Prayer After A Miscarriage

The Barakah of Trusting Allah: Continuing After A Miscarriage

Prayer After A Miscarriage

Download our 21 Sources of Barakah Resource Sheet + Infographic!

“I am very sorry. The baby does not have a heartbeat.” Two sentences. Eleven words. These words shot through my ears a rocket. Pain, heartbreak, and sadness rushed through my veins. I felt confusion, denial, and shock. I cried, and cried, and cried. I began to think of all the plans and dreams my husband and I had for our first baby.

I then remembered that I was just a human. A flawed and imperfect piece of flesh made from clay. This was not something I could control or could have avoided. This was part of Allah’s plan for me.

As humans, we plan, and plan, and plan, but Allah is the best of planners. I knew this was the plan that Allah had prepared for me since I was in my mother’s womb. I was confident that Allah had a reason behind this sadness.

I was happy to know that Allah knew I was strong enough to handle this trial. Allah says in the Qur’an,

“Allah does not charge a soul except [with that within] its capacity.” [Qur’an: Chapter 2: Verse 286]

It was after this realization that I uttered “inna lilah wa inna ilayhi raji’oon, alhamdulilah alaa kulli hal” –

Surely we belong to Allah and to Him shall we return. Praise be to Allah in every circumstance.

In the past years, whenever I was in the need for help or motivation, I always turned to Productive Muslim for encouragement and support. This was my secret source of energy. Unfortunately, this was the first time in eight years that I could not find what I was looking for at Productive Muslim.

I settled for searching up random articles on google with the phrase “continuing after a miscarriage”. As I was looking through a variety of articles on miscarriage, I thought of all the Muslimahs who had gone through the same painful experience as I was going through.

It was then that I felt the need to give you my advice on how to continue with life after having a miscarriage.

Dealing with pain

Pain comes in two different ways: physical and emotional. Getting sick would be considered a physical pain while the loss of a loved one would be an emotional pain. Unfortunately, miscarriage falls under both types of pain. It targets you physically and emotionally.

I tried to fight back the emotional pain, but sometimes the physical pain became stronger making me vulnerable to the emotional pain. I tried to put on a happy face, but I somehow associated everything around me to my precious unborn baby. I tried and tried, but I unwillingly succumbed to pain each time. I didn’t feel leaving my bed.

I was in no mood to study for my upcoming midterms. I didn’t want to return to school or work. I didn’t want to be around people. The first time I tried to go the house after my miscarriage, everyone I saw either asked about my pregnancy or gave my condolences for my miscarriage.

Each time I had to explain, it brought back all the pain again.

However, I am getting better, day by day, and I am learning to live with this. I no longer feel bursting into tears every time I see a pregnant lady, or a mother playing with her child, or baby clothing in stores.

I am beginning to feel happiness again, and no longer have to pretend when I smile. This does not mean I have forgotten. I will never forget the precious weeks I spent with my unborn baby.

This only means I am learning how to continue after a miscarriage.

For those who have been in the same situation as I was, I am very sorry this happened to you, and I make sincere dua that Allah blesses you with healthy children in the near future. For my readers who have not experienced such heart break, I pray that Allah gives you healthy pregnancies to term.

During my miscarriage, there was one specific thing that gave me comfort. It was my faith in Allah and the barakah we gain from trusting Him. It gave me the boost I needed to regain control of my life. I thought of how blessed I was as a Muslim to be able to have confidence that my life was in the hands of Allah .

It was then that I added the word “Islam” to my google search phrase “continuing after a miscarriage”. Having this tawakkul in Allah brought me so much barakah strength I needed to continue. It was the barakah in this knowledge that gave me the shed of light I needed to continue.

Educating myself on the topic of miscarriage in Islam was my first step in recovery.

Step 1: Educate yourself

Alhamdulilah we are blessed with the most merciful and compassionate religion. I was astonished by all the information I found on Islam and miscarriage.

Reading ahadeeth regarding miscarriage and stories of companions who had miscarriages or lost their children gave me an unbelievable amount of comfort.

I thought that I had lost my baby forever – until I came across this beautiful hadeeth.

Prophet Muhammad said, “The miscarried fetus will plead with his Lord if his parents are admitted to Hell. It will be said: “O fetus who pleads with your Lord! Admit your parents to Paradise.” So he will drag them out with his umbilical cord until he admits them to Paradise.’” [Sunan Ibn Majah]

How beautiful is this? Allah’s mercy and compassion I will be reunited with my baby in sha Allah by the doors of heaven. This hadeeth made me burst into tears of happiness and joy.

Step 2: Pray the night prayer

I barely slept after my miscarriage, due to both the physical and emotional pain. One night I forced myself bed, made wudu, and prayed qiyam. I felt the closest I had ever been to Allah during that single prayer. Usually when I would start crying randomly, my husband, or mother, or mother in law would comfort me. This time it was different.

I cried my eyes out on my prayer mat as I made dua to Allah and He was there comforting me. It was such a beautiful feeling for me alhamdulilah. I cannot even describe the level of comfort this prayer gave me. There I was, making sujood on my prayer mat feeling I was directly pouring my heart out to Allah and telling Him about the suffering I was going through.

My qiyam prayer was one of the strongest steps towards my emotional recovery.

3. Make intense dua

In addition to prayer, I used the tool of dua to speak with Allah . I raised my hands to The Most Merciful and cried my eyes out to Him .

Prophet Muhammad said, “There is nothing more honorable with Allah [Most High] than supplication.” [Tirmidhi]

I prayed for physical, emotional, and spiritual strength. I prayed for healthy pregnancy in the future. I prayed for my husband’s comfort and emotional recovery. I prayed for my sisters in Islam who have experienced this.

I prayed to be reunited with my unborn angel in heaven. I prayed for everything and anything. Making dua was the only thing I was able to do while I was on bed rest, and I did my best to take advantage of this source of barakah.

4. Have a support system

It would have been unbelievably hard for me to overcome this burden without my family and friends. My husband gave me a shoulder to cry on and constantly reminded me that this was a test from Allah and that we are strong enough to pass it.

My mother and mother in law stayed by me, cooked for me, completed my house chores, and were there for me every minute of the day. My friends helped me catch up on school assignments and spoke to my professors. I was very blessed to have this support system.

If you are going through a miscarriage, find your support system, and don’t be afraid to ask for help from those around you.

5. Take some time off to grieve

Taking time off was essential for me. I emailed my professors to excuse me from their classes, and I emailed my boss to take a leave from work. I needed this break, not only to recover physically, but emotionally.

I wasn’t ready to see people and answer their many questions concerning my pregnancy and miscarriage, or see all the things outside of my bedroom that reminded me of my baby. I needed time to heal.

Don’t feel you are weak if you need time off. This is normal.

6. Don’t go to social gatherings until you are ready

Unfortunately, I had to learn this the hard way. Just a week after my miscarriage, I had to attend a family engagement party.

I honestly didn’t feel getting dressed up and seeing people, but I had to because of family obligations, and without doubt, I got questions about my pregnancy and miscarriage. I fought with all my strength to not tear up and cry, asked my husband to leave early.

Seeing all those people at the engagement was too overwhelming for me; it was just too early.
Download our 21 Sources of Barakah Resource Sheet + Infographic!

7. Prepare to answer questions

When you feel ready and comfortable to get your house, think about the answers you want to give people and how much information you want to share. Unfortunately, sometimes people can be nosy and curious. Don’t share more than you are comfortable with, and don’t hesitate to tell people you don’t want to talk about it. Don’t let anyone force you in a situation of discomfort.

8. Never lose hope and grow impatient

This last piece of advice is very important. Never ever lose faith and trust in Allah , for everything He does has a purpose and wisdom behind it. Be patient. Your time will come in sha Allah. Constantly make dua that Allah gives you what is in your heart. This is what will ultimately be a source of barakah in your life.

Prophet Zakariya asked Allah in the Qur’an, “He said, “My Lord, how will I have a boy when my wife has been barren and I have reached extreme old age?” Then an angel replied to him saying, “[An angel] said, “Thus [it will be]; your Lord says, ‘It is easy for Me, for I created you before, while you were nothing.’ “[Qur’an: Chapter 19: Verses 8-9]

Allah can easily bless you with children; it is just a matter of when. Put your trust in Allah and have faith that there is barakah in everything Allah does. I end this article with a prayer and I ask for you to keep my husband and I in your dua.

“O Allah, I ask you to give every husband and wife the feeling of being a parent and to bless every couple that is struggling with infertility with a healthy child in the near future. Ameen.”

Have you or anyone close to you suffered from a miscarriage? Share your advice in the comments section below on how to deal with the grief and continue after this trial.
Download our 21 Sources of Barakah Resource Sheet + Infographic!

Источник: https://productivemuslim.com/the-barakah-of-trusting-allah/

Common Prayers — Service after a Miscarriage or Stillbirth

Prayer After A Miscarriage

A general Service of Prayer celebrated at the time of loss or thereafter, but especially when the priest is called to attend to a miscarriage or stillbirth.

P: Blessed is our God, always, now and ever and unto ages of ages.

R: Amen. O Heavenly King, the Comforter, the Spirit of Truth, Who art everywhere and fillest all things; Treasury of Blessings and Giver of Life: Come and abide in us and cleanse us from every impurity, and save our souls, O Good One.

Holy God, Holy Mighty, Holy Immortal, have mercy on us.Holy God, Holy Mighty, Holy Immortal, have mercy on us.

Holy God, Holy Mighty, Holy Immortal, have mercy on us.

Glory to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit, now and ever and unto ages of ages. Amen.

O Most Holy Trinity, have mercy on us. O Lord, cleanse us from our sins. O Master, pardon our transgressions. O Holy One, visit and heal our infirmities, for Thy Name’s sake.

Lord. have mercy. Lord have mercy. Lord have mercy.

Glory to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit. now and ever and unto ages of ages. Amen.

Our Father, Who art in heaven, hallowed be Thy name; Thy Kingdom come; Thy will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread, and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us; and lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.

P: For Thine is the Kingdom, and the power, and the glory, of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit, now and ever and unto ages of ages.

R: Amen.

THE GREAT LITANY

P: In peace let us pray to the Lord.

R: Lord, have mercy.

P: For the servants of God, [NN.], who have suffered the repose of a child during pregnancy, and for their family and friends, that they may be comforted, let us pray to the Lord.

R: Lord, have mercy.

P: That the Lord God, from the goodness of His heart, will have mercy on His servants, and pardon their every sin, granting to them healing and comfort of soul and body, let us pray to the Lord.

R: Lord, have mercy.

P: That the Lord God will not turn away His face from His suffering servants, but will receive the prayers we now offer for them, let us pray to the Lord.

R: Lord, have mercy.

P: That He will heal every illness and grief by the visitation of the Holy Spirit, let us pray to the Lord.

R: Lord, have mercy.

P: That He will quickly deliver the handmaid of God [N.] from every pain and affliction, raising her from weakness and infirmity by the almighty word of God, let us pray to the Lord.

R: Lord, have mercy.

P: That the merciful Lord will hear the cries of His unworthy servants as He heard the cries of the Canaanite woman, and that He will heal and console His suffering servants, let us pray to the Lord.

R: Lord, have mercy.

P: That He will receive the infant [N.], who by His ineffable providence has been taken from his/her mother’s womb and will grant him/her life everlasting, let us pray to the Lord.

R: Lord, have mercy.

P: For our deliverance from all affliction, wrath, danger, and necessity, let us pray to the
Lord.

R: Lord, have mercy.

P: Help us, save us, have mercy on us, and keep us, O God, by Thy grace.

R: Lord, have mercy.

P: Commemorating our most holy, most pure, most blessed and glorious Lady, the Theotokos and ever-Virgin Mary, with all the Saints, let us commend ourselves and each other, and all our lives unto Christ our God.

R: To Thee, O Lord.

P: O Lord our God! Thy power is incomparable! Thy glory is incomprehensible! Thy mercy is immeasurable! Thy love for mankind is inexpressible! Look down upon us, O Master, and impart the riches of Thy mercy and Thy compassion unto us and unto those who pray with us. For unto Thee are due all glory, honor, and worship: to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit, now and ever and unto ages of ages.

R: Amen.

PRAYERS OF INTERCESSION

P: Let us pray to the Lord.

R: Lord have mercy.

P: O Master, Lord our God, Who was born of the holy Theotokos and ever-Virgin Mary, and as a child was laid in a manger: In Thy great mercy be merciful to this, Thy handmaid [N.] who has miscarried the child who was conceived in her.

Forgive all her voluntary or involuntary offenses, and protect her from all the machinations of the devil. Heal her suffering, and in Thy love for mankind grant health and strength to her body and soul.

Guard her with a radiant Angel from every assault of the invisible demons and from every illness and malady, and deliver her from all that may afflict her womb. O Thou, Who accepts the innocence of infancy into
Thy Kingdom, comfort the mind of Thy handmaid and bring her peace.

Therefore, with fear we cry and say: Look down from heaven and strengthen Thy handmaid [N.] who has miscarried of the child conceived in her. Have mercy on her and bless her, through the intercession of Thine undefiled Mother and of all Thy Saints.

R: Amen.

P: Let us pray to the Lord.

R: Lord have mercy.

P: O Lord, Thou hast spoken through Thy Prophet Isaiah, saying, “For behold, I create new heavens and a new earth; and the former things shall not be remembered or come into mind. But be glad and rejoice forever in that which I create, for behold, I create in Jerusalem a rejoicing, and in her people joy.

I will rejoice in Jerusalem and be glad in my people; no more shall be heard in it the sound of weeping and the cry of distress. No more shall there be in it an infant that lives but a few days” [Isaiah 65:17-19, 20a].

Do Thou, the same Lord and God, Who on that day will give no cause to mourn the loss of a child, be present with us this day as we gather with sadness to seek Thy comfort and mourn the loss of this child [N.], known to Thy handmaid who carried him/her, to his/her father, who generated him/her, and to us, Thy faithful People.

Thou hast spoken through Thy Prophet Jeremiah, saying, “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you” [Jeremiah 1:5]. For which cause we bless Thee, O God of compassion, the consolation of the afflicted. Thou knowest the name and age of every person, even from his and her mother’s womb.

Knowing the depths of our hearts, accept our sorrow as we grieve the loss of this child, and comfort us with the promise of the joy of Thy eternal Kingdom.

Help us to grow in confidence in Thy sustaining presence at this moment and in the days to come, through the prayers of Thy most pure Mother, the Theotokos and ever-Virgin Mary, and of all Thy Saints. For Thou art a merciful God, and unto Thee we ascribe glory, to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit, now and ever, and unto ages of ages.

R: Amen.

P: Let us pray to the Lord.

R: Lord, have mercy.

P: O merciful Lord, falling down before Thy great and inscrutable providence, which is both merciful and just: We confess our weakness and infirmity, not knowing what to ask of Thee. For Thou alone knowest our true needs. Thou lovest us more than we ourselves know how to love.

Help us to discern our true needs, which are concealed from us. We dare not ask either a cross or consolation. We can only wait on Thee. Our hearts are open to Thee. Visit us and help us. Cast us down and raise us up. In silence we contemplate Thy holy will and inscrutable ways.

We offer ourselves to Thee in sacrifice, and we place all our trust in Thee. We have no desire but to fulfill Thy holy will. We believe, O Lord; help our unbelief! Let not our faith fail, nor our hope weaken, nor our love grow cold. Wipe away our tears of sorrow, granting us instead tears of joy.

Heal our weakness and infirmity. Forgive our transgressions, voluntary and involuntary. Receive the infant [N.

] into Thy kingdom and have mercy on us, through the mercy and compassion and love for mankind of Thine only-begotten Son, with whom Thou are blessed, together with Thine all-holy, good and life-creating Spirit, now and ever, and unto ages of ages.

R: Amen.

THE DISMISSAL

P: Wisdom!

R: Father, bless.

P: Christ our true God, the Existing One, is blessed, always, now and ever, and unto ages of ages.

R: Amen. Preserve, O God, the Holy Orthodox Faith and Orthodox Christians, unto ages of ages.

P: Most holy Theotokos, save us.

R: More honorable than the Cherubim, and more glorious beyond compare than the Seraphim: without defilement you gave birth to God the Word. True Theotokos, we magnify you.

P: Glory to Thee, O Christ, our God and our hope, glory to Thee.

R: Glory to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit, now and ever, and unto ages of ages. Amen.

Lord have mercy. Lord have mercy. Lord have mercy.

Father, bless.

P: May Christ our true God, through the prayers of His most pure Mother; of the holy, glorious, and all-laudable Apostles; of Saint [N.

, the patron of the unbaptized infant]; of Saint [N.

], whose memory be celebrate on this day; of the holy and righteous ancestors of God, Joachim and Anna; and of all the Saints: have mercy on us and save us, for He is good and lovest mankind.

R: Amen.

P: Let us pray to the Lord.

R: Lord, have mercy.

P: O Lord, Who guards Thy children in this life and prepares for those who have departed from us in their innocence a haven in the radiant angelic realm in the heavenly mansions: Do Thou, the same Master, Christ our God, receive in peace the soul of Thy child [N.

], for Thou has said, “Let the children come to me, and do not hinder them, for to such belongs the Kingdom of heaven.” For unto Thee is due all glory, honor and worship, together with Thy Father, Who is from everlasting, and Thine all-holy, good and life-creating Spirit, now and ever.

and unto ages of ages.

R: Amen.

Memory eternal! Memory eternal! Memory eternal!

His/her soul shall dwell with the blessed!

GLORY TO GOD FOR ALL THINGS!

Approved for use by the Holy Synod of Bishops of the Orthodox Church in America
October 2015

Источник: https://oca.org/orthodoxy/prayers/service-after-a-miscarriage-or-stillbirth

Praying to St. Catherine of Sweden for healing and protection from Miscarriage

Prayer After A Miscarriage

First – If you have had a miscarriage, and that is why you have found this post, I am so sorry.  Make sure to click over to my post on Emotional Healing After Miscarriage for  ideas on how I managed emotionally after my losses.

If you have found this post because you are pregnant and are fearful of miscarriage, please know that fear is normal. It will not harm your baby. Pray, pray, pray, pray, pray. Also, check out my post with ideas from me on how I managed fear and anxiety in pregnancy after infertility and miscarriage.

I was raised Catholic, and I find great comfort in praying to the Saints.  Knowing that there is someone special in heaven praying for me and advocating for me to Jesus is blessing.  It doesn’t mean I can’t pray directly to Jesus . . . it just means I get a little extra special attention from someone who cares about me and my prayers.

Check out all my posts on Saints and Fertility here!

St. Catherine of Sweden is a great saint to pray to on your infertility journey, because she is the  patron saint for those who have suffered a miscarriage, and for protection from miscarriage. Her feast day is March 24, and you can pray to her both for healing from miscarriage and for preserving a current pregnancy from miscarriage.

St. Catherine was a Swedish princess and  the daughter of St. Bridget of Sweden.  She was married at age 13, but she and her husband both took mutual vows of perpetual chastity.  Her husband died, and she followed her mother around Europe doing Christ’s work.

During that time she worked with the poor and taught them life skills and Christianity.  As her mother did, she counseled women who had suffered a miscarriage or illness during their pregnancy.  

There are prayers to her for both avoiding miscarriages, and for healing after a miscarriage. Both are shared below.

*This post contains affiliate links which at no cost to you provide me with some small change to help keep this blog running! If you decide to buy something I recommend, please consider clicking through one of my links to help support this blog and my family!  Thank you!

How to work with St. Catherine of Sweden

  • Pray with her. Use the traditional prayers below or use your own prayers. Ask her to intercede on your behalf to Jesus. If you are nervous to pray your own words, check out my post on Asking God for a Miracle.
  • Think of her consoling the poor women of Europe after their miscarriages, and know if you have had a loss, that she is consoling you and sending you healing love from Heaven.
  • Wear a medal in her honor. Everytime you touch it, see it, or think of it, say a prayer to her!
  • Tell people about her. Share her story. There is a special grace given when you tell others about Saints that are special to you.
  • Celebrate her feast day- March 24th- with prayer and meditation.

If you have experienced a miscarriage, there is a sweet and simple prayer to St. Catherine of Sweden asking for healing and consolation.

Prayer to St. Catherine of Sweden for Healing and Consolation after Miscarriage

Dear Saint Catherine, patron of those who have suffered a miscarriage, you know the dangers that await unborn infants.
Please intercede for me that I may receive healing from the loss I have suffered.
My soul has been deprived of peace and I have forgotten what true happiness is.

As I mourn the loss of my child, I place myself in the hands of God and ask for strength to accept His will in all things, for consolation in my grief, and for peace in my sorrow.

Glorious Saint Catherine, hear my prayers and ask that God, in good time, grant me a healthy baby who will become a true child of God.
Amen.

Prayer to St. Catherine of Sweden for a Healthy Pregnancy and for Avoiding Miscarriage

Dear Saint Catherine, you know the temptations of mothers today as well as the dangers that await unborn infants.
Intercede for me that I may avoid miscarriage and bring forth a healthy baby who will become a true child of God.

Dear Heavenly Father, I thank and praise You for the gift of all human life.
I am most especially grateful for the new life within my womb – the unborn child forming deep within me.

Through the prayers of Mary, Mother of Jesus, and the intercession of Saint Catherine of Sweden, I beg You to watch over and protect this little one inside my womb.
In Jesus’ Name.
Amen.

Источник: https://www.tomakeamommy.com/praying-to-st-catherine-of-sweden-for-healing-and-protection-from-miscarriage/

Recruiting a Pregnancy Prayer Support Team

Prayer After A Miscarriage

The book of Nehemiah is quite amazing. Nehemiah was a man of God who served as the cupbearer to the Persian King Artaxerxes I. He heard about ruins in Jerusalem and asked the king if he could return there and oversee repairs to the broken down city wall. Jerusalem had been his home at one time and he cared deeply for the people still living there.

The king allowed him to go and gave him everything he needed to complete the work. Nehemiah recruited the people of Jerusalem to help build the wall and assigned everyone a task.

Unfortunately, there were many people in the surrounding cities that didn’t want Nehemiah and the people of Jerusalem to succeed. And back then, being against something a city or group of people were doing meant threat of physical violence.

Nehemiah spent much time in prayer (see Chapter 1 of the book) but also took special precautions to avoid the worse.

What about pregnancy?

This is something we can apply to our pregnancies as well.

While we don’t have physical enemies coming after us with sword and shield, we do have spiritual enemies who come only to steal, kill and destroy.

“For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rules, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.”

~Ephesians 6:12

The enemy wants nothing more to steal our joy, kill our children, and destroy our hope

 “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.”

~John 10:10

But Jesus came that we may have LIFE. It’s no coincidence that God says “Be fruitful and multiply” (Genesis 1:28).

We must be aware of this life and death fight

And this is where we can use Nehemiah to help us. Nehemiah did three very important things:

  1. He prayed – over and over
  2. He maximized their safety by telling half the people to work and half the people to stand guard (Nehemiah 4:13-18)
  3. He made a plan to gather and fight together if and when necessary (Nehemiah 4:19-20)

“The work is extensive and spread out, and we are widely separated from each other along the wall. Whenever you hear the sound of the trumpet, join us there. Our God will fight for us!”

~Nehemiah 4:19b-20

We can do the same in our pregnancy journey. Don’t let the enemy get a foothold. Be prepared with a team of fighters at your side.

  1. Pray – a TON
  2. Invite your friends to stand with you in prayer – Don’t wait until something goes wrong. Ask as soon as you consider trying to conceive, tell them when you’re pregnant, and keep them apprised of your pregnancy throughout.
  3. Make a plan and use it. Sound the trumpet! Call or email your army to fight with you if anything goes wrong, and especially to praise with you when things go right.

Why is this so important?

We must build an army from the beginning because the enemy is there lying to us from the very beginning. When we’re trying to conceive, he’ll plant all types of lies in our heads about the potential outcome of this attempt.

He’ll remind us of our loss at every turn and urge us to reconsider continuing to try. If we don’t conceive month after month, he’ll tell us that something’s wrong with our body and we’ll never get pregnant.

He’s a liar! We need a team to help ward him off with an abundance of prayer.

Then, when conception does happen, there’s that enemy again – telling us what could go wrong, when it might go wrong, and all the ways we could make it go wrong. We’re second-guessing our every meal, activity, and thought. Why would we ever want to go through this without a support team covering us in prayer?

Lastly – IF we do have another miscarriage, wouldn’t we want a team of friends and family right there and ready to support us through another loss? IF I start to bleed early on, I want to say “Please pray for me, I’m bleeding” not “So, I’m pregnant but I’m bleeding, so can you be praying for me?” Why put my friends through the roller-coaster of seeing “I’m pregnant” and then immediately bursting their bubble with the unknown but clear possibility. I don’t know about you, but telling someone I’ve lost the baby is hard enough without adding to it the potential of telling them I was pregnant, but now I’m not. Why not just give them the story while it’s occurring rather than after the fact?

If you don’t have a group of people that can pray with you – let me! Send me a quick note to ask for prayers; I’d love to pray with you through this season.

Источник: http://www.livingaftermiscarriage.com/recruiting-pregnancy-prayer-support-team/

Miscarriage

Prayer After A Miscarriage

Miscarriage is a term used for a pregnancy that ends on its own, within the first 20 weeks of gestation. The medical terms used to identify this potential complication or loss gives most women an uncomfortable feeling, so throughout this article, we will refer to this type of threatened complication or pregnancy loss under 20 weeks as a miscarriage.

Miscarriage is the most common type of pregnancy loss, according to the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG). Studies reveal that anywhere from 10-25% of all clinically recognized pregnancies will end in miscarriage.

Chemical pregnancies may account for 50-75% of all miscarriages. This occurs when a pregnancy is lost shortly after implantation, resulting in bleeding that occurs around the time of her expected period.

The woman may not realize that she conceived when she experiences a chemical pregnancy.

Most miscarriages occur during the first 13 weeks of pregnancy. Pregnancy can be such an exciting time, but with the great number of recognized miscarriages that occur, it is beneficial to be informed about miscarriage, in the unfortunate event that you find yourself or someone you know faced with one.

There can be many confusing terms and moments that accompany a miscarriage. There are different types of miscarriage, different treatments for each, and different statistics for what your chances are of having one. The following information gives a broad overview of miscarriage.

This information is provided to help equip you with knowledge so that you might not feel so alone or lost if you face a possible miscarriage situation.

As with most pregnancy complications, remember that the best person you can usually talk to and ask questions of is your health-care provider.

Ways that we can help. If you are concerned or have questions about miscarriage, you are welcome to contact our helpline at 1-800-672-2296. You are welcome to alert our prayer team by sending an email to ( prayers @ americanpregnancy.org ).  Explore the article below to find answers to common questions.

Why Do Miscarriages Occur?

The reason for miscarriage is varied, and most often the cause cannot be identified.

During the first trimester, the most common cause of miscarriage is chromosomal abnormality – meaning that something is not correct with the baby’s chromosomes.

Most chromosomal abnormalities are the cause of a damaged egg or sperm cell or are due to a problem at the time that the zygote went through the division process.

Other causes of miscarriage include (but are not limited to):

  • Hormonal problems, infections or maternal health problems
  • Lifestyle (i.e.

    smoking, drug use, malnutrition, excessive caffeine and exposure to radiation or toxic substances)

  • Implantation of the egg into the uterine lining does not occur properly
  • Maternal age
  • Maternal trauma

Factors that are not proven to cause miscarriage are sex, working outside the home (unless in a harmful environment) or moderate exercise.

What Are The Chances of Having a Miscarriage?

For women in their childbearing years, the chances of having a miscarriage can range from 10-25%, and in most healthy women the average is about a 15-20% chance.

  • An increase in maternal age affects the chances of miscarriage
  • Women under the age of 35 yrs old have about a 15% chance of miscarriage
  • Women who are 35-45 yrs old have a 20-35% chance of miscarriage
  • Women over the age of 45 can have up to a 50% chance of miscarriage
  • A woman who has had a previous miscarriage has a 25% chance of having another (only a slightly elevated risk than for someone who has not had a previous miscarriage)

Miscarriage Warning Signs

If you experience any or all of these symptoms, it is important to contact your health care provider or a medical facility to evaluate if you could be having a miscarriage:

  • Mild to severe back pain (often worse than normal menstrual cramps)
  • Weight loss
  • White-pink mucus
  • True contractions (very painful happening every 5-20 minutes)
  • Brown or bright red bleeding with or without cramps (20-30% of all pregnancies can experience some bleeding in early pregnancy, with about 50% of those resulting in normal pregnancies)
  • Tissue with clot material passing from the vagina
  • Sudden decrease in signs of pregnancy

The Different Types of Miscarriage

Miscarriage is often a process and not a single event. There are many different stages or types of miscarriage.

There is also a lot of information to learn about healthy fetal development so that you might get a better idea of what is going on with your pregnancy.

Understanding the early fetal development and first-trimester development can help you to know what things your health care provider is looking for when there is a possible miscarriage occurring.

Most of the time all types of miscarriage are just called a miscarriage, but you may hear your health care provider refer to other terms or names according to what is experienced.

Miscarriage Types:

  • Threatened Miscarriage: Some degree of early pregnancy uterine bleeding accompanied by cramping or lower backache. The cervix remains closed. This bleeding is often the result of implantation.
  • Inevitable or Incomplete Miscarriage: Abdominal or back pain accompanied by bleeding with an open cervix.

    Miscarriage is inevitable when there is a dilation or effacement of the cervix and/or there is rupture of the membranes. Bleeding and cramps may persist if the miscarriage is not complete.

  • Complete Miscarriage: A completed miscarriage is when the embryo or products of conception have emptied the uterus.

    Bleeding should subside quickly, as should any pain or cramping. A completed miscarriage can be confirmed by an ultrasound or by having a surgical curettage (D&C) performed.

  • Missed Miscarriage: Women can experience a miscarriage without knowing it. A missed miscarriage is when embryonic death has occurred but there is not any expulsion of the embryo.

    It is not known why this occurs. Signs of this would be a loss of pregnancy symptoms and the absence of fetal heart tones found on an ultrasound.

  • Recurrent Miscarriage (RM): Defined as 3 or more consecutive first trimester miscarriages. This can affect 1% of couples trying to conceive.

  • Blighted Ovum: Also called an embryonic pregnancy. A fertilized egg implants into the uterine wall, but fetal development never begins. Often there is a gestational sac with or without a yolk sac, but there is an absence of fetal growth.

  • Ectopic Pregnancy: A fertilized egg implants itself in places other than the uterus, most commonly the fallopian tube. Treatment is needed immediately to stop the development of the implanted egg. If not treated rapidly, this could end in serious maternal complications.

  • Molar Pregnancy: The result of a genetic error during the fertilization process that leads to the growth of abnormal tissue within the uterus. Molar pregnancies rarely involve a developing embryo, but often entail the most common symptoms of pregnancy including a missed period, positive pregnancy test and severe nausea.

Treatments for Miscarriage

The main goal of treatment during or after a miscarriage is to prevent hemorrhaging and/or infection. The earlier you are in the pregnancy, the more ly that your body will expel all the fetal tissue by itself and will not require further medical procedures.

If the body does not expel all the tissue, the most common procedure performed to stop bleeding and prevent infection is a dilation and curettage, known as a D&C. Drugs may be prescribed to help control bleeding after the D&C is performed.

Bleeding should be monitored closely once you are at home; if you notice an increase in bleeding or the onset of chills or fever, it is best to call your physician immediately.

Miscarriage Prevention

Since the cause of most miscarriages is due to chromosomal abnormalities, there is not much that can be done to prevent them. One vital step is to get as healthy as you can before conceiving to provide a healthy atmosphere for conception to occur.

Once you find out that you are pregnant, again the goal is to be as healthy as possible, to provide a healthy environment for your baby to grow in:

Emotional Treatment for a Miscarriage

Unfortunately, miscarriage can affect anyone. Women are often left with unanswered questions regarding their physical recovery, their emotional recovery and trying to conceive again. It is very important that women try to keep the lines of communication open with family, friends and health care providers during this time.

Some helpful websites that address miscarriage and pregnancy loss include:

  • www.mend.org
  • www.aplacetoremember.com

Help Others Who Also Suffer

If this information, the site or our helpline has been helpful to you, would you please consider a donation of $10 to help us help others. You can donate using Paypal or Credit Card.

Last updated: December 5, 2017 at 11:10 am

Compiled using information from the following sources:

1. Current Obstetric & Gynecologic Diagnosis & Treatment Ninth Ed. DeCherney, Alan H., et al, Ch. 14.MedlinePlus [Internet]. Bethesda (MD): National Library of Medicine (US); [updated 2006 Feb 23]. Pregnancy Loss; [updated 2006 Feb 22; reviewed 2006 Feb 7; cited 2006 Feb 23].

https://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/pregnancyloss.html

2. Planning Your Pregnancy and Birth Third Ed. The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, Ch. 15.

Williams Obstetrics Twenty-Second Ed. Cunningham, F. Gary, et al, Ch. 9

Источник: https://americanpregnancy.org/pregnancy-complications/miscarriage/

Поделиться:
Нет комментариев

    Добавить комментарий

    Ваш e-mail не будет опубликован. Все поля обязательны для заполнения.

    ×
    Рекомендуем посмотреть