For Those Facing Loss Of A Loved One
Loss of a Loved One: Finding Meaning through Metaphor
Whether the loss of a loved one occurs from a sudden accident, mass shooting, natural disaster, war, or disease, grief is often overwhelming for those left behind.
How do we learn to live with the pain of tragedy and loss? And how do we help ourselves and our children cope with grief in the most restorative way possible?
Following the death of my husband, I began to reflect on life’s terrors and abysses —about the painful challenges we are often asked to endure. Most of all, I hated the fact that my three-year-old daughter would have to grieve throughout her childhood for a father she would ly never remember.
The World in a Grain of Sand
A few months after Richard’s death, my daughter Sarah and I took a trip to the beach for some needed rest and recuperation. As I watched Sarah build one of her first sandcastles, I discovered a gift which would eventually lead both of us on our mutual journeys through grief.
With the help of our good friend Diane, Sarah worked diligently to build the perfect sandcastle. Diane, a dynamic preschool teacher, encouraged Sarah to be very creative with her castle.
I watched her take great pride in shaping each room and each mounded tower as the castle slowly began to take its form. The joy and excitement of accomplishment was written all over Sarah’s face.By the time the castle was complete, it had a moat, several tunnels, rooms of all shapes and sizes and, most of all, castle- elegance.
As I observed the gratifying process of watching a three-year-old build a sandcastle, I was keenly aware of my husband’s absence.
me, he loved to watch Sarah play and took great pride in each of her new accomplishments. I felt devastated by his loss and so alone in my grief.
Then, in the moment of my deepest pain, an enormous wave crashed on the beach and demolished Sarah’s beautiful castle.
the normal child she was, Sarah reacted to the loss of her sandcastle with shock and anger. With tears streaming down her cheeks, she ran to me for comfort from this sudden disaster. Outraged, she vowed never to build a sandcastle again! What she wanted most at that moment was the safe shelter of her mother’s arms.
But Diane wasn’t willing to let my daughter off the hook so easily. She walked over to where Sarah and I were sitting and began to explain the nature of sandcastle-building. “Sarah,” she said, “Part of the joy of building a sandcastle is that, in the end, we can give it as a gift to the ocean.”
“This is what building sandcastles is all about,” Diane said. “It lets us be gift-givers.”
Sarah loved the idea of giving gifts and immediately responded with enthusiasm to the thought of building another sandcastle. Her tears instantly turned to a smile. This time she wanted to build her castle even closer to the water, so the ocean would get its gift sooner!
Grief as a Gift-Giving Process
As I watched Sarah and Diane build and lose their castle, I began to see a parallel to Richard’s death – to how we rebuild our own lives through grief. I visualized the castle as his life and the crashing wave as his death. I was shocked and angry when his castle was abruptly washed away. I, too, wanted the shelter and loving comfort of someone’s arms – my husband’s.
What I had missed until that moment was the concept that grief could be a gift-giving process. Just as the sandcastle was a gift to the ocean, Richard’s life was a gift to me, Sarah, and all who loved him. My memories, the sand on the shoreline, were in front of me — waiting to be touched and felt, ready to be used as building material in the healing process ahead.
Reshaping our life in periods of change is not an unfamiliar process. a sandcastle, we constantly shift, recreate, and remold ourselves as we are influenced by our families, friends, and environment. As we grow, we make choices to add new rooms and eliminate others. We build tunnels and bridges to connect our life with helpful people; we build walls and moats to protect ourselves from harm.Frequent storms and crashing waves re¬shape our castles from time to time. When a storm passes, we often take time for retreat and reflection. Some¬times we choose to make changes to our sandcastle — striving to make it a little closer to our own views of perfec¬tion.
I asked myself, “To what end do we continually transform our sandcastle if it will be forever lost to the ocean?”
That day I realized that although our lives are eventually washed away, the granules of our lives remain on the shoreline – they do not disappear. Those granules of sand still exist, as a source of strength and renewal for those left behind. They become building materi¬al for new and restored sandcastles to come.
When we remem¬ber famous people Martin Luther King or John F. Kennedy, we can easily touch and feel the sands of their lives. Young people march in celebra¬tion of King’s birthday, filled with his ideas and strength. Their attitudes and behavior have been born through grief, through the simple yet empowering process of remembering someone who died.
Remembering and Rebuilding: Dual Aspects of Grief
Each life, from the most famous to the most obscure, is a meaningful part of a family touched by love.
Grieving, then, becomes the process of standing at the shoreline, sifting through each granule of sand, remembering the person we loved.
As we touch and feel each tiny piece of sand, we make choices to keep some granules and let go of others. The gifts we hold closely help rebuild our own sandcastle – temporarily devastated by our grief.
I returned from our day at the beach with a new perspective on grief. I wanted to keep the art of sandcastle building closely in mind as I began to use the gifts of Richard’s love to rebuild our lives.
For the first time, I recog¬nized the building material was right in front of us.
Sarah and I began to look at our memories as a rich source of strength and courage instead of as an anchor to our sorrow. I under¬stood the grief process would take a long time, that there were thousands of grains of sand to be closely examined.
That simple realization gave me the patience to endure – to search for the large and small gifts from Richard’s life.
Yes, I felt numb and afraid. Yet I was much more willing to tackle this awkward and confusing emotion we call grief. Together, Sarah and I remembered. Our families shared stories, over and over again throughout the years ahead. And indeed, those memories slowly helped us rebuild our lives.Sarah is now a young adult. She and I are fortunate to share the love of a man I married four years later and to whom she calls “Papa.” But she also knows and loves her father in ways I would never have imagined at the time of his death. The gift of Richard’s sandcastle will always be part of who we are.
For other families coping with grief, you can help yourselves and your children by remembering the granules of the cherished life you loved and lost. Use those grains of sand to rebuild your own sandcastle so that someday your life will be forever etched in the hearts of those you love.
Images by Dave Rogers; Coba; Public-Domain-Image.Com
Published: July 30, 2012
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14 Best Comforting Prayers for Loss of a Loved One
Losing a loved one can bring about a sudden feeling of shock and trouble. Reciting a traditional prayer for comfort can help to bring you consolation and reassurance. Here is a look at some great prayers for loss of a loved one.
Comfort me with Your love O God Wrap me up in Your strong embrace Shelter me from the storm O Lord
Envelop me in Your tender care
By day I pour out my heartbreak to You
By night I give you my racing thoughts
In You I take refuge In You I will not be afraid
For you hold me strong, You hold me safe
Calm my fearful heart O God
Still my anxious mind O Lord
For all my life is found in You All my being is given to You
All my hope begins in You
Lord, at the moment nothing seems to be able to help the loss I feel. My heart is broken and my spirit mourns. All I know is that Your grace is sufficient.
This day, this hour Moment by moment I choose to lean on You, For when I am at my weakest Your strength is strongest.
I pour out my grief to You And praise You that on one glorious day When all suffering is extinguished and love has conquered
We shall walk together again.
Our Father in heaven, may Your Name be honored. There is none greater than You. You are our refuge and strength. You are always ready to help in times of trouble. We praise You, Lord. We lift our hearts with praise.
It is good to sing praises to You, our God; how delightful and how right! Lord, You are great and mighty in power. Your understanding is infinite. We thank You, Father, for the life of our loved one(s) who have gone on to be with You.
Thank You for their time on earth and the impact they had on our lives. We are thankful to You and we bless Your Name.
Father, You can count the stars and call them all by name. Your power is absolute. Your understanding is beyond comprehension. You support the humble and bring the wicked down into the dust. You comfort those who mourn. We declare that those grieving the death of a loved one; mourning will turn into dancing.
We confess that You are their rock, fortress, and Savior in whom they will find protection. You are their shield, and the strength of their salvation. Father, You are their stronghold. As they call on You, You have promised to answer.
We believe that You will be with them during this period of bereavement, rescue them from grief, honor them, and give them Your salvation.
Father, we ask You to send Your peace to those persons who are mourning. Continue to surround them with family, friends and loved ones who will offer words of comfort. Give them sweet and restful sleep. Father, remove the spirit of heaviness, and give them garments of praise.
In due time, bless their lives to overflow with laughter and joy again. As they take refuge in You, please help them to put their trust in You. Holy Spirit, we ask that You settle the hearts and minds of those who are feeling any guilt, resentment, bitterness, or anger.
Help them not to look back but to press forward.
Father, forgive the bereaved for any sins they have committed through thoughts, words, or deeds. Forgive them if they have not meditated on Your Word to find comfort.
Father, forgive them if they have not been totally submissive to Your perfect will for their lives. Forgive them for any hurtful things they may have said or done to the deceased. Lord, help them to forgive the deceased if necessary.
Please remind them of anyone they need to forgive; and help them to forgive quickly.
Loving Father, I am finding it so hard to even get up bed to start the day, knowing that I have to face it alone and without the one I love so dearly – I know that without Your grace and sufficiency I could never get through the day – but I thank You that You have promised to be with me and to provide me with Your strength for the day as well as bright hope for tomorrow.
I can’t imagine tomorrow being anything but a day filled with pain – as I do not have my loved one beside me, but I ask that in Your grace You will give me the strength to get through today, step by step – knowing that You are there to carry me, even when my heart seems to fail from the grief and pain that I am going through.
Thank You that You have promised to carry our pain and thank You that Your grace is sufficient for every eventuality in our lives. Give me the strength and to cope with the loneliness I feel and help me to move forward in my life-plans, knowing that You are with me, to support and strengthen.
Give me hope for tomorrow – for my hope and my trust is in You, Lord. Hold me close I pray and thank You for always being with me and the great comfort that I have in knowing You, as my own dear Saviour and friend.
Loving Lord and Heavenly king, I want to lift up some dear friends of mind that are going through much grief at the moment and are finding it so difficult to come to terms with all that has taken place in the last few days…
I humbly ask that You would come to them and provide the comfort they need to come to terms with all that has happened – and the strength to face the reality that things will never be as they were.
Lord I know that their grief seems to be overwhelming them and I am hurting for them, and know not what to do to help – and so I am coming to You to in prayer, to ask that You will meet each of them at their point of need and help them to turn to You at this sad time.I pray that as the day passes Your healing touch will comfort and succour them in this time of distress and may this be a thing that causes each of them to draw closer to You, knowing that You alone can heal the broken-hearted and bring joy pain.
Thank You Lord for being there for me and into Your hands I place each one of these dear ones who have such sadness in their hearts – I KNOW in Whom I believe and an confident that You will bring good this situation – and to You be all the praise and glory, Amen
Loving Lord I am filled with grief and sadness at the loss of my precious loved one – and yet that pain is tinged with gold, knowing that they trusted you as their Saviour and that they are now in Your presence.
I know that I am going to miss this precious one, who has been my strength and my joy for so long, and thank You for the precious times we had together.
Often Lord I expect my dear one to just be there, or walk through the door – and then remember that they have gone home to be with You.
At times this is quite hard and yet I know that I must not grieve as those that have not hope in Jesus – but rejoice knowing that the day is coming when we will be together with You and You will wipe away all tears from our eyes – but at the moment my loss is an open wound – and I pray that You will heal my brokenness and the loneliness I feel… and draw me every closer into Your arms of love my Lord and my God.
Thank You for all You are to me and may I rest in You in Jesus name, Amen
My heart is reaching out to you, For what you’re going through; I’m thinking of you frequently
And praying for you, too.
If there’s something I can do, Anything at all, Think of me thinking of you,
And don’t hesitate to call.
When someone we love passes away, We ache, but we go on; Our dear departed would want us to heal,
After they are gone.
Grief is a normal way to mend The anguish and pain in our hearts; We need time to remember and time to mourn,
Before the recovery starts.
Let’s draw together to recuperate, As we go through this period of sorrow; Let’s help each other, with tender care
To find a brighter tomorrow.
If we could bring you back again, For one more hour or day, We’d express all our unspoken love;
We’d have countless things to say.
If we could bring you back again, We’d say we treasured you, And that your presence in our lives
Meant more than we ever knew.
If we could bring you back again, To tell you what we should, You’d know how much we miss you now,
And if we could, we would.
If there was ever a time in my life I was weak, it was the days, weeks, and months after my daughter died. To know that God’s strength was at it’s best when I needed it the most gave me courage to take another breath.
It seems impossible to “glory in my affirmities” when you don’t feel you have the strength to go on with your life, but God’s grace *is* sufficient. There is power through Christ Jesus to sustain you when nothing else can. You must allow Him to carry the burden – there are things too big for us to handle on our own.
We cannot as mothers (and fathers) get through the loss of a child and retain any sanity without His help.
I don’t think it’s wrong to ask “why” – I have many times over the years.But you have to recognize God’s authority and know that whatever purpose there was for your child, it was fulfilled during the time you carried him or her.
We don’t understand all of it, and honestly I don’t believe we have the capacity to. But I take comfort knowing that one day, God will hold me close and explain it to me in a way that I can understand.
Praise God that He is close to those who are suffering. He knows the pain we’re going through and He keeps us from being consumed by it.
I know without a doubt that had it not been for the grace of God, I would have come through my daughter’s death a bitter and downtrodden woman. But through His love and compassion, He saved me from being crushed by the weight of the burden I carried.
My heart still aches for my baby and it’s been seven years since she died – the ache has dulled some with time, but I don’t believe it will ever go away completely.
I still cry at times talking about her, but I rest in the knowledge that God is near and will continue to carry me if I allow Him to. It’s a choice – a conscious decision you have to make. You have to acknowledge that you need help getting through it, and God is the only answer.
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Quotes for Coping with the Loss of a Loved One
When we were confronted with the deaths of our mothers and fathers, we were overcome with emotion. Our friends offered such kind and inspiring words that really helped us gain control of our emotions.
Through the years, we’ve compiled loss of a loved one quotes, poems and prayers to offer others. We want to include many of those here for your use.
Whether you use this page to find the right words of condolences to others or read for your own peace of mind, we hope that it brings you comfort. You are not alone in your journey. At some point, we all face the loss of loved ones.
Loss of a Loved One Quotes
“When someone you love becomes a memory, the memory becomes a treasure.”
“When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.“
– Kahlil Gibran
“Unable are the loved to die. For love is immortality.”
– Emily Dickinson
“Perhaps they are not the stars, but rather openings in Heaven where the love of our lost ones pours through and shines down upon us to let us know they are happy.”
“He spake well who said that graves are the footprints of angels.”
– Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
“We must embrace pain and burn it as fuel for our journey.”
– Kenji Miyazawa
“If the people we love are stolen from us, the way to have them live on is to never stop loving them.”
– The Crow, written by James O’Barr, David J. Schow, and John Shirley, 1994
“Ancient Egyptians believed that upon death they would be asked two questions and their answers would determine whether they could continue their journey in the afterlife. The first question was,’Did you bring joy?’ The second was, ‘Did you find joy?’”
– Leo Buscaglia
“Love is stronger than death even though it can’t stop death from happening, but no matter how hard death tries it can’t separate people from love. It can’t take away our memories either. In the end, life is stronger than death.”
“Life is pleasant. Death is peaceful. It’s the transition that’s troublesome.”
– Isaac Asimov
Loss of a Love One Poems
Life is eternal, and love is immortal,and death is only a horizon;
and a horizon is nothing save the limit of our sight.
– Rossiter Worthington Raymond
If tears could build a stairway,And memories a lane,I’d walk right up to Heaven
And bring you home again.
Our earthly loss is always a heavenly gainAlthough our hearts hurt and mourn in humanly painThe fact still remains the sameThat Heaven Has Gained more Love
To sprinkle down from above
– Antonio Talbert
I Am Not Here
Don’t stand by my grave and weep,
For I am not there, I do not sleep.I am a thousand winds that blow.I am the diamond glint of snow.I am the sunlight on ripened grain.I am the gentle autumn’s rain.When you awaken in the morning, hush.For I am the swift uplifting rushOf quiet birds in circle flight.I am the soft stars that shine at night.Do not stand by my grave and cry.
I am not there, I did not die.
– Hopi Grief Song/Prayer
The After Loss Credo
I need to talk about my loss.
I may often need to tell you what happened –or to ask you why it happened.Each time I discuss my loss, I am helping myself
face the reality of the death of my loved one.
I need to know that you care about me.I need to feel your touch, your hugs.I need you just to be “with” me.(And I need to be with you.)I need to know you believe in me and in myability to get through my grief in my own way.
(And in my own time.)
Please don’t judge me now –or think that I’m behaving strangely.Remember I’m grieving.I may even be in shock.I may feel afraid. I may feel deep rage.I may even feel guilty. But above all, I hurt.
I’m experiencing a pain un any I’ve ever felt before.Don’t worry if you think I’m getting betterand then suddenly I seem to slip backward.Grief makes me behave this way at times.And please don’t tell me you “know how I feel,”or that it’s time for me to get on with my life.(I am probably already saying this to myself.)
What I need now is time to grieve and to recover.
Most of all, thank you for being my friend.Thank you for your patience.Thank you for caring.Thank you for helping, for understanding.Thank you for praying for me.And remember, in the days or years ahead,when you may have a loss – when you need meas I have needed you – I will understand.
And then I will come and be with you.
– Barbara Hills LesStrang
How Long Will The Pain Last?
How long will the pain last?”a broken hearted mourner asked me.“All the rest of your Life.”I have to answer truthfully.
We never quite forget.
No matter how many years pass, we remember.The loss of a loved one is a major operation.Part of us is removed,and we have a scar for the rest of our lives.As years go by, we manage.There are things to do, people to care for,tasks that call for full attention. But the pain is still there,
not far below the surface.
We see a face that looks familiar,hear a voice that echoes,see a photograph in someone’s album,see a landscape that once we saw together,and it seems as though a knife were in the wound again.But not so painfully.And mixed with joy, too.Because remembering a happy time is not all sorrow,
it brings back happiness with it.
How long will the pain last?All the rest of your life.But the things to remember is that not only the pain will last,but the blessed memories as well.Tears are proof of life.The more love, the more tears.If this be true,then how could we ever ask that the pain cease altogether.
For then the memory of love would go with it.
The pain of grief is the price we pay for love.
– Martha White
A travelling man sat down to rest from his journey by the side of the road. As he rested, another man passed by. This other man, the traveler observed, walked very slow and was bent forward, his expression was troubled and pain reflected in his eyes.
“What ails you fellow?” called up the wise, but simple man. “Come and join me and take a rest, for your form is such that I see a need in you to share the burden that you carry.”
The other man sat down, stared far into the distance for a while and then began.
“I have lost the very dearest person known to me.” Tears welled up in his eyes as he spoke, he then fell silent for a short time before continuing.
“I feel that I am constantly walking up a hill and that the wind is always against me, my feet are as heavy as clay and in my stomach I carry hot coals. I say to myself now that I must turn back to ease this pain.
If I walk back down the hill then maybe I will find that all of this is not true and that my loved one will be waiting to greet me.”
The traveler sat listening to the other man’s story, and replied. “You must not go back down the hill. You need to reach the top, for thereafter you will find the path will level, the wind will soften, your feet grow lighter and the hot coals will cool. To go back down the hill will prolong your pain, for the path to your healing is forward and up the hill.”As the traveler got up to continue his journey, he said to the other man, “The one you have lost is not at the bottom of the hill but with you all the time, for you carry their spirit in your heart.”
Your Compassionate Friend
I can tell from that look, friend that you need to talkSo come, take my hand and let’s go for a walk.See, I’m not the others, I won’t shy away,
Because I want to hear what you’ve got to say.
Your child has died and you need to be heardBut they don’t want to hear a single word.They tell you your child’s “with God” and “be strong”…
They say all the “right” things that somehow sound wrong.
They’re just hurting for you and trying to sayThey’d give anything to help take your pain away,But they’re struggling with feelings they don’t understand
So forgive them for not offering a helping hand.
I’ll walk in your shoes for more than a mile…I’ll wait while you cry…and be glad if you smile.I won’t criticize you or judge you or scorn
I’ll just stay and listen ‘till your night turns to morn.
Yes, the journey is hard and unbearably longAnd I know that you think that you’re not quite that strongSo just take my hand, ‘cause I’ve got time to spare…
And I know how it hurts friend…for I have been there.
See, I owe a debt you can help me repay,For not long ago, I was helped the same wayAs I stumbled and fell, thru a world so unreal…
So believe when I say that I know how you feel.
I don’t look for praise or financial gain,And I’m sure not the kind who gets joy pain,I’m just a strong shoulder who’ll be here till the end
I’ll be your Compassionate Friend
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Effects of losing a loved one , Sample of Essays
Losing a loved one is a significant and a painful occurrence. After the loss of a loved one, i experienced different difficulties and emotional situations such:as grief, shock, and anger. I lost an uncle who I loved so much and the experience was terrifying and devastating.
However, I was able to overcome the grief thanks to the support I received from my family and friends. I understood grief as being a normal reaction to the loss of a loved one.
In fact, accepting grief experiences and allowing myself to feel whatever emotions were there after the loss of my uncle was a normal process of grieving, and it helped me to recover quickly from that loss.
There is no specific way that i was supposed to grieve after the loss of a loved one as thoughtful as my uncle. However, there are a number of ways, I was able to cope with the pain.
When I lost my loved one, i underwent these stages. The first stage is denial. This involves lack of acceptance of the situation. The next stage is anger. In this stage, a person starts to question the occurrence of death and looking for who is to blame for the death of the loved one.
The last stage is acceptance. Here, an individual comes into term with the entire occurrence, and finally accepts life without the existence of a loved one. When I lost my uncle, I underwent some of the unforscened stages of the grief process.
By refusing to accept that my uncle was dead, I was undergoing the first stage of grief, denial. I then underwent the second stage of grief: anger. This was during the times when I was feeling angry about the death. I then started feeling guilty.
In the end, I accepted that he was dead, and that I could not do anything about it.
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Grief is a normal reaction to loss. It is important to note that, grief is experienced when a person looses a loved one. Nonetheless, when i lost mmy uncle, i underwent the grief process. .When I learnt about the death of my uncle, I was very shocked. I did could not understand why I had to loss such a dear person in my life. It was hard to believe that my uncle was dead.I realized that shock and disbelief are some of the first signs of grief that one displays after losing a loved one. In fact, some people display disbelief by going to an extent of waiting for their loved ones to show up. After accepting that my friend was dead, I started feeling sad. My sadness entailed feelings of loneliness, despair, emptiness, yearning, and a lot of crying.
Sometimes, I also felt angered and guilt.When I lost my uncle,my family and friends were supportive. During the mourning period, they were always at my side, encouraging me as well as supporting me. This helped me to remain calm during the mourning process, and cope with the grief after the funeral. Their continued support helped me to overcome the grief within a short period.
After the loss of my uncle I got a lot of support in a variety of ways which helped me cope with the loss. Mourning was one of the ways of I got support after the loss of a loved one. Un grief, mourning is the expression of the loss of a loved one.Family members and close friends offered unconditional support during this period.
Less frustration and depression helps the bereaved me to cope with the end of their loved one’s life more quickly. Besides, being a bereaved person I was able to cope with the loss of my uncle. One way to do this is to face the grief feelings; that is, accepting the pain and avoiding the feelings of sadness, loss, and loneliness.
In addition, i came up with creative ways of expressing my feelings. This including journaling (i wrote about what i was going through at that moment).
For instance, people who are suffering from loss of their loved ones should be provided with the necessary support to avoid occurrence of the instances mentioned above. Support can be provided before and after the death of a loved one.Family members and close friends provided emotional help during the mourning period and continued to support me until i overcame my grief.
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Condolence messages for loss of a loved one
Many of us know the kind of pain that is left behind when we lose someone we dearly love. The pain eats us from the inside and there is no way to stop it. It is very hard to console someone who is in mourning. Sometimes, a few condolence messages filled with compassion and love can be the way to bring warmth to a heart consumed by the pain of grief and lamentation.
Our emotions are among those things that have no leash on them. No matter how hard we try, they will react to situations without us even realizing it.
There might be a few instances when that might seem unnecessary but in most cases, there is a reason behind an emotional outburst. When a friend or a loved one is facing such a phase in life, it is only humane to comfort them.
And if spoken words do not seem to be the right way to fix a broken heart, one or two encouragement messages could bring them some life.
Condolence messages with images you could use
Positivity is the right way to mend a heart that has been filled with negativity; not evil thoughts but the feeling of depression and grief. Such despair can be rinsed off with good thoughts. Look at the quote above; it brings light into the darkest corner of a sad heart.
When we lose someone dear, they go to heaven because of their good deeds. It gives us comfort to believe that they are up there. Those who leave us may have left their physical form but their presence is never lost. We treasure their memories and all the good thoughts they gave us when they were with us in person.
This quote is self-explanatory and you might have already understood what it means. Send it to someone who is in need of some positive energy. Spread the love.
Source: e-dole.comThe word ‘friend’ is another name for ‘family’. We resort to friends during our desperate times of need. It is because of the love that we get from our friends; it is something other-worldly. This quote represents that very love and care.
True friends never stop caring for us nor do their love ever lessen. Our sadness can be erased slowly with their love. Good memories can bring us comfort and the feeling of peace can ease our hearts.
This message can soften anybody’s despair; especially the negativity that comes from the loss of a friend. And only another friend can ease that hurt.
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Words can be the best medium to express our feelings, irrespective of what emotions we hold. This message is on a more practical note. Words can do many of the things that might seem impossible to do but there are some things which words cannot fix; words cannot bring anyone back to life. But words can heal the wounds of a broken heart.
This message does just that and it has a very practical approach towards life. What it says is that maybe words are not enough but thoughts and prayers will always provide support and guide you through the path of life and loss, and onto joy.
This message of condolence is a family wish to someone close at heart, whose sadness has overflowed their hearts, and prayers and wishes are the only means to soothing it.
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It is said that time heals all kinds of pain. Maybe it does, but that does not happen in a matter of a day or two. If you put friends and time together, it does work faster. This quote is a wish for time to heal your desolation and friends to ease the pain.
When sorrow does not leave your heart, help it go away with all the wonderful memories that you have made. This message is for anybody who needs your support and strength.
Source: sympathies.coThese words of condolences come from a dear friend to another who is in loss and mourning for someone they loved. There are people in our lives who are so jolly and embrace life no other.
It saddens us to see that person in despair.
The loss of a close one would hurt even the toughest of beings and they need consoling to get back to what they used to be, for such an incident in life is capable of changing even the happiest of people.
A sudden loss may have left a close one of yours in agony; let them know you are there to carry that burden with them and help them in the hardest of times.
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The meaning of condolence cannot be explained in just a word or two, for it holds a vast understanding of humanity. In simple terms, condolence means “an expression of sympathy”. And it can be expressed in many ways; even through the use of religion.
You could call this one of the religious condolence messages for loss. It is a simple quote which holds a deep message in itself. We all have temporary lives and everybody will leave this world one day or the other. the quote says, our eternal home is up there in paradise.
We should not let ourselves drown in sorrow due to the loss of someone in our lives, for they’re at rest up in heaven with God.
Religion teaches us something very deep; it says we are everlasting and what we call death is just an instance that connects us to the almighty.
Life is a gift from God which comes to an end one day. Then, God takes us back with him for an eternal life by his side. The entire heaven rejoices and welcomes us back as the soul leaves the body and embarks on a journey back home.Send this quote to someone who has suffered a big loss and all they believe in is God.
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It is said that people who love God find him in paradise after death, and they live forever. We should not mourn so much that sorrow becomes one with us. Even after death, memories live on in our hearts; it is something that can never die.
Send this as a message to those who believe in God and need to realize that death is just the beginning of eternal life.
The loss of someone in our lives can leave us heartbroken. Such an occurrence feels we are being dragged away by an ugly storm. But letting yourself get taken by the storm is not the answer.
If you are a believer of God, you must also believe in angels. Angels exist to give us comfort and ease our pain. Angels can come in any form when you need them the most.
If they do not come down on earth, their comfort will always find a way to our hearts.
Stronger is the prayers that our loved ones make for us. Together they can erase all our sorrow, and give us the strength to face the loss.
Such a meaningful quote; it is simple and yet, delightful even for the saddest of hearts.We all know how hard it becomes for a person to see beyond the sadness and despair during tough times. And it is something that cannot be controlled. This quote puts the past, present, and the future, all together to give a purposeful message.
Send this to someone whose distress has turned heavy. Help them see beyond the sorrow and hold on to memories to get better tomorrow.
This is a simple way to express how you feel about their loss. There are times when it becomes really hard to find the right set of words to console someone. When you cannot figure out what to say that can relieve someone of their loss and pain, let God help them. Tell them that the Holy Father will always make sure they do not drown in the misery. God loves all his children equally.
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Condolence messages for loss of father
Death is never the answer. Even after death, those we really love, never leave us. Their presence can always be felt walking by our side. We may not see them, hear them, but the touch of their love can always be felt.
It is not easy to fathom the loss of a father because they are our superhero, and we learn from them. A father is an idol whom we look up to, and most children strive to become them. This message is for such a child who has lost their father and misses him very much. Help him/her feel his presence.
This quote is to assist someone to get rid of their sadness. Let them gather the courage to face the truth, accept it, and move forward by holding on to the lovely memories. Help them find peace and comfort in their hard time. Tell them “I’m sorry for your loss. And I’m here for you.”
Our parents are always the most special people in life. The loss of a parent can leave us shattered and devastated. If you have lost your father, you know things are not so easy anymore.
I can call your father ‘uncle’, can’t I? Can some simple sample messages condolence uncle's death? No. It would not make much of a difference. Even then, humanity needs to stand its ground for desolation would engulf the world otherwise.
If you have a friend or someone among your relatives who need consoling due to the loss of a parent, this message is for them.
This quote from Peter Pan holds a lot of significance in the lives of those who are lamenting the death of a loved one or a parent.This is a deepest condolence messages example. It transcends beyond the everyday lifecycle. Most people know about sleep and the state of being awake.
There is another state in between where a person remains subconscious; it is the lucid state.
Although this fact does not hold a big relevance in this context, you can relate to it this way- can anyone’s love be so strong that it can be felt in a state of sub-consciousness?
You know the answer. The love of a father and mother is far beyond any other love; it is unconditional. This message can console someone in a different way where the love of that person who is gone, can be felt.
A few rest in peace quotes you could use in your condolence greeting card
This rest in peace quote is something everybody should understand. Death may be the final thing in a person’s life but it is also the beginning of a new, eternal life.
Death is just a worldly term of absence from this world. A person never really dies because they live in the hearts of others as memories, which are forever cherished.
This is one of the Christian condolence messages examples. Wherever he/ she is, know that Jesus has His arms around them. They are at rest.
This is one of those sorry messages for her which you can use to console yourself as well. Whenever you miss her, know that she is safe because the angels are with her. Tell her you miss her and that you will always love her.
Quick condolence messages
I get it. You may not be very good with words, or you are not in the state to come up with long and well-prepared messages that can console someone. If that worries you, the below-given picture has a list of quick condolence messages.
Many sad hearts wonder what to reply on condolence messages. If you are in such a situation, just take it easy. It is not necessary to reply to every message during your tough times. But if you do want to, just put ahead a few words of gratitude. There is not much to say when you are upset. Anybody would understand what you are going through.
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