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7 Ways to Sincerely Encourage Your Employees
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Encouragement is not praise. Done well, encouragement can lead to success for an employee — at which time praise is appropriate.
You see, encouragement is the act of providing positive feedback that focuses specifically on effort and/or improvement, rather than specific outcomes. Praise is given when success has been achieved.
The ability to successfully encourage others through periods of difficult times and lack of progress is both a science and an art.
There are techniques that you can use that will provide encouragement but they are only helpful if you are using your emotional intelligence during the process.
Emotional intelligence includes the ability to adeptly read and respond to the emotional needs of others. Keen observation of body language, choice of words and interaction with others will be helpful in this process.
Here are seven techniques I recommend managers use to help encourage their team members:
1. Ask them what help they need
Often times the simple question of “How can I help?” will start the process of encouraging an employee. Timing of this simple, but powerful, question is important and requires you have good observation skills.
Watch and listen for changes in behavior, choice of words and body language. These can be hints that an employee is becoming discouraged and frustrated.
And often all the help they need is talking through the situation and having an empathetic ear to listen to their challenges.
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2. Coach them to discover choices.
When an employee gets stuck and isn’t making the progress they expect, frustration sets in.
When you observe an employee frustrated, first reinforce the confidence you have in them previous accomplishments, skills and behaviors. Start asking them questions that will help them see how to become “unstuck.
” Ask enough questions for them to develop their own options on how to become successful. A little coaching can go a long way.
3. Recognize their small incremental wins.
These wins will include behavior change and skill mastery. Wins are not tasks that don’t demonstrate change.
Managers often forget that the small wins deserve recognition so that employees know that they are making progress toward their bigger win.
Recognizing positive change reinforces the employee’s understanding of what they need to continue doing. Don’t wait for the big wins, look for the small and recognize them, and more will come.
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4. Thank them.
A leadership best practice often overlooked is thanking and praising employees six times for every time feedback is provided requiring change and adjustment from an employee.
There are times when work effort may not equate to expected results.
Just a long distance runner being handed water during the race, this is your opportunity to thank them for their efforts, yet remind them that they haven’t yet reached the finish line.
5. Demonstrate your confidence in them.
When you practice encouragement, don’t keep it behind closed doors. Take the opportunity during meetings to practice encouragement so others can learn the art and science of it.
Share their small wins with other team members, and ask others to recognize the small wins of team members. As time progresses, it should become more natural for team members to recognize each other’s contributions.
The goal is to create viral encouragement.
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6. Put them on stretch assignments.
Stretch assignments should be designed to:
- Provide a higher level of visibility
- Build on the strengths of the employee
- Develop new skills
- Assist the employee to advance towards their desired role in the organization
When you match a stretch assignment to the right employee, not only are you encouraging your employee, you are developing them for the future.
7. Help them get recognized by others.
Become your team members’ advocate. Share their work and accomplishments by communicating to other parts of the organization how their work has helped the organization get closer to the company vision or reinforced the values of the company.
External recognition is just as important. If they have done stellar work, look for opportunities to nominate them for local professional awards. Local business newspapers and magazines often look for stories of professionals’ accomplishments.
Done consistently, encouragement will become a part of your culture. As a leader, when you model and practice encouragement techniques, your employees will start encouraging each other. When a company embraces encouragement, success follows. What do you plan to do differently to encourage your employees?
3 Ways to Encourage Others to Be Confident
“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.”
Everybody struggles with their confidence levels from time to time. We each have our own unique set of anxieties and insecurities. It doesn’t matter how attractive or unattractive we are, where we went to school or how much money we have in the bank. Everyone has something that makes them feel stressed, unsure of themselves, and generally uncomfortable.
The best thing we as human beings can do for each other is help someone else build up their own confidence. Sometimes all a person needs in order to feel more confident is to know that someone else has confidence in them.
Whether it’s a friend, relative, significant other, coworker, or even mere acquaintance, even the smallest of gestures can do wonders to improve another person’s confidence levels.
These barely scratch the surface, but here are three ways to encourage others to be more confident:
1. Celebrate their wins
Even the smallest ones. Make a point to celebrate every victory with someone. Your friend aced a test, rocked a term paper, or made a killer presentation at work? Tell them how awesome you think that is.
Vocalize the factors that led to their successes and helped them get their win. If it was a long road to victory, make sure they know that it was their hard work that paid off.
This will help them feel more confident going into future, similar situations in the future.
Make a point to say things : “Congratulations on nailing that presentation! You worked really hard on it and it paid off. That’s awesome and I’m really proud of you. Now let’s go celebrate!”[clickToTweet tweet=”Help others to celebrate their small wins.” quote=”Help others to celebrate their small wins.”]
2. Compliment them often.
Now, I’m not talking about insincere compliments or small forms of flattery. As with the first situation I mentioned, it’s important to make sure you are freely and openly complimenting people as often as possible on the things they are doing well.
If you know someone who you think is a great writer, make sure they know how much you their writing. People tend to be highly critical of themselves, way more than others are of them in comparison, so it’s important to express appreciation and admiration for what they are doing.
Make a point to say things : “I just read that thing you posted. It was so well written! You have such a talent for this kind of thing. Keep up the awesome work!”[clickToTweet tweet=”A genuine compliment goes a long way to inspire confidence in others.” quote=”A genuine compliment goes a long way to inspire confidence in others.”]
3. Listen to learn
This one is perhaps the most important of the three ways to encourage others to be more confident. If someone shares a personal story, anecdote, or secret with you about something they feel confident or insecure about, take the time to actively listen: affirm what you hear and ask questions to get a complete understanding of the situation.
Know that someone may tell you something that may not seem a huge deal to you, but it could be that person’s entire world. Their insecurities and anxieties may be creeping in and causing a lack of confidence. The rationale behind what they are thinking or feeling could very well be driven by deep-seated fears and in some cases, depression.
Only once you begin to understand the root cause of the issue can you begin to address their concerns with a deeper, more enlightened understanding. And only then will you be able to offer better advice and begin to instill a greater confidence in them.
Make a point to say things : “I know you’re feeling nervous about this presentation because public speaking makes you feel anxious, and because you’re afraid you will make a mistake in front of your peers.Just know that we all feel super nervous about presenting, and if you do make a mistake, I’ll be there to support you.
I don’t think that will be an issue, though, because you’ve done all you can do to prepare, and I’m confident that you’re going to rock it tomorrow!”[clickToTweet tweet=”To encourage confidence, avoid down-talking someone’s fears or insecurities. Simply listen.” quote=”To encourage confidence, avoid down-talking someone’s fears or insecurities. Simply listen.”]
As I said before, there are so many ways to encourage others and instill confidence in them, and these three ways just barely scratch the surface.
As long as you are mindful of the people you encounter, taking the time to openly honor and appreciate them and listen for the root cause of their problems and stressors, you’ll find it easy to fall right into the habit.
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It requires very little effort in your part, and even the smallest gestures can go a long way to make someone’s day or pull them a bad mood or deep funk.
Tell me, what steps do you take to actively encourage others to be more confident? What do others do to make you feel more confident when the situation is reversed? Tell me in the comment section below!
24 Ways To Encourage Others – Giving Encouragement To People
“Most of us,swimming against the tides oftrouble the world knows nothing about,need only a bit of praise or encouragement –
and we will make the goal.”
~ Jerome Fleishman ~
What Is Encouragement?
Definition: ENCOURAGEMENT : something that makes someone feel more supported: something that makes someone more determined, hopeful, or confident
: something that makes someone more ly to do something
Yesterday when I listed the Top 41 Lessons Blogging Teaches About Life And The Ways Blogging Has Changed Me, one of the things I talked about was how I knew I was loved. Feeling loved is powerful…very powerful.
Have you ever heard of times in the news when people did things that seemed impossible? I remember long ago when a boy was trapped under a car and the boy’s mother lifted the car AND pulled the boy out from under it. Sounded absolutely impossible, but it really happened. That was some powerful love.Love is a powerful emotion that can help people do things they never dreamed they could accomplish.
One of the reasons that I talk so much about PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) is because when I was being tormented by it, I felt very alone.
It was bad enough teetering between feeling insane or an alien in my own skin, but to also feel lonely and alone was almost more than I could bear.
Because of that terrorizing, agonizing, depressing, scary, unhappy, sad, lonely period of my life, I think it is absolutely necessary for EVERYONE to understand PTSD.
Giving a person with PTSD encouragement helps them hang on and continue to fight the agony they feel. Most of the time it feels impossible to live another minute and the reasons to continue living don’t really feel that important. Encouragement helps a person feel more hopeful.
Even though a person may appear to be perfectly fine, they may actually be hurting inside. That is often true with people who are experiencing PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) and depression.
There is something we all can do for people who are hurting.
There are many ways that we can give people hope and one of the easiest ways is to give encouragement regularly. That may sound vague and not that important, but encouragement is the emotionally equivalent to throwing a rope to a drowning man. Hope is empowering and since encouragement gives hope, you can help to empower someone who is hurting.
Here is a list of 24 easy and practical ways that you can give encouragement to people:
- Go to lunch or dinner together.
- Give the person praise publicly.
- Offer to do a task for the person.
- Spend time listening to the person talk.
- Ask the person how you can help them.
- Offer to babysit their children so they can get away for a while.
- Call the person often just to let them know you were thinking of them.
- Post a compliment or encouraging words on their wall.
- When someone is making changes in their life, notice and offer words of praise.
- Smile as you pass other people. You never know who needs to see a kind face to give them hope.
- Write a letter of commendation to the person’s boss.
- Write a note and put it in their lunch or leave a note on their desk.
- Give the person a gift.
- Give the person a hug.
- Give the person a compliment.
- Give the person an uplifting card.
- Give the person a motivational book.
- Give the person a gift card to a restaurant.
- Send the person chocolates.
- Send the person flowers/Give the person a single flower.
- Tell the person a funny joke.
- Tell the person that you love them.
- Tell the person you will pray for them.
- Tell the person that you appreciate them.
Having the opportunity to offer encouragement to another person is a privilege. Giving of yourself will not only help the other person, but a consequence of your unselfishness is that you will feel happier and better about yourself. Being encouraging doesn’t take that much time or effort for you, but it could mean the world to the person who is swimming against the tides of trouble.
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God has a plan for each one of our lives, our job is to figure out what that plan is with His help. Keep in mind that when you encourage someone, it is putting purfume on them, and you can not help but get a little on yourself. Here are some encouraging scriptures about encouraging someone.
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There are many reasons to encourage someone. The biggest reason is that God tells us to love one another. God also provides a bonus that when we encourage someone, we too become helped by our act of kindness and love. ~ Bill Greguska
Hebrews 3:13 But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called “Today,” so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness.
Learn Why We Need To Encourage Someone?
Encourage someone you would want to be encouraged is an excellent place to start. Offer to do something to help!
- Be willing to go grocery shopping for someone who isn’t able to make it to the grocery store or who can’t afford it at the moment.
- Be willing to clean someone’s house. To take the load off someone who is struggling with daily life.
- Be willing to provide rides to doctors’ appointments. If your friend is ill, take her to her doctor appointments. Wait with her, comfort her. Don’t turn away from her discomfort.
- Be willing to do some cooking. Make regular meals for someone who is ill, or is otherwise unable to cook for herself.
- Be willing to be available for babysitting. If you know a couple whose marriage is in an awkward place, offer to watch their children so they can have some time together, just the two of them, or maybe you know someone who needs an hour or two on their own to regain their sanity.
Life Can Be Difficult, But There Is A Remedy!
Life was difficult for Christians in the first century because the culture they lived in was not attuned to the ways of Christ. When people persecuted them for their beliefs, they became discouraged. Judas and Silas are two whom God sent to encourage other believers, to help their faith become stronger.
In fact, the words encourage and encouragement is used countless times in the New Testament. Throughout the centuries, receiving encouragement has been important to all Christians as they grow and mature in their faith.
One morning as I was attending a conference and praying about something special I could do that day, God nudged me to focus on encouraging others. That day God sent several people my way who needed encouragement. As far as I could tell, I did not make a huge difference in anyone’s life.
It could be that someone’s life was changed and I didn’t know about it. But that day I did learn that people appreciate and are strengthened by words of encouragement. I also learned that each of us is encouraged as we encourage others.Dear God, lead us to people who need encouragement and give us the words to strengthen their faith. Amen.
Judas and Silas, who themselves were prophets, said much to encourage and strengthen the believers. – Acts 15:32 (NIV)
May 14, 2019
Tom Kennedy (Texas, USA)
What Often Happens When You Encourage Someone!
Keep in mind that often when we help and encouraging others, we will find that it is often the best way to help yourself. Think about how good you felt the last time you focused on helping someone else. Do not think you can do it all in your strength. You need to trust God and his word when He tells us to love one another.
So when you encourage others, you will be doing God’s will, and you, in turn, will be blessed for your honoring God only the way God can. In the meantime, keep praying and seeking godly wisdom through His word and the variety of helpful information on the many pages of this website.
The hardest part of encouraging someone is to decide to do it! So get out and help and assist someone today!
- Be willing to spend time one on one in a personal Bible study. If you have a friend, who is struggling with her faith or wants to build a deeper relationship with the Lord, meet with them weekly.
- Be willing to make regular phone calls to let the person know that they are being thought of and cared about by someone.
- Be willing to go for walks with someone and to spend time together. Sometimes just being there and being willing to listen is what we all need.
- Be willing to share about yourself and to open up. Be prepared to let go of the “perfect Christian” façade and be willing to share your struggles and faults. Let your friend know that they are not alone.
- Be willing to ask your friend what their needs are? Ask them, “How can I help?” Be ready and willing to follow through.
God will multiply whatever small offerings of willingness that you have for someone in need. He will use you to bless many; you need only to be willing. Encouragement goes straight to the heart. The word itself comes from a combination of the prefix en which means “to put into” and the Latin root cor which means “heart.” Knowing what a big difference encouragement makes in your own life, what can you do to help others to take heart when the going gets tough, and the way feels long?
- Learn individuals’ “love languages,” the special ways in which they feel most valued. In his book, The Five Love Languages, Gary Chapman explains that not everyone’s emotional needs are met in the same way and that it’s important to learn to speak others’ love languages. The five love languages are words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch.
- If an encouraging thought comes to mind, share it! It may not have the same effect if you wait. Don’t let shyness hold you back. Instead, form a new habit: “Encourage one another daily, as long as it is called Today…” Hebrews 3:13
- When you introduce someone, add a few words of praise for the person’s abilities, accomplishments, about how they’ve helped you or about the nature of your relationship. It’s encouraging to be praised in front of others.*
It Is Not That Difficult To Encourage Someone!
- Send flowers. A surprise delivery makes any occasion or accomplishment feel more momentous and is a tangible sign that you are thinking of someone even when they’re not around.
- When someone is discouraged or hurting, offer specific, practical help. If you ask, “How can I help?” the person might be at a loss to answer.
It’s better to ask, “Would it help if I…” or say, “I would to…”
- Update your address book. In a digital world, there’s nothing receiving a hand-written note in the mail.
- Remind fellow Christians of the specific promises of God and characteristics of God. We may know something with our mind, but need to be reminded in our heart.
The Apostle Peter wrote, “I will always remind you of these things, even though you know them and are firmly established in the truth you now have.” 2 Peter 1:12
- Write someone a note to tell them that you’re praying for them. Tell them what you’re praying.
You can pray specific Scriptures for individuals such as Romans 15:13, “[I pray that] the God of hope [will] fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in Him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.”
- Make celebration a more regular part of your relationships. Celebrate others’ victories, large and small with a note, coffee together, a special meal, a congratulatory phone call, or just a high-five!
- Be specific when you offer words of praise; it makes your encouragement more credible and concrete: “You did a great job at…”, “I really appreciate that you…”, “I was really impressed that you…”
- Encourage other believers with a reminder of Christ’s coming. It redirects our thinking to an eternal perspective and ultimate deliverance from the sin and death. “We who are still alive and are left will be caught up in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air. And so we will be with the Lord forever. Therefore encourage each other with these words.” 1 Thessalonians 5:17b-18
- Realize the power of presence. Just being there can be encouraging! When you’re with others, you’re telling them that they’re important. The Apostle Paul closed his letter to the church at Colossae promising to send his friend Tychius “that he may encourage your hearts.” Colossians 4:8b
- If you’re part of a church, Bible study or fellowship, be committed to showing up. Your presence encourages others that they are part of a community of faith and that they are not alone. That’s why the writer of Hebrews says, “Let us not give up the habit of meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another-and all the more as we see the Day approaching.” Hebrews 10:25
- If someone you know is working on a large project, send her a single flower to encourage her at the beginning of the project, and a full bouquet when it’s done.*
Finally, Here Are Additional Ways To Encourage Others!
- Use encouragement as an outreach. If anyone should be known for being an encourager, it should be a Christian. Write a letter of appreciation to people at work, your apartment manager, your child’s teacher, or your doctor.
Often when we interact with these people, we are asking for their services. Take time just to say thank you!*
- If you really want to encourage someone who gives you excellent service, write a letter of commendation to the person’s boss.
- We could learn something from the way team athletes freely pat, touch and high-five each other in competition. Touch is a powerful encouragement. Be sure to be sensitive in this area, though. Ask someone if you can hug her first.
And be careful to be above reproach with persons of the opposite sex.*
- When you see someone making positive changes in their lives, affirm them. “You seem to have a really great attitude about…”, “It may be that I’m just starting to take notice, but I see that you’re…”, “Do you think that you are becoming more…?”19. Tell people how they’ve encouraged you!Choose one or two items on this list to encourage someone in your life today!
By Stacy Wiebe
What Should Motivate You To Love One Another?
I believe you reap what you sow. If you love others, you will receive love in return.
Jesus loved me when no one else did, so I should be pleased to love others!
God loved me and did not judge me, so I should follow His perfect example
I’m motivated to love others just Jesus loved me, and I try to mirror His love.
Should motivate me much to do that, and I ask Him daily to help me do just that.
Motivates me daily to do the same to others just as Jesus loved me.
Highly motivated to love others because Jesus loved me when I was cold-hearted.
Jesus gave His life up for all of us, so we should do the same as Jesus.
God is love, and His love compels and enables us to love one another.
Trying to share God’s love with others that He has given to me!
God has motivated me through prayer to love others just as He has loved me.
When I drift and go my way, Jesus loves me and brings me back to Himself!
Mark Mallwitz of BASICS comments from fellow believers
Encourage Someone Today!
When you encourage someone, it does not matter who, help whoever God puts on your heart! It does not need to be something spectacular, just even a small act of kindness to a friend or stranger!
Encourage someone with a random act of kindness! Sounds a beautiful idea. God’s word commands us to encourage one another. A side benefit of when you encourage someone, you will be helping yourself because of your obedience to God. A word of encouragement or act of kindness shared by any of us can influence someone’s life for the better. Even if it is only in a small way, it is still worth it. Encourage someone today, believe me, that you will help lift them up and also be uplifted up yourself by doing so at the same time!
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Do you practice compassion in your life daily?
What does the Bible say about dealing with difficult people?
What is your understanding of being empathic?
Where/how do you draw the line between helping someone and allowing someone to take advantage of you?
Why is encouragement so crucial according to the Bible?
How To Encourage Someone?
Point out to someone a quality you appreciate in him or her.
Be sensitive to others’ need for encouragement, and offer supportive words or actions.
Who comes to mind that you could encourage?
You can phone, email, text, send a card or make arrangements to meet with that person.
Ask the Holy Spirit to direct you.
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