walked away, something really changed.
As you look at one another: Joe, this is your bride. Tina, this is your husband. Here and heed the words of God in Ephesians chapter 5, verses 22-32:
Wives, submit to your own husbands as to the Lord, for the husband is the head of the wife as also Christ is the head of the church and He is the Savior of body. Therefore just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.Husbands, love your wives just as Christ also loved the church and gave himself for her that he might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the Word. That he might present her to himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing but that she should be holy and without blemish.
So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh but nourishes it and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church, for we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife and the two shall become one flesh. This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
The marriage between a man and a woman is to be living testimony of the relationship between the Lord Jesus Christ and his chosen people, his bride, whom he purchased with His own blood. The bride of Christ was, specially chosen by the Father, from sinful humanity for the Son. His love for her knows absolutely no end.
Therefore to be unfaithful to this marriage covenant will not just bring shame upon you personally and lead to negative consequences in your life.
To be unfaithful to this marriage covenant will be to lie to the world about Christ and His church. It would be for you to say that Christ is not faithful husband, does not keep His promises, and that the church does not trust Christ.
To walk away from this marriage covenant would be to trample the blood of Christ under your feet.
You are beautifully adorned as a bride today, Tina, may it remind you the reality that the Lord Jesus Christ has clothed his church. He has adorned her in the robes of his righteousness. The bride of Christ had nothing but filthy rags but she is now clothed forever with glorious robes of righteousness.Joe and Tina, your marriage exists because of the gospel, and it must be built upon the gospel. Your marriage is not to say to the world, “Look at a perfect couple.
” But your marriage is to say to the world, “Look at two people who are sinners and are needy of grace, who have found that grace in Jesus Christ.” He is our Lord. He is our Savior. He is our only hope now and forever.
He is the great promise keeper and his promises will all be fulfilled. Every promise in Jesus Christ is “yes” and “amen.”
When you deal with one another in all of you weaknesses and your struggles, may you remember that you yourself are needy of grace and may you show grace to one another. The difficulties you will face in marriage are no reason to walk away.
The more difficult it gets, the more opportunity you have to show love. Remember that Christ died for the ungodly, and the commitment that you make here today is regardless of whether the other person holds up to their end of the commitment.
In Hebrews chapter 13, verses 4 and 5:
Let marriage beheld in honor among all and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral adulteress. Keep your life from the love of money and be content with what you have. For He hath said, I will never leave you nor forsake you.
Joe and Tina; be content with what you have. I want you to know that through all your weaknesses, Jesus Christ is perfectly content with you. Be content with one another. Joe and Tina; do not forsake one another.
The Lord Jesus Christ will never forsake you. Finally let me remind you that in choosing each other, you are choosing never to pursue any other.
You are uniquely God’s gift to one another, to become one flesh, physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
Lord, this charge has been received in the sight of these assembled witnesses and in your sight as well. Lord, I pray that this charge would be lived out for your glory.
Lord, as these vows are made, may it be obvious to all who are gathered here, that these are not just words and that this is not simply religious formality. This is a commitment.
Lord, we pray that these vows will never be broken. In Jesus’ name. Amen.
VI. PRESENTATION OF RINGS AND VOWS
I want to ask you both a very important question.
Joe, Do you totally commit yourself to Tina to be all that God and she needs you to be?
Tina, Do you totally commit yourself to Joe to be all that God and he needs you to be?
Joe, Do you possess a token of your love and affection to give to your bride this day as a seal of this holy covenant?Joe, as I hold this ring before you. I want it to always remind you of your commitment to love Tina to the uttermost.
May every time you look upon this ring, you not simply see a piece of jewelry but you see the commitment that you’ve made in the sight of God and these witnesses to love Tina without end.
Your love for her shall never end. May this ring always remind you of that sacred commitment.
If you will place the ring on the wedding finger of your bride and repeat after me:[Groom repeats the following vow after prompts from the Pastor]:
Powerful Prayers for Marriage and Restoration [Quotes + Verses]
Do you feel your relationship is in trouble? Perhaps your better half has left, your marriage is on the rocks, or you simply feel place with the person you are with. You value the relationship that you have with your husband or wife, and you honor and respect the vows that you took in front of God and witnesses.
Despite the best of intentions, there are times when even the most perfect relationship has problems and issues. It is common for a member of the relationship to run-away from those problems, or refuse to face them by trying to leave the relationship and the home you’ve made together.
Do not despair, there is hope, you just have to find faith and encouragement from our gracious Lord above.
Prayer can repair the most damaged marriage. The power of God can bring two people, who are intended to be together, back into a love filled marriage. Your union will know the love from the blessings of God if you keep your eyes on Him in all things. Through prayer, anything is possible.
God is all-powerful and all-knowing, He can mend any bridges that may have been burned by conflict, clear away any confusion, and give you the power to forgive when needed most. If your relationship is in need of a blessing and you have nowhere to turn, always consider the power of prayer.
God is always there to listen, and his followers on earth are always ready to assist in having your prayer requests heard.
“And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.” Ephesians 4:32
Prayer for Restoring Marriage
Lord, I come before you today with a heavy heart; my marriage is in grave trouble, and I need Your help and closeness. Please make changes in my spouse's heart. Make us compatible again, and bring us closer together as we were before.
Fill us with Your love and give us the strength to love one another, care for one another, and fulfill your life long wishes for us. Show us the harm caused by careless, uncalled for words, and the pain caused by emotional distance. Heal the division between the two of us.
Make us one again. In Your precious name I pray, amen.
Prayer for a Loving Soulmate
I seek a partner who enhances me by his/her very being.
who brings more love, joy, peace and prosperity to my life, Who I can love fully and who can fully receive my love, Who loves, honors and cherishes me completely, and always.
May my heart be open and my head be clear. May my life be ready to welcome True love. May I be embraced in a circle of your love An uplifted by your grace. And so it is.
Prayer for a Marriage In Need
My heart cries out to You, my Maker of Heaven and of Earth! Please bring healing to our broken hearts, bring restoration to our relationship, ignite lost passion, and inspire forgotten intimacy. Please transform the two of us from the inside out, and lead us in Your way. We trust in you, Precious Jesus. Always. Amen.
Prayer for a Lost Love/Partner
Precious Savior, please pray that my heart's desire be granted, and the return of the love of my life would come to fruition.
I pray that my spouse/partner may have healed his/her wounds from the past, and forgiven all that has gone wrong between the two of us.
Lord, help my lost love be able to follow his/her heart to their desire and love me for me. I ask that we be forever reconciled as one, from this day forward.
Prayer for a Friends’ Troubled Marriage/Relationship
Heavenly Father, I come before you and lay this troubled marriage/relationship in your hands. I ask that you would revive this couple, and draw them toward happiness shared together.
I ask that you would renew their love and passion for one another, and that you would untangle the conflicts and strife that has damaged and angered them towards one another. Please bring understanding and tenderness of heart to both of them.
May they both embrace the miracle that you desire to do for them, and within their spirits. Amen.
Prayer for Financial Peace In Marriage
I lift up my heart to You today, my precious Lord. Please help us to rely on You more in our marriage when it comes to our finances. We can be easily distracted by the amount of money in our bank account, or even by the jobs we currently have.
Help us not to trust in the matter of money itself, but more importantly, trust in Your economy and Your word. May Your Holy Spirit fill us with wisdom in how to manage our finances, give us generous hearts to give to those in need, and teach us to not worry about money so much.
We pray there would be peace in our marriage, especially over finances, at all times, and in all ways. May Your presence keep us grounded, keep us calm, and keep us in Your will always.
Prayer for Clear Communication in Relationships
Lord, I feel my partner and I have had a difficult time clearly communicating with one another lately. We are both lacking in our compassion and understanding towards each other.
I pray we would be better than this, and that You will open our hearts to You. Holy Spirit, please help us be better communicators with each other.
I pray that we would live with understanding for what the other person is going through, and that we are thoughtful in our words and actions. Amen.
Bible Verses about Marriage:
“Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” Mark 10:9
“Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers a multitude of sins.” 1Peter 4:8
“Enjoy life with your wife, whom you love, all the days of this meaningless life that God has given you under the sun—all your meaningless days. For this is your lot in life and in your toilsome labor under the sun.” Ecclesiastes 9:9