Help Me To Be An Encouragement To Others

3 Ways to Encourage Others to Be Confident

Help Me To Be An Encouragement To Others

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.”

Everybody struggles with their confidence levels from time to time. We each have our own unique set of anxieties and insecurities. It doesn’t matter how attractive or unattractive we are, where we went to school or how much money we have in the bank. Everyone has something that makes them feel stressed, unsure of themselves, and generally uncomfortable.

The best thing we as human beings can do for each other is help someone else build up their own confidence. Sometimes all a person needs in order to feel more confident is to know that someone else has confidence in them.

Whether it’s a friend, relative, significant other, coworker, or even mere acquaintance, even the smallest of gestures can do wonders to improve another person’s confidence levels.

These barely scratch the surface, but here are three ways to encourage others to be more confident:

1. Celebrate their wins

Even the smallest ones. Make a point to celebrate every victory with someone. Your friend aced a test, rocked a term paper, or made a killer presentation at work? Tell them how awesome you think that is.

Vocalize the factors that led to their successes and helped them get their win. If it was a long road to victory, make sure they know that it was their hard work that paid off.

This will help them feel more confident going into future, similar situations in the future.

Make a point to say things : “Congratulations on nailing that presentation! You worked really hard on it and it paid off. That’s awesome and I’m really proud of you. Now let’s go celebrate!”

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2. Compliment them often.

Now, I’m not talking about insincere compliments or small forms of flattery. As with the first situation I mentioned, it’s important to make sure you are freely and openly complimenting people as often as possible on the things they are doing well.

If you know someone who you think is a great writer, make sure they know how much you their writing. People tend to be highly critical of themselves, way more than others are of them in comparison, so it’s important to express appreciation and admiration for what they are doing.

Make a point to say things : “I just read that thing you posted. It was so well written! You have such a talent for this kind of thing. Keep up the awesome work!”

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3. Listen to learn

This one is perhaps the most important of the three ways to encourage others to be more confident. If someone shares a personal story, anecdote, or secret with you about something they feel confident or insecure about, take the time to actively listen: affirm what you hear and ask questions to get a complete understanding of the situation.

Know that someone may tell you something that may not seem a huge deal to you, but it could be that person’s entire world. Their insecurities and anxieties may be creeping in and causing a lack of confidence. The rationale behind what they are thinking or feeling could very well be driven by deep-seated fears and in some cases, depression.

Only once you begin to understand the root cause of the issue can you begin to address their concerns with a deeper, more enlightened understanding. And only then will you be able to offer better advice and begin to instill a greater confidence in them.

Make a point to say things : “I know you’re feeling nervous about this presentation because public speaking makes you feel anxious, and because you’re afraid you will make a mistake in front of your peers.

Just know that we all feel super nervous about presenting, and if you do make a mistake, I’ll be there to support you.

I don’t think that will be an issue, though, because you’ve done all you can do to prepare, and I’m confident that you’re going to rock it tomorrow!”

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As I said before, there are so many ways to encourage others and instill confidence in them, and these three ways just barely scratch the surface.

As long as you are mindful of the people you encounter, taking the time to openly honor and appreciate them and listen for the root cause of their problems and stressors, you’ll find it easy to fall right into the habit.

It requires very little effort in your part, and even the smallest gestures can go a long way to make someone’s day or pull them a bad mood or deep funk.

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Tell me, what steps do you take to actively encourage others to be more confident? What do others do to make you feel more confident when the situation is reversed? Tell me in the comment section below!


24 Ways To Encourage Others – Giving Encouragement To People

Help Me To Be An Encouragement To Others

“Most of us,swimming against the tides oftrouble the world knows nothing about,need only a bit of praise or encouragement –

and we will make the goal.”

~ Jerome Fleishman ~

What Is Encouragement?

Definition: ENCOURAGEMENT : something that makes someone feel more supported: something that makes someone more determined, hopeful, or confident

: something that makes someone more ly to do something

Yesterday when I listed the Top 41 Lessons Blogging Teaches About Life And The Ways Blogging Has Changed Me, one of the things I talked about was how I knew I was loved. Feeling loved is powerful…very powerful.

Have you ever heard of times in the news when people did things that seemed impossible? I remember long ago when a boy was trapped under a car and the boy’s mother lifted the car AND pulled the boy out from under it. Sounded absolutely impossible, but it really happened. That was some powerful love.

Love is a powerful emotion that can help people do things they never dreamed they could accomplish.

One of the reasons that I talk so much about PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) is because when I was being tormented by it, I felt very alone.

It was bad enough teetering between feeling insane or an alien in my own skin, but to also feel lonely and alone was almost more than I could bear.

Because of that terrorizing, agonizing, depressing, scary, unhappy, sad, lonely period of my life, I think it is absolutely necessary for EVERYONE to understand PTSD.

Giving a person with PTSD encouragement helps them hang on and continue to fight the agony they feel. Most of the time it feels impossible to live another minute and the reasons to continue living don’t really feel that important. Encouragement helps a person feel more hopeful.

Even though a person may appear to be perfectly fine, they may actually be hurting inside. That is often true with people who are experiencing PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) and depression.

There is something we all can do for people who are hurting.

There are many ways that we can give people hope and one of the easiest ways is to give encouragement regularly. That may sound vague and not that important, but encouragement is the emotionally equivalent to throwing a rope to a drowning man. Hope is empowering and since encouragement gives hope, you can help to empower someone who is hurting.

Here is a list of 24 easy and practical ways that you can give encouragement to people:

  1. Go to lunch or dinner together.
  2. Give the person praise publicly.
  3. Offer to do a task for the person.
  4. Spend time listening to the person talk.
  5. Ask the person how you can help them.
  6. Offer to babysit their children so they can get away for a while.
  7. Call the person often just to let them know you were thinking of them.
  8. Post a compliment or encouraging words on their wall.
  9. When someone is making changes in their life, notice and offer words of praise.
  10. Smile as you pass other people. You never know who needs to see a kind face to give them hope.
  11. Write a letter of commendation to the person’s boss.
  12. Write a note and put it in their lunch or leave a note on their desk.
  13. Give the person a gift.
  14. Give the person a hug.
  15. Give the person a compliment.
  16. Give the person an uplifting card.
  17. Give the person a motivational book.
  18. Give the person a gift card to a restaurant.
  19. Send the person chocolates.
  20. Send the person flowers/Give the person a single flower.
  21. Tell the person a funny joke.
  22. Tell the person that you love them.
  23. Tell the person you will pray for them.
  24. Tell the person that you appreciate them.

Having the opportunity to offer encouragement to another person is a privilege. Giving of yourself will not only help the other person, but a consequence of your unselfishness is that you will feel happier and better about yourself. Being encouraging doesn’t take that much time or effort for you, but it could mean the world to the person who is swimming against the tides of trouble.

Sherry Riter a.k.a. The Redhead Riter is Witty, Intelligent & Addictive. Having been to “Hell and back,” her passionate writing will inspire, motivate, educate and make you laugh. Sherry is ready to help you reach your full potential and Stop Living Comfortably Miserable.

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Be an Encouraging Person

Help Me To Be An Encouragement To Others

It wasn’t so much the cheers as it was the presence of the people. And as we all crossed the finish line, exhausted, I knew that even though I was almost last, I had won. Helping our children know how to encourage others is a step in the right direction on the narrow path of godliness. {Deuteronomy 5:32}

Scripture Focus:Joshua 1: 1-9, Isaiah 41:10

Materials: a Choose Your Own Adventure Book (If you have younger children, choose a title from this series. If you have older children, choose a book from this series. I chose one that didn’t have aliens, or something that could be scary ghosts or kidnapping. I chose Grand Canyon Odyssey and read a few portions aloud.)

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Background: The end of Deuteronomy tells us about the death of Moses. His death was a HUGE deal. Think about it. All of these Isrealites only knew one leader. Those who had been in Egypt had died in the desert. This was a new generation of people who were ready to possess the Promised Land. But their Leader died. Now what?

Object Lesson on Encouragement:

{Hold up your chosen Adventure book.}

Choose Your Own Adventure books are neat to read. A story begins and then the characters end up having to make choices that change their circumstances. You, as the reader, get to make the choices for the characters and then read to see what the consequences are of the decisions.

{Read the Warning! page of the book. Then proceed to read a little bit of the story to get to a choice. Tell the kids the options and have them vote on a choice. Follow through with whichever choice they make. Allow this 2-3 times, but, if possible, do not finish the story. Make it a cliffhanger!}

Did you know that your life is a Choose Your Own Adventure Story?

Bible Lesson on Encouragement:

Every person has a story. It’s a great story.

Joshua from the Bible had a great story, too. Moses died and Joshua took over the leadership of Israel. Not only was he to lead the people, but he was to lead the people into the Promised Land and conquer the land. Joshua realized that God was asking him to do a hard thing. Moses had been an amazing leader. A courageous leader. He had been greatly used by God.

Joshua had to be intimidated by what God was asking him to do. The first chapter of Joshua tells us that God encouraged Joshua. God knew he was asking Joshua to do some hard tasks. But God wanted Joshua to know that he would be with him. Joshua would not be alone. Listen to God’s words:

Be strong and courageous, for you shall cause this people to inherit the land that I swore to their fathers to give them. Only be strong and very courageous, being careful to do according to all the law that Moses my servant commanded you. Do not turn from it to the right hand or to the left, that you may have good success wherever you go.

This Book of the Law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do according to all that is written in it. For then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have good success. Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous.

Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.” ~ Joshua 1:6-9 (ESV)

How encouraging!

God told Joshua these things:

  1. Be strong and courageous!
  2. You will get the land.
  3. Be strong and courageous!
  4. Be careful to follow the law. Don’t go to the right or the left!
  5. Meditate on the law day and night.
  6. Do these things and you will be successful!
  7. Be strong and courageous!
  8. Don’t be frightened!
  9. Your God is with you wherever you go.

Joshua’s life and the things God did with him are amazing! Joshua and the people DID conquer the land. Joshua WAS successful in all he did when he followed God’s law and walked in his ways. And God gives us the same encouragement.

Life Application for Encouragement:

{Hold up the book.}

Think about this book. How did it work? (As we read we choose what decisions are made, or what happens to the characters.)

As we live life, we make decisions. In fact, everyday we make decisions. Some are small and of no real consequence, such as choosing to eat cheerios instead of oatmeal. However some choices have great consequences, such as choosing to not keep up with your backpack and you lose your school stuff, or being disrespectful to your dad. Different situations have different consequences.

God is with you everywhere you go hoping you will choose the right choice so you will have successful consequences. Verse 7 says: Do not turn from it to the right hand or to the left, that you may have good success wherever you go.

Turn from what? (God’s law) Where do we find God’s law? (The Bible) What should we do so we know what the law is? (Read the Bible) Will reading the Bible mean we will always be successful? (***Allow for answers, then explain that we will fail…in our eyes, and the world’s eyes, at times.

But if we really are following God’s ways, then we will not fail at what GOD wants us to do.)

God is giving you the same encouragement that he gave Joshua —->

  1. Be strong and courageous!
  2. Don’t worry. I have an amazing plan for you!
  3. Be strong and courageous!
  4. Stay in my word and follow it! Meditate on it!
  5. Be strong and courageous!
  6. I will be with you wherever you go!!

If God gives us this kind of encouragement, and we desire to be godly people, then that means we must give this same encouragement to OTHER people.

{Give an example of people encouraging you in your own life. My example–>} When I was in college I had to run 1.5 miles within a certain time frame so I could keep my scholarship. I was on the last lap and I thought my legs would turn to jello.

I had just over half a lap left when they came. They’d already finished their run. One was on my right. One ran on the grass at my left. And one ran directly behind me. They began to shout encouragement at me as all 4 of us ran and then sprinted toward the finish line.

I made it! And it was with the encouragement of those who chose to run WITH me!

Did Joshua have an easy time clearing out all those people from the promised land? Absolutely not! He had to guide thousands of men into battle. Was it Joshua who made the walls of Jericho fall? Was it Joshua who made the sun stand still?


God asks us to do hard, impossible things so HE can glorify himself and make his name known.

Making decisions can be hard. Encouraging others in our lives can be hard. But God asks us to do the hard things. Trust him. Be strong and courageous!

What can we learn from Joshua and God’s message to him? If we want to be godly, then we must choose to be encouraged and encourage others.

{Display the poster in the room throughout this series and read it each week.}

Lesson Extension for Youth:

Discuss the definition of “spiritual discernment.” What is it and how do we get it? Have the students use commentaries and concordances to search for other verses that help build understanding in decision making skills. Then have students discuss how they can use spiritual discernment when encouraging others.

This lesson has been UPDATED and is a part of my book Walk This Way: Ethics and Sanctification Lessons for Kids. CLICK ———> HERE for more information



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