Our Daily Prayer In Our Marriage Together
5 Prayers for a Stronger Marriage
- Michael and Carlie KerchevalCrosswalk.com Contributing Writers
- 2018Jun 21
Prayer serves as an important part of communication with God and gives us the ability to approach the throne of grace in an intimate way. Prayers for a stronger marriage are a powerful force that can help create a solid, life-long marriage bond. We’ve watched God work miracles in our marriage covenant over the years from the simple act of prayer.
If you and your spouse do not pray together, don’t let that deter you from standing strong and continuing to pray each day. Make it a point to fight for your marriage – even if it means you stand before the Lord alone. He will honor you.
We believe that prayer can make the difference between a lasting marriage and one that fails. Today we are sharing with you five prayers for a stronger marriage. We’ll be focusing on prayers in the areas of: unity, intimacy, honesty, forgiveness, and health.
1. A Prayer for Unity in Marriage
Heavenly Father we come before you to thank you for all you have done and continue to do in our lives and marriage. We come before you today, God, asking for a stronger bond of unity in our marriage covenant.
Father we ask that you will give us the ability to be a united front for you letting nothing come between us.
Help us, Father to identify and work through anything that is not pleasing to you so we can continually reach higher levels of unity in our marriage – spiritually, physically, and mentally.We are thankful and excited to see the work of your hand as we do our best to seek your face daily. We love you and thank you for all of these things.
In Jesus’ name we pray. Amen!
“Make every effort to keep yourselves united in the Spirit, binding yourselves together with peace.” (Ephesians 4:3 NLT)
2. A Prayer for Intimacy in Marriage
Heavenly Father, we ask you today, to strengthen the bonds of both physical and spiritual intimacy in our marriage. We are thankful that you have called husband and wife to intimacy with you first, and intimacy with one another.
Please show us any behavior we have been committing that has been preventing us from entering into a deeper intimate relationship with you and one another.
Once trust is broken it can be nearly impossible to regain on our own, however, we know that all things are possible with you God. Heal our hearts, Father, of past hurts and help us to trust in you and one another again.
We thank you right now for increased intimacy in our marriage as we seek to honor you and one another through our marriage covenant.
In Jesus’ name we pray. Amen!
“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” (Ephesians 5:31 NIV)
3. A Prayer for Honesty in Marriage
Father God we come before you today to ask you to help us do everything with absolute honesty in our marriage. Sanctify us by your truth – your word is truth (John 17:17).
Help us to never lie to one another. Help us to come clean if we mess up or make a mistake that can affect our marriage – no matter how bad we may feel or embarrassed we may be. Give us the ability to be completely transparent with one another regardless of how we feel.
We thank you for the discernment to know your truth and the conviction to call on the name of Jesus. If there is anything that we have been untruthful about in the past, please help us to share it with one another and give us the wisdom to work through it.
We thank you for helping us to be honest as we choose to submit to your spirit.
In Jesus’ name we pray. Amen.
“Do not lie to each other, since you have taken off your old self with its practices and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge in the image of its Creator.” (Colossians 3:9-10 NIV)
4. A Prayer for Forgiveness in Marriage
Heavenly Father, as we strive to continuously build a stronger marriage, help us to forgive one another for things that may hurt or offend us. Help us to walk in forgiveness and never lose sight of the fact that you have forgiven us.
Help us to show your mercy and grace to our spouse each time they need it and not bring up past hurts or failures. Let us be an example of forgiveness to not only our spouse but to those around us so we can continue to show your love to all we meet. Help us to also forgive ourselves if we struggle with condemnation.
Thank you for your life-giving words of truth that we may be redeemed by the blood of the Lamb.
In Jesus’ name we pray. Amen!
“If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.” (1 John 1:9 NIV)
5. A Prayer for Health for You and Your Spouse
Father God we thank you for divine health in our physical bodies, spiritual life, and marriage. We pray that you will make known to us anything that we are doing that does not directly correlate with healthy living; body, spirit, soul.
Give us the strength to honor you through our bodies as they are the temple of the Lord. Give us the wisdom to continuously build a healthy spiritual life and marriage with you at the center.
Help us to always remember the sacrifice you made that gave us the promise of healing and peace. You are worthy to be praised!
In Jesus’ name we pray. Amen!“But he was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes we are healed.” (Isaiah 53:4 KJV)
Even if you are not in the habit of praying, that can change. We encourage those of you who do not regularly pray to start with committing to pray once a day. Some of the best times to pray are the times that you are doing something essential.
Some ideas of when to pray are:
- just before you get bed
- meal times
- while in the shower
- while brushing your teeth
- on your way to work
- before bed
Of course there are many, many other times of the day you can pray, but start off by doing it during the same time each day and soon it will become second nature to you. Then gradually increase it to one more times each day until you find yourself living a lifestyle of prayer.
Michael and Carlie Kercheval have been blissfully married since June 10, 2000. They have been blessed with three precious children that they have been able to raise while traveling the world as a military family.
They are co-authors of the popular marriage devotional: Consecrated Conversations. Together they founded Fulfilling Your Vows in obedience to the ministry God has placed in their hearts to help equip couples for biblical marriage.
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3 Hopeful Prayers for Marriage Restoration
Marriage restoration is possible when a husband and wife are willing to work together with God on their relationship. Whether you’re dealing with communication problems, emotional issues unforgiveness and pride, or an impasse of unsolved differences, here are three hopeful prayers that can help you with your marriage restoration.
A Prayer to Save a Marriage from Divorce
Lord Jesus, we’re desperate for your help. Our marriage is crumbling, and we’re stumbling over the word, “divorce.” We’ve both been listening to other “voices,” telling us just to give up—it’s not worth the fight. We don’t want to destroy our relationship or break the promises we made to each other until death do us part.
And we know Your desire is for healing too. But we don’t know what to do. Show us where to start to hedge up the gaps and exits we’ve created through selfishness, apathy, or pride. Reveal to us what we can’t see for ourselves. You are the Way, the Truth, and the Life.
We’ve abandoned our first love for each other, and we need help to find the way back again.
Restore in us a willing spirit, and help us not to point fingers or respond defensively. Teach us how to listen to each other and to really hear. The actions, attitudes, and emotions that have brought us to this place didn’t happen overnight. And we know it will take time to undo all the things that brought us here.
You have promised to teach us in the way we should go. You are a wise Counselor, and You know exactly what we need. All our hopes and expectations are in You. If outside Christian counsel is necessary to lead us back and “start over,” then direct us to ones who truly can help. You are the answer, Lord. Divorce is not what we want.
In the name of Jesus, Amen.
A Prayer for Married Couples in Trouble
Lord Jesus, nothing seems to be going right in our marriage. Lately, we argue over so many things. Or we walk out in anger or silence, too upset to deal with any issues.
Sometimes we fuss about little problems that don’t really matter or hide things that really are important. But in Your eyes, Lord, everything matters. Pebbles grow to mountains when they pile up, day after day.
When did it all start? Did we retreat into our own worlds? Become too busy to care? Did we stop listening to You and to each other?Teach us how to communicate—to simply talk to each other again with courtesy and kindness. Show us again what love and respect look , and what it means to honor and mutually submit to the other as a man and woman in love with You, Lord. We’ve forgotten all the basics.
And we sense that if we don’t deal with even small problems now, we’ll be facing a much greater roadblock later. Maybe we’ve forgotten what love is really . Or maybe we never really knew. Regardless, Lord, our marriage is in trouble. We need you.
No matter how difficult the circumstances, we want to face them together—with You on our side. You’ve told us we would experience troubles on this earth, but that You are the great Overcomer. With You, Lord, we can mend the tears and amend the errors.
With You, we can build a successful marriage. In Your name, Amen.
A Spiritual Warfare Prayer for Relationship Restoration
Lord God, we can no longer remain stagnant in our marriage. Yet we can’t move forward, and we refuse to go backward. Our relationship feels broken an old fashioned phonograph needle stuck on the same groove. So we are reaching out to You.
Protect us from becoming another divorce statistic. In the name and through the blood of Jesus Christ, we resist our enemy who wants us to end this marriage. Lord, we ask You to rebuke the devour who is trying to rip apart the beautiful covenant began in us as a couple.
We run to You, our Defender and Protector, our Refuge and Shelter in the time of trouble.
We declare in the name of Jesus that our enemy, the devil, has no right to interfere in the sacred building of our relationship because You live in us and You are greater than the one who roams around looking for victims to destroy.
We know it is Your will to pray and believe for the healing of our marriage, and we are willing to work on it together. We stake our lives on Your promise, Lord, that when we trust in You with all our heart, You will direct our paths. You have connected our two spirits in oneness and cemented them with the bond of Your Holy Spirit.
And what God has joined together, we give no room for our enemy to bring division. Your Word brings us truth, and wearing the spiritual armor You have given to us, we will fight for our marriage with You as our Supreme Warrior and Commander, and the third strand in our relationship together.
In the precious and powerful name of the Lord Jesus Christ, we pray, Amen.
How to Pray Well for Your Marriage
1. Submit yourself to God and each other, confessing any wrong attitudes or actions that have caused or that might contribute to a troubling relationship.
2. Recommit your marriage to the Lord, inviting Him to take control daily.
3. Through prayer, use God’s Word and other spiritual warfare as weapons to protect your marriage, asking God to give you wisdom in building a successful marriage that stands against all odds.4. Pray for God to show you creative ways to enhance and build a healthy spiritual, emotional, and physical love relationship in your marriage.
5. Pray often alone and together for your mate, and ask the Lord how you can bless your spouse daily.
5 Bible Verses about Marriage
- Matthew 19:4-6NLT, “Haven’t you read the Scriptures?” Jesus replied. “They record that from the beginning ‘God made them male and female.’ “And he said, ‘This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.’Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together.”
- Hebrews 13:4 TLB, Honor your marriage and its vows.
- Ecclesiastes 4:9, 12 NIV,Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor….A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.
- Ephesians 5:32-33 MSG, What is clearest to me is the way Christ treats the church. And this provides a good picture of how each husband is to treat his wife, loving himself in loving her, and how each wife is to honor her husband.
- Proverbs 13:7 NLT, Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
No matter how difficult your situation or how troubled you may feel in your relationship, God cares about your marriage.
If you are both willing to ask for God’s intervention and to pray for marriage restoration, He will give you the help and direction you need to build a loving, hope-filled marriage relationship.
Rebecca Barlow Jordan is an inspirational author, speaker, and passionate follower of Jesus who loves to encourage others heart to heart.
She has written 11 books and over 1700 other articles, greeting cards, and other inspirational pieces. Her daily devotional Daily in Your Presence is available for delivery through Crosswalk.com.
You can find out more about Rebecca at www.rebeccabarlowjordan.com.
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Power Of Prayer In Marriage: Prayers Couples Should Say Over Each Other
Several factors have been reputed for their ability to foster intimacy between couples. Some of them include frequent date nights, mutually engaging in a daily activity that both partners enjoy, regular sex, and open communication amongst others.
However, there is one activity that if engaged in regularly, can trump all of the aforementioned and promote love and utter bliss in the home. It is about couples praying for one another.
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Why Prayer Is Important In The Family
There is usually a recital in many Christian homes about the fact that when a family prays together, they will inevitably stay together. This is absolutely true. When couples pray for one another, they access each other’s soul and minister to each other’s specific needs in such a way that they might not be able to do through any other means.
While you may sometimes not be able to comfort each other with mere words, you can pray instead. When you do so for each other, the Holy Spirit, knowing each person's specific needs, will minister to them accordingly.
Again I say to you, if two of you agree on earth about anything they ask, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven (Matt 18:19).
Probably, the best part of praying together as a family is that you can both accomplish more in the place of prayer. There is something about the agreement of the both of you in your closet that makes your request irresistible!
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How Husbands And Wives Should Pray For Each Other
Generally speaking, a husband should pray for his wife while she is physically present as well as during his private prayer time. This is not because either of them has advantages over the other. However, there might be certain things you want to say to the Lord on your spouse's behalf that you might not be comfortable saying when you both pray together.
Besides, when you pray for each other in your privacy, you can do it for longer periods of time and express all your emotions and deep thoughts to God unfettered, without either of you feeling ill at ease.
However, praying for your wife daily with her being present, or she praying for you daily with you present, could create a special bonding moment for you. This is because you can see your partner's heart desires for you expressed in a powerful way to God, who can bring them to pass.
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2 Prayers Husbands Should Say For Their Wives Daily
So as to walk in a manner worthy of the Lord, fully pleasing to him: bearing fruit in every good work and increasing in the knowledge of God (Col 1:10).
Lord, I pray for my wife (slot in the name of your wife here) that she would live a life worthy of you and please you in every way.
I declare that she is fruitful and bearing fruit in every good work as she grows in your knowledge in Jesus name.
Who forgives all your iniquity, who heals all your diseases, who redeems your life from the pit, who crowns you with steadfast love and mercy, who satisfies you with good so that your youth is renewed the eagle's (Psalm 103:3-5).
Father, thank you because you forgave my wife (slot in the name of your wife here) of all sins and healed all her diseases. Therefore, she shall live in health all the days of her life.
Thank you, Lord, for redeeming her from death and crowning her with your love and tender mercies. Lord, I thank you that you fill her life with every good thing in the name of Jesus.
May her youth be continually renewed the eagle's (Amen).
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3 Prayers Wives Should Say For Their Husbands Daily
Honor the Lord with your wealth and with the firstfruits of all your produce (Prov. 3:9).
Father, I pray that my husband (slot in your husband's name) honors you with everything he owns and his entire being. I pray that he continually loves, worships, and adores you as Lord.
May he be guided to lead our family in the things of the Lord in Jesus name. And let his barns burst with your blessings, and his wine vats brim over with your goodness in Jesus name.
Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding (Prov. 3:5).
Lord, I pray that you help my husband (slot in your husband's name) to trust in you completely and not in himself. Help him to put you first in everything he does and in so doing, you will direct his path and crown every one of his efforts with good success in Jesus name.
John Neff / ShutterstockLord, I pray that you will keep my husband (slot in your husband's name) from deliberate sins. Do not let them control him, Lord. Let him be free of guilt and innocent of great sin. And Father, let the words of his mouth and the meditations of his heart be pleasing to you (Amen).
This is by no means an exhaustive list, but a helpful guide to get you started. You can also consider praying specifically for a challenge or difficulty your spouse might be experiencing at the moment.
Powerful Prayers for Marriage and Restoration [Quotes + Verses]
Do you feel your relationship is in trouble? Perhaps your better half has left, your marriage is on the rocks, or you simply feel place with the person you are with. You value the relationship that you have with your husband or wife, and you honor and respect the vows that you took in front of God and witnesses.
Despite the best of intentions, there are times when even the most perfect relationship has problems and issues. It is common for a member of the relationship to run-away from those problems, or refuse to face them by trying to leave the relationship and the home you’ve made together.
Do not despair, there is hope, you just have to find faith and encouragement from our gracious Lord above.
Prayer can repair the most damaged marriage. The power of God can bring two people, who are intended to be together, back into a love filled marriage. Your union will know the love from the blessings of God if you keep your eyes on Him in all things. Through prayer, anything is possible.
God is all-powerful and all-knowing, He can mend any bridges that may have been burned by conflict, clear away any confusion, and give you the power to forgive when needed most. If your relationship is in need of a blessing and you have nowhere to turn, always consider the power of prayer.
God is always there to listen, and his followers on earth are always ready to assist in having your prayer requests heard.
“And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.” Ephesians 4:32
Prayer for Restoring Marriage
Lord, I come before you today with a heavy heart; my marriage is in grave trouble, and I need Your help and closeness. Please make changes in my spouse's heart. Make us compatible again, and bring us closer together as we were before.
Fill us with Your love and give us the strength to love one another, care for one another, and fulfill your life long wishes for us. Show us the harm caused by careless, uncalled for words, and the pain caused by emotional distance. Heal the division between the two of us.
Make us one again. In Your precious name I pray, amen.
Prayer for a Loving Soulmate
I seek a partner who enhances me by his/her very being.
who brings more love, joy, peace and prosperity to my life, Who I can love fully and who can fully receive my love, Who loves, honors and cherishes me completely, and always.
May my heart be open and my head be clear. May my life be ready to welcome True love. May I be embraced in a circle of your love An uplifted by your grace. And so it is.
Prayer for a Marriage In Need
My heart cries out to You, my Maker of Heaven and of Earth! Please bring healing to our broken hearts, bring restoration to our relationship, ignite lost passion, and inspire forgotten intimacy. Please transform the two of us from the inside out, and lead us in Your way. We trust in you, Precious Jesus. Always. Amen.
Prayer for a Lost Love/Partner
Precious Savior, please pray that my heart's desire be granted, and the return of the love of my life would come to fruition.
I pray that my spouse/partner may have healed his/her wounds from the past, and forgiven all that has gone wrong between the two of us.
Lord, help my lost love be able to follow his/her heart to their desire and love me for me. I ask that we be forever reconciled as one, from this day forward.
Prayer for a Friends’ Troubled Marriage/Relationship
Heavenly Father, I come before you and lay this troubled marriage/relationship in your hands. I ask that you would revive this couple, and draw them toward happiness shared together.
I ask that you would renew their love and passion for one another, and that you would untangle the conflicts and strife that has damaged and angered them towards one another. Please bring understanding and tenderness of heart to both of them.
May they both embrace the miracle that you desire to do for them, and within their spirits. Amen.
Prayer for Financial Peace In Marriage
I lift up my heart to You today, my precious Lord. Please help us to rely on You more in our marriage when it comes to our finances. We can be easily distracted by the amount of money in our bank account, or even by the jobs we currently have.
Help us not to trust in the matter of money itself, but more importantly, trust in Your economy and Your word. May Your Holy Spirit fill us with wisdom in how to manage our finances, give us generous hearts to give to those in need, and teach us to not worry about money so much.
We pray there would be peace in our marriage, especially over finances, at all times, and in all ways. May Your presence keep us grounded, keep us calm, and keep us in Your will always.
Prayer for Clear Communication in Relationships
Lord, I feel my partner and I have had a difficult time clearly communicating with one another lately. We are both lacking in our compassion and understanding towards each other.
I pray we would be better than this, and that You will open our hearts to You. Holy Spirit, please help us be better communicators with each other.
I pray that we would live with understanding for what the other person is going through, and that we are thoughtful in our words and actions. Amen.
Bible Verses about Marriage:
“Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” Mark 10:9
“Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers a multitude of sins.” 1Peter 4:8
“Enjoy life with your wife, whom you love, all the days of this meaningless life that God has given you under the sun—all your meaningless days. For this is your lot in life and in your toilsome labor under the sun.” Ecclesiastes 9:9
The One Thing Missing From Too Many Christian Marriages
If you’re in a Christian marriage, it’s easy to think that your marriage is secure – that it is somehow immune to heartache, fights and infidelity.
But the truth is, no relationship comes with a lifetime guarantee.
Even men and women who grow up in stable homes, who attend church and consider themselves Christians, who promise “until death do us part,” can have their marriage fall apart.
As Christians, we know that applying biblical principles to marriage will give us a stronger foundation than those who are not grounded in Christ; however, we sometimes fall short when it comes to following through. “It is crucial that we pray daily for and with our spouse.
“One thing missing from too many Christian marriages is a daily commitment to praying for each other and with each other. Too often, Christian couples live separate prayer lives and don't take the time to join together in lifting each other and their marriages up to God.
It is crucial that we pray daily for and with our spouse.
Every time you and your spouse pray separately for one another, great things happen in your relationship because of prayer’s incredible power. But when you pray together, that power increases tremendously, and so do the results. Going to God in prayer as a couple benefits your marriage in several ways:
Prayer Encourages Humility and Honesty
Experiencing unity of heart with your mate is not automatic. It requires both partners to work together. Jesus taught that an honest and humble heart was essential for effective prayer.
In the same manner, if you want to grow in your prayer life together, it is necessary to honestly bear your soul before your loved one as well as before God. As you humble yourself before God, you are communicating a special message to your spouse.
You are declaring that you are open, vulnerable and sincere. God gives grace to the humble. All marriages can use God’s grace to smooth off the rough edges.
Prayer Unifies You
When you and your spouse took your marriage vows, you became one in the eyes of God. However, each day you are still in the ongoing process of becoming one in your everyday lives. Living out this unity takes time and effort. One of the most complicated things about marriage is the fact that two people are in it.
If marriage was all about working through things by yourself, it would be easy and you could certainly do it by yourself. But marriage is about two people syncing their dreams, desires, assumptions, needs and habits with those of your spouse. Meshing these things with your spouse can cause discord.
When you pray with your spouse, you are drawn into unity with God, and as a result, with one another.
Prayer Promotes Emotional Intimacy
We often experience emotional intimacy and deep connection at the very beginning of relationships, before the conflicts start. Just as physical intimacy reaffirms your oneness, so does praying together.
When you pray together as a couple, you are not only communicating with God, but also with each other. A deep level of emotional intimacy occurs through prayer.
You begin to learn so much about one another when you share your specific prayer requests and listen to each other pray.
Prayer Allows God into Your Marriage
We often hear that a successful marriage consists of three people: husband, wife and God. For a marriage to last and be happy and fulfilling, these three parties need to be involved.
While a marriage is made of two imperfect people, when you add the presence of a perfect God, then you are in a greater position to draw closer to what God intended for your marriage. When you’re struggling with different issues in your marriage, it can feel all hope is lost at times.
But in those moments of darkness and despair, God intervenes, changing our hearts and teaching us how to make our marriages one again.
The Bible tells us, “Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing” (1 Thessalonians 5:11).
In order to this, you must pray for yourself first, that you will be the person God wants you to be. You can begin with Psalm 51:10: “Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me.
” Only then, when we have a clean heart and a right spirit, we will be in the right place to pray effectively for our spouse.
When we pray regularly for our spouse, we recognize the importance of praying for their needs – what they are going through daily, their troubles, their physical ailments and concerns. God calls us to take everything to Him in prayer.
You should be striving to be the kind of partner who is praying for your loved one and with your loved one. You can use the Bible to guide your prayers for your significant other.
Pray that they can be the kind of example you know they want to be.
Helpful Resources to Pray for Your Marriage & Husband
Do you regularly pray for your marriage? No matter what state or season your marriage is in, prayer has the ability to completely transform everything. Don’t know where to start? Check out these helpful resources to pray for both your marriage and your husband. Prayer is truly heart transformative!
Our marriages are truly a blessing. We unite together in love under a precious covenant through God.
Marriages serve as a beautiful picture of sacrificial love, the love of Christ for His church, it’s a profound mystery (Ephesians 5:23) but a beautiful one.
When we begin our marriages, we are excited, eager and ready to take on the world. Those butterfly feelings in the pit of our stomachs send waves through our bodies as we are giddy with love and excitement. While our love grows throughout the marriage, we lose some of that romantic charm we had in the beginning.
Real life happens, demanding work days, long nights with crying babies, young children who zap all of our energy, financial stresses and other events that pop us the newlywed bubble.
It’s not a bad thing, though, after almost 10 years of marriage, I love my husband more than I did on the day we got married. It’s a stronger love, more steady. Grounded deeper in the years we have spent together.
We have weathered the storms of life together over our marriage: loss of a parent, birth of 3 children back to back to back, new jobs, and the financial downfall, just to name a few. We have worked in unity to balance difficult family members, unmet expectations and communication issues.We have read marriage books, gone to marriage conferences and listened to sermons on Godly marriage together. Not only has our love grown stronger, but so has our knowledge of God’s design for marriage.
How amazing it is that God brings together two imperfect people to unite as one flesh, to bring forth children, to grow as a family and to model the love that Christ has for His bride?
It is truly remarkable!
While marriage is truly a beautiful thing, it isn’t always easy. In fact, some days the choice to actually LOVE our husbands is just downright hard!
We get caught up in our own selfishness and desires, or we have high expectations from our husbands that go unmet. We have different opinions about how to raise the kids, manage the finances, how to spend our time or what to watch on TV.
Perhaps you, dear sister, who is reading this, is in a really hard marriage with no hope in sight and the choice to love almost feels too heavy and impossible. I don’t always have the right words to share, although I do believe in the value of seeking help through a trusted counselor or Pastor, but I do know one thing….
Start with prayer
No matter what state or season your marriage is in, prayer has the ability to completely transform everything.
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Prayer may not be answered immediately or even in ways we want them to, but given time, faithfulness and patience, God answers each and every prayer in His own perfect way!
Prayer is our direct, two-way conversation with God. How amazing it is that we serve a God who not only loves us in a “Never Stopping, Never Giving Up, Unbreaking, Always and Forever Love.” (courtesy of The Jesus Storybook Bible) and knows the depths of our pains? Jesus carried that burden so we wouldn’t have to.
It’s easy to say start with prayer, but just as in marriage being a hard choice to love, prayer can also be hard too.
How do I pray?
What do I pray for?
When and where should I pray?
What do I say?
Where do I start?
I’ll be the first one to admit, it’s not easy to pray some days.
I’ve woken up in foul moods and have harbored resentment in my heart but let me share the obvious truth that God continues to unravel in my heart…
When I pray, my heart changes.
It is no longer about me but rather Him working miraculously through my life.
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Where to Begin & How to Pray
Point blank… you just have to sit down and start!
If you scroll down, you will find a list of some of the best resources to help you pray for your marriage and husband. Open one of these books and begin reading aloud the prayer.
Swap out the pronouns of he/him for your husband’s name occasionally, to make it more personal. There is something to be said about praying by name for a person!
If all you can bring yourself to do is just read aloud, well done! You have made a great start!You will probably find that many of these tools and resources will lead you into deeper times of prayer for your marriage and husband.
Use these prompts as a starting point. Write down your prayers in your favorite prayer journal or notebook (Sidenote, if you are looking for a guide to creating a prayer notebook, this is the BEST resource out there!)
There is no rule about what time of day you should pray. I prefer to start my day in prayer and Bible reading simply because it transforms my heart before the day has even begun.
If time in the morning is an issue, use those small pockets of time throughout your day:
- In the car, while you are driving to work
- Washing dishes (my favorite time!)
- While you are working out or walking
- In the shower or while you are getting dressed
- Cooking dinner
- Folding clothes
- Under an apron (It worked for Susanna Wesley!)
With a little creativity, there are endless options of where and how to pray!
What to Pray For
Here are just a few ideas of things to regularly pray for your husband:
- His faith
- Being the spiritual leader to you and your family
- His heart
- His relationships
- Godly male friends
- His work & job
- Making good choices
- Intimacy within marriage
Jesus gave us the perfect example of prayer in the Lord’s Prayer found in Luke 11: 1-4. In addition to that, we also have so many wonderful and helpful resources to pray for your marriage and your husband, thanks to gifted writers who share the message God has laid on their hearts.
When it’s hard to pray or I don’t have the words to get started, these resources have come through time and time again.
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Some are well-worn copies with folds, rips, and lots of markings. Others are new treasures in recent years that have already proved faithful and trusted tools.
Rooted in Scripture, these prayer resources have greatly impacted my own marriage over the years. Praying these prayers each morning and using them as a starting prompt to jump further into my own time of prayer for not only my marriage but also for our family has greatly impacted our family.
Praying Daily for Your Husband Calendar from Inspired to Action // I have had this calendar folded up inside my Bible for over 6 years now. The paper is faded and soft but the prayers are used daily as a prompt.
14 Days of Praying for Your Marriage & Husband from Young Wife’s Guide // This is a brand new resource from my friend Jami but is already a well-loved too. These printable prayer cards include Scripture and a short prayer prompt to lead you in your time of prayer.
Prayers of an Excellent Wife by Andrew Case // An excellent Scripture-based prayer book filled only with short prayers for your husband. It is written in an older language (think thy/thee) but is still a great tool to use. Often, I will replace some of the pronouns with my husband’s name.
Thirty-One Prayers for My Husband by Jennifer Smith // I actually just received this book about two weeks ago and am already loving it. There is also a campaign for husbands too! Each day includes a short prayer with plenty of space to write out your own prayers too!
Praying for Your Husband from Head to Toe: A Daily Guide to Scripture-Based Prayer by Sharon Jaynes // The 30-day prayer guide provides Scriptures for each day along with corresponding prayers to target the crucial areas of every man’s life. You’ll be equipped and empowered to establish the habit of purposeful prayer in just a few dedicated minutes each day.
The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian // A classic prayer book — I purchased this one when we were engaged. Each chapter includes some teaching, Scripture and a prayer to pray for specific areas concerning your husband, marriage, and family.
The Power of Prayer to Change Your Marriage: Book of Prayers by Stormie Omartian // Small enough to keep in purse or pocket for quick conversations with God, this little book will help unlock the power of prayer through looking to God to strengthen and protect your marriage, praying for your marriage in order to keep your hearts aligned with one another and to overcome issues of anger, infidelity, or any other problem that might try to undo what God has joined together.100 Prayers for Your Marriage: Draw Close to Each Other and Closer to God by Darlene Schacht //This book is an invitation to draw close to each other and closer to God. It’s a dare to fight for your marriage. It’s a challenge to pray with and for each other every day through short, daily prayers.
The Love Dare by Alex Kendrick //If your marriage is in trouble, this 40-day challenge is for husbands and wives to understand and practice unconditional love. Daily Scripture-based encouragement, assignments, and prayers to strengthen your marriage.
Looking for more resources to strengthen and grow a strong marriage? Check out this Pinterest board!
What tools have you used to pray for your marriage & husband?