For Integrity In My Husband

Why Integrity is Important in the Workplace

In his book The Millionaire Mind, Thomas J. Stanley asked 733 millionaires to rank 30 factors which led to their success.

The number one attribute, “being honest with all people,” tells volumes about the importance of integrity in the workplace: it is more than living out good moral principles – it is also critical for succeeding in the business world.

Corporate Integrity: It Starts at the Top

I used to be affiliated with a construction company whose owner ordered the workers to cut corners in every way possible without getting caught.

Some foremen were even chastised for taking extra care to do a good job.  Did this philosophy work?  No.

The company did make money, but the employees who took pride in their work went elsewhere, leaving a workforce who simply was not trustworthy and a company which had a shady reputation.

Those who continued to cut corners were dismissed and a new vitality began to emerge as the employees felt good about themselves; they began to love their jobs and became proud of who they worked for.  Guess what?  This company continues to flourish today.  Coincidence?  I think not.

Individual Integrity: We Are All Accountable

Writer and speaker Nicky Gumble punctuates this truth in the following story:

A man named Gibbo used to work as a clerk for Selfridges.  One day the phone rang and Gibbo answered.  The caller asked to speak to Gordon Selfridge, who happened to be in the room at the time.  When Mr.

Selfridge instructed Gibbo to tell the caller that he was out, Gibbo handed him the phone and said, ‘You tell him you’re out!’  Gordon Selfridge was absolutely furious, but Gibbo said to him, ‘Look, if I can lie for you, I can lie to you.  And I never will.

’  That moment transformed Gibbo’s career at Selfridges – he became the owner’s most trusted employee.

Integrity, for Gibbo, was so deeply ingrained that he disobeyed his boss without hesitation.  Yes, he might have been fired, but I am guessing that Gibbo wouldn’t have wanted to continue working there anyway.  In this case, however, his integrity was instrumental to his ascent at Selfridges.

Why Integrity Works

It is no surprise that employees with integrity shine.

  They do not undermine their fellow workers, they work just as hard whether they are being watched or not, they can always be counted on to do their best, and they will be honest enough to admit it if they have made mistakes.  They won’t pass the blame, but they will share the credit.  They are an inspiration to others, creating a positive and upbeat work environment.

If you were in charge of hiring and networking, wouldn’t you dig beneath the surface of a potential employee’s resume to learn of their integrity?  Of course you would.  Therefore, if you are that employee, your services will be coveted, both when you are hired and for years thereafter.

How Are You Doing?

• Do you leave work early when there is no possibility anyone else will find out?

• Do you accept full responsibility (or your share) when things don’t go well?

• Do you share the credit when things go right?

• Do you confront wrongdoing, even if it means confronting a supervisor?

• Do you hide legitimate income to avoid paying taxes on it (such as not reporting cash payments)?

• Do you claim tax deductions you can’t document?

Another Test

Because we tend to be blind to our own shortcomings, I challenge you to ask a friend – one with integrity – to tell you honestly whether you are more Gibbo or his boss.

The answer is critical to your future success.

“Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much.”

Luke 16:10 (NIV)

How important is integrity in your workplace?  What can you do to make a difference?  Does your employer encourage and model integrity?  In what ways?  If you are a boss or supervisor, how well do you model integrity?  Leave a comment below!

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Time For Real Talk – The leverage you have when your husband won’t leave the other woman

by Sarah P.

Note:  This is the first installment of a two-part series where Sarah P. will address the leverage one has when their spouse won’t leave their affair partner.  This week she addresses when the husband won’t end the affair and next week she’ll dig into when the wife won’t leave her affair partner.

It’s one of the worst feelings in the world: feeling you lost control of your marriage and have possibly lost your husband for good. Your husband was selfish enough to have an affair and yet you feel you don’t have a say in what happens next. Or perhaps what hurts the most is the feeling that you are not enough.

But, here is the thing—feeling you are not enough and actually not being enough are two very distinct things. Unfortunately, feelings are powerful and they can make or break you because they inform your perception of yourself.  This will influence how you carry yourself and even how you make decisions.

After your husband has had an affair, one of the biggest feelings (lies) you will have to overcome is that you were not enough. Otherwise, how could he have done what he did?

He did what he did for many reasons, but mostly because he was selfish and did not have enough integrity to stop himself. He is a flawed person who did not think of the harm he would be doing to his family.

But, regardless of his actions, you still have power – and a lot of it. You have more leverage than you could ever imagine and you can use your inherent position of power to get him to think twice about the other woman.

Understanding Your Power

You might ask yourself what kind of power you have when he won’t give up his affair partner.  The power that you have has to do with the nature of a man’s feelings when he has an affair. When men have affairs, here is what you need to know about how they feel about you:

• When a man has an affair, usually, his love for his wife is not diminished.
• When he has an affair, usually he does not want to give up his marriage.
• A man can have an affair that is purely sexual and he can separate it entirely from his life as a husband and father. (1)
• A man’s greatest fear is that his wife will have a sexual affair with another man. (Yes, this is a great paradox and a double standard. But, feelings are not logical).
• A man has conflicting feelings for his mistress. On one hand, he is in lust and carried away by the heady cocktail of drugs the brain produces. (I call it “lust dumb”). On the other hand, he has a nagging feeling that he might have done the wrong thing and that the other woman isn’t so great.
• A part of him knows the relationship with the other woman can go nowhere because she is inherently untrustworthy.
• Ninety percent of men choose not to leave their wives for their mistresses. (Whether their wife leaves is a different matter).
• A man can still be in what he considers a generally happy marriage while still having an affair.
• Beauty is usually not a motivation for cheating since only 12% of cheaters think their mistress is more attractive than their wives. (2)
• About 70% of men never believed themselves to be capable of cheating. (3)

All of the above points make no sense to most women. But, knowledge is power and knowing his perspective on all of this allows you to see exactly where you stand. When you know where you stand, you can easily see the leverage that you have in your marriage.

How You Can Proceed When Your Husband Won’t End the Affair

The first thing you must do is to make sure that you do not carry yourself a wounded warrior or a woman who is second best. In fact, you should carry yourself as a woman who is the best because you did nothing wrong and you had the integrity to stay true to your marriage. Therefore, instead of walking around you are afraid you are going to lose him, make him earn you back.

You can do this first by carrying yourself with confidence and by developing a full and meaningful life outside of your relationship. As Linda and Doug have mentioned several times over the years, self-care is vital.

  Why not take up ballroom dancing without him, join a co-ed walking or jogging group, or go to the gym and get a personal trainer (perhaps a male one at that).

Perhaps getting a haircut and color and updating your wardrobe with a couple of outfits that fit well and make you feel good about yourself. Why?

Are you doing this to get him back – to punish him?

No.

All of this might sound superficial to you at first. But, if you think about it, you will soon realize that all of these things serve to build your confidence both inside and out.

When you take time for yourself, you are saying to yourself that you are worth it and others will take note. You will naturally carry yourself someone who matters and who deserves to take up the space around you.

Naturally, your husband will wonder what’s going on and start to think more about you and less about the other woman. After he sees a change, he may begin to fear that he will lose you. This is a big deal since he never stopped loving you and his intent was never to lose you.

You might be thinking that everything I have said to this point is hogwash, too harsh, or un-Christian. But, I beg to differ since I attained this perspective after reading a book by Dr. James Dobson of Focus On the Family. The book is called Love Must Be Tough: New Hope for Marriages in Crisis and it provides advice that sounds 100% counter-intuitive to most of us. (4)

Dr. Dobson openly admits that many men will have their cake and eat it too if they are allowed to do so. He says that the most powerful thing that a woman can do is to ask her husband to leave and to stand by that decision.

There will be no going back and forth, no crying, no listening to his manipulation and protestations of love. You do not have time for that and you will simply make sure he leaves. If he does not wish to do that, ask a male family member to come over and help him pack.

This is not the time to worry about his feelings, because he did not worry about how his actions would impact you or your children. (If the children ask, tell them that you two have some things to think about and the thinking is better done separately).

If you are a Christian, I urge you to ignore your pastor or friends who tell you that a Christian woman stands by her man. If you are not convinced by what I say, you must read the book by Dr. Dobson, who is an authority on Christianity, to get the whole Christian perspective.

You must understand that when your husband has an affair, the last thing you want to do is to “give him grace.” I need you as a woman to put on your sassy pants and refuse to take it.

What purpose does any of this serve if he moves out—doesn’t that get you further away from your goal?

No again.

When he starts being less attentive to the other woman, her nasty side will ly rear its ugly head. The other woman will begin to act clingy, become demanding, and require more of him. She will give him ultimatums and order him to make choices he doesn’t want to make.

Suddenly, it’s not so fun anymore because real life hits him smack in the face. He will be ripped right off Fantasy Island only to be thrown into Fatal Attraction as the other woman stares him down with angry, bloodshot eyes. At that point, it will sure stink to be him.

You see, being a woman of integrity also means standing for principle and doing what is right. Both common moral codes as well as the Ten Commandments forbid adultery. If he will not give up the other woman, then refuse to be an enabler to adultery by allowing him to continue to live at home. But, forcing him to move out is also the very thing that will bring him back.

Even though it might seem frightening, please know that you have always been the one in the right and standing up in this way to his adultery could be the best thing that can happen to your marriage.

A final word: if this article makes sense to you, please order a copy of Dr. Dobson’s book because it contains all of the reasoning behind why it’s best to take a stand.

But, it also provides the details of how to correctly pursue this course of action. My articles can only scratch the surface of topics and get you thinking in the right direction.

But, always consult a professional before proceeding with life-changing events.

Many blessings to you and always remember that you are not alone on your journey and there is relief in sight. 

Please share your own experiences and/or comments below.  Thanks!

Sources

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75+ Best Husband Quotes With Images

Looking for the inspirational love quotes for your husband? Check out the following collection of Top-75 sayings for husbands on love, life, relationship, strength, feelings.

Beautiful Love Quotes For Husband With Images

“My husband is my best friend, my greatest support, my biggest comfort, my strongest motivation, my truest smile, my deepest love, my favorite, my forever. He has me. Entirely.”

“My husband has made me laugh. Wiped my tears. Hugged me tight. Watched me succeed. Seen me fail. Kept me strong. My husband is a promise that I will have a friend forever.”

“God gave me my husband so we could weather the storms of life together.”

“Baby I’m yours and I’ll be yours until the stars fall from the sky, until the rivers all run dry. In other words, until I die.”

“I cannot promise you an easy life, or that I will not disappoint you. I cannot promise that I will be the perfect wife. But I can promise you that I will choose to love you every day.”

“I trust you, but not because you are my husband. The reason I trust you is because you are the epitome of everything that a man should be.”

“Your love is the strength that drives me to do everything for this family. You are the armor that shields me from tears. I love you so much!”

“I ask myself every day… How did I get so lucky to marry my best friend in this world.”

“The very first moment I laid my eyes on you, I knew our hearts were meant to be. You are my courage, my angel. You are my soldier, you saved me. I love you.”

“You are the source of my joy, the center of my world and the whole of my heart.”

“I want to inspire my husband. I want him to look at me and say: because of you I didn’t give up.”

“My husband is a great leader even if he isn’t leading the way I want him to.”

“Husbands too, deserve to be spoiled. Told they are handsome. Told their efforts are appreciated and should also be made to feel secure. If he is doing his best to treat you a queen, do your best to treat him as a King. His need to feel loved and appreciated is REAL.”

“Marriage is a relationship in which one is always right and the other is the husband!”

“I love you in the morning and in the afternoon. I love you in the evening and underneath the moon.”

“In a sea of people, my eyes will always search for you.”

“A man’s success is measured by what his wife and children say about him. Money and accomplishments mean nothing if you let your home fail.”

“Thank you for being you… for sharing your love with me, for inspiring me to accept myself, for helping me see the unique beauty in imperfection, for showing me that love is something you do, something not just to be said but also to be shown.”

“Every day I spend with you, becomes the new best day of my life.”

“Husband and wife relationships are the relationship of Tom and Jerry. Though they are teasing and fighting, but can’t live without each other.”

“You have no idea how good it feels to wake up every morning knowing you are mine and I am yours.”

“Home is where my husband is.”

“No relationship is ever perfect and I know I’m far from perfect but as long as you’re willing to try I’m willing to stay through anything.”

“You are my always & forever. My happily ever after. My soulmate. My best friend. My dream come true. My one & only. My shoulder to lean on. My heart to melt into. My husband. My everything. For always!”

“Every love story is beautiful but ours is my favorite.”

“When I first met you, I honestly didn’t know you were gonna be this important to me.”

“Love you yesterday. Love you still. Always have always will.”

“The only thing better than having you for a husband is our children having you for a daddy.”

“Yes, I do depend on a man. My husband and I are a team. He depends on me and I depend on him. We support each other. That’s how marriage is supposed to work.”

“I choose you. And I’ll choose you, over and over and over. Without pause, without a doubt, in a heartbeat. I’ll keep choosing you.”

“Materialistic things do not impress me. Your soul does.”

“My husband’s biggest flaws are: 1. He works too hard 2. He’s too nice. I’m a lucky girl!”

“I swear I couldn’t love you more than I do right now, and yet I know I will tomorrow.” – Leo Christopher

“No matter how much I say I love you, I always love you more than that.”

“I look at you and I’m home. I see nothing worse than to be without you because with you my soul feels complete, you are the other half of me and I love you. You are my home no matter where that is.”

“How amazing it is to find someone who wants to hear about all the things that go on in your head.”

“How can you give me so much strength and yet still be my only weakness.”

“A strong marriage rarely has two strong people at the same time. It is a husband and wife who take turns being strong for each other in the moments when the other feels weak.” – Ashley Willis

“I love life as your wife.”

“The first time I saw you, my heart whispered “that’s the one.”

“You are my dearest friend, my deepest love. You are the best of me.”

“Real men stay faithful. They don’t have time to look for other women because they’re too busy looking for new ways to love their own.”

“Good morning, my sexy husband. Love you. Your wife.”

“I want to be with you till my last page.”

“Your love is the doctor to my wounds, friend to my sorrows, mentor to my dilemmas, teacher to my actions, companion to my joys.”

“Praying for your future husband. Lord, I lift up my future husband to You and pray, according to Your Word, that:

He would cherish me, his future wife, as Christ loves the church. He would flee from temptation and be freed from bondage to sin. He would meditate day and night on Your Word, pray without ceasing and stay faithful to Christ to the end. He will love You with all his heart, soul, mind, and strength.

He will be quick to hear, slow to speak, and slow to anger. You protect him physically, mentally, and spiritually. You will instruct him and teach him in the way he should go. He would develop strong relationships with other godly men. He would be Kingdom minded and a ministry partner. He will fear You, walk in wisdom and righteousness.

He will walk in humility before You and have a teachable spirit.”

Popular Husband Quotes On Love, Strength, Life

“A prayer for my husband. Dear Heavenly Father, I bring my husband before you today asking that you would bless him and shape him into the man he was designed to be. Give him strength to lead our family, as Christ led the church with love and humility.

Equip him with wisdom to make good decisions that are pleasing to you. Show him his worth, Lord. And show me ways that I might edify him.

Please protect his job, give him a peaceful work environment, and secure the position he has. Grant him the patience and understanding he needs to love me the way that he should. In the name of Jesus I pray. Amen.”

“The best smell in the world is that man that you love.”

“My life really began when I married my husband.” – Nancy Reagan

“My husband is my happy place.”

“I just want to make you happy. Because you’re the reason that I’m so happy.”

“The happiest couples never have the same character. They have the best understanding of their differences.”

“I wish I could turn back the clock. I’d find you sooner and love you longer.”

“My mom taught me the power of love. I learned to focus on the long-term big picture from my father. His sense of humor and light-hearted approach always make me smile. My husband is a pivotal anchor in my life. His influence encourages me to be independent and take risks.” – Padmasree Warrior

“I’m blessed with a husband that works hard for his family. Thank you, for all that you do!”

“A sure sign of a man’s strength is how gently he loves his wife.”

“I love my husband very much. I knew it was real true love because I felt I could be myself around that person. Your true, true innermost authentic self, the stuff you don’t let anyone else see, if you can be that way with that person, I think that that’s real love.” – Idina Menzel

“Watching your husband become a father is really sexy and wonderful.” – Cindy Crawford

“A good wife is one who serves her husband in the morning a mother does, loves him in the day a sister does and pleases him a prostitute in the night.”

“My husband is a huge source of support and love.” – Jennine Capó Crucet

“My husband has quite simply been my strength and stay all these years, and I owe him a debt greater than he would ever claim.” – Queen Elizabeth II

“There is this guy who stole my heart. He calls me his wife.”

“Happiness is my husband’s arms.”

“I wish I could explain your eyes, and how the sound of your voice gives me butterflies. How your smile makes my heart skip a beat and how every time I’m with you, I feel so complete.”

“I have the best husband a wife could possibly have. He’s the best father my children could have.” – Vera Farmiga

“You just have to keep on doing what you do. It’s the lesson I get from my husband; he just says, Keep going. Start by starting.” – Meryl Streep

“Yes, I was in love with my husband at first sight and still am. We have the most solid relationship.” – Catherine Zeta-Jones

“Let the wife make the husband glad to come home, and let him make her sorry to see him leave.”

“If anything happened, I think my husband would have to deal with that as the time came.” – Christa McAuliffe

“My priorities are always going to be my husband and my family now. That’s a huge, huge thing.” – Gwen Stefani

“I have an amazing husband who is a strong man of God. He is very dedicated to me and our family.” – Kim Fields

“You don’t marry someone you can live with – you marry the person who you cannot live without.”

“I look at you and I can’t believe someone didn’t think you were enough… you’re my everything.” – Steve Maraboli

“In terms of my marriage, you know, falling in love with my husband was by far the best thing that’s ever happened to me.” – Caroline Kennedy

“I’m in love with you and all your little things.”

“A real man loves his wife, and places his family as the most important thing in life. Nothing has brought me more peace and content in life than simply being a good husband and father.” – Frank Abagnale

“My husband is everything to me and without him it’s just not the same.” – Amy Winehouse

“I am happy to know that my husband regards me as a woman and a person.” – Katherine Dunham

“My husband is my part of my greatest joys, so it doesn’t feel work or I’m balancing anything. My husband and my kids absolutely come first, so work is just something where I figure out where it will fit.” – Monica Denise Brown

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Husband Status – Loving and Caring Status for Husband

Express your love to your husband by sharing the best Husband Status, heart touching love and thank you messages from our collection of “Best Status and Messages for Husband”.

It’s a nice way to show some special love to your husband by updating your or Whatsapp status for missing husband.

Sometimes, sending I Miss You texts while your man is at his workplace and sharing funny or romantic quotes can go a long way in rekindling the romance in your marriage. Twite him I Love You Messages to express your heartfelt feelings for him.

Here we have covered you with lots of best, sweet, romantic and many more kinds of Loving and Caring Husband Quotes and statuses. So, whenever you need to say something sweet to your husband this post will help you in every way possible.

Love Status for Husband

Every single day that I spend being your wife, I realize how lucky I’m to live such an amazing life. I love you.

I’ll always love you. Until my heart stops beating.

The perfect husband as described by magazines doesn’t exist. That’s because he has already been taken – by me. I love you.

My love for you is a journey, starting at forever and ending at never.

I could easily say that I love you to death, but I really want to live forever to love you eternally.

I’m happily taken by the most AMAZING Man!

I will love you until the stars go out and the tides no longer turn.

Your love for me is flawless, your commitment impeccable. Your only concern is my happiness, you make me feel so special. I love you.

I love living life with you and I live life for loving you. I love you.

No matter what we go through, I will always be there. I loved you then, I love you now, I’ll love you always.

I am going to steal away the letter U from the alphabets because it belongs to me. I LOVE YOU, my dear!

I love you and that will never change, you will always be in my heart now and forever.

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I fall in love with you every morning and go to sleep loving you more than the day before!

Is very proud to call you my friend, Happy to call you my lover, and blessed to call you my Husband.

Captions for Husband

Never laugh at you’re husband’s choices… your one of them!

Happiness is watching my husband cook dinner!

I will forever and ever enjoy being my husband’s wife.

It’s easy to be a wonderful wife when you have a wonderful husband!

Love it when you catch your husband checking you out from across the room!

I’ll never ask you to change for me because you are perfect just the way you are.

Our love singes with passion and sensation. Our marriage hinges on care and affection. I love you.

I know I am in love with you because my reality is finally better than my dreams.

You may hold my hand for a while, but you hold my heart forever.

When I am with you, the only place I want to be is closer.

A real woman doesn’t need much attention. Respect is enough.

I will never get tired of loving you and I hope you don’t too.

My six-word love story: “I can’t imagine life without you.”

Emotional Status for Husband

Life is not worth living without you. You make me complete. I love you so much. I thank God for blessing me with your love.

You are every reason, every hope and every dream I’ve ever had.

If my life was a ship, you would be the anchor that holds me in place and the sails which take me on a beautiful journey.

You are my superhero and you are my life’s romantic hero whom I feel proud to possess.

The wisest decision I made in my life is choosing you, I have made the right choice. Proud and excited to be your wife.

To be your friend was all I ever wanted; to be your lover was all I ever dreamed.

When you are around, you are my stress buster. When you are not, you are my stress builder.

To the world, you may be one person, but for me, you are the world.

May You Need : Sorry Status for Husband

If there was one thing in my life that I have done right, it was marrying my husband.

Within you, I lose myself. Without you, I find myself wanting to be lost again.

Funny Status for Husband

FOR SALE! Complete set of encyclopedias! I don’t need them anymore because my husband knows everything!

Trust your husband, adore your husband, and get as much as you can in your own name.

Do you know what my favorite thing in the world is? The second word of this text.

Marriage = A relationship in which 1 person is always right and the other is the husband.

The salary of a wife is HER salary. The salary of a husband is the family’s budget.

What’s the difference between a boyfriend and a husband? About 30 pounds.

I wanted to send you something that would make you smile, but the mailman told me to get the mailbox.

I can stop indulging in chocolate, but never in you. I love you.

Being with you is difficult, but not impossible and you should praise me for attempting this risk, not matter about its success. Still, I think you are perfect for me. Love you.

The police are on the way to arrest you for stealing my heart, hijacking my feelings, and driving me crazy. See you in court!

I Miss You Status for Husband

I miss seeing your name show up on my phone.

You’re so easy to be with and so hard to be without. Always missing you.

I searched in Google – Why do I miss my husband so much? Google replied – Because he misses you too.

I miss you a lot, I hope you are missing me too. If not, be prepared to sleep on the couch.

I’m hurting from within, I feel so sad. I’m lost for words, I miss you real bad.

Missing you is a habit, missing you is an addiction. Missing you is a compulsion, missing you is desperation. I miss you.

I miss you more than the sun misses the sky at night.

When I say that I miss you, I’m actually asking if you miss me too.

Distance never separates two hearts that really care, for our memories span the miles and in seconds we are there.

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Even all the heartbreak songs in the world put together cannot describe how much I miss you.

We don’t talk. You don’t think about me. But yet I’m still here missing you so much.

Thank You Status for Husband

You are the man I want. Your love is the only thing I cherish for. Thank you for being a pure blessing to my life.

Thanks for erasing the word nightmare from the dictionary of my life. You have made my life a dream a come true.

Thank you for shielding me from all the pains and all the sorrows in this world. You are my perfect lifeguard!

Your love is simply everything for me, it’s all I need. Thank you so much.

I am a fortunate wife by living every moment with you by spending it with one of the most beautiful ones. Thank you hubby for making them happen.

I see love every time I look into your eyes. I am thankful because you never let this love fade away!

Without you my life would have been extremely boring and nasty. Thank you for coming into my life.

There are so many things my heart wants to say to you, all of which can be summed up in just three words – thanks for everything.

Thank you, these two little words carry all my respect, love and gratefulness to you for your significant additions in my life.

Thank you so much for being ever so generous and thoughtful to a “bubbly wife” me who always irritates you!

Birthday Status for Husband

Everything in life has a limit except, my love for you. Happy birthday.

Best wishes, to my husband! May all of the love that I have for you be known, on your very, special day!

When people say that “no one is perfect,” I can’t help but grin because I’m positive that they haven’t met you!

You make me feel I’m falling in love with you for the first time, again and again. I love you, happy birthday.

If life is a cake, you are the icing on it! Thanks for bringing sweetness into my life. Happy Birthday!

There is no pill or spray in the world which guarantees 100 percent pain relief, how your kisses do. Happy birthday.

You have all the qualities of chocolate because you are comforting and delicious. I wish you a happy birthday.

Happy Birthday to the most kind-hearted and thoughtful husband alive. Loving you is always easy.

I had a life before I met you. But you’re the one who gave it meaning. Happy birthday.

Life is so precious and should be treasured. I treasure every moment with you and I’m so grateful for another year to spend with you. Happy birthday.

Anniversary Status for Husband

Happy first anniversary to the hottest, cutest, and sweetest husband ever. You rock my world!

If my life was a boat, floating over the choppy waters of destiny, you are the set of sails which will see me through. Happy first marriage anniversary.

“Me and You” we could make the whole world jealous. Happy 1st anniversary to the love of my life!

You are a one of a kind rare gem that I am so lucky to have found. Happy Anniversary!

Today is the day when Cupid hit us both to pair us up and to bind us in an invincible bond. Happy Anniversary!

It doesn’t matter how the past has been… I promise, our future will be the best anyone has ever seen. Happy anniversary.

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Realizing that I am the reason behind your smile and the sparkle in your eyes makes me fall in love with you even harder. Happy Anniversary, Love.

As we grow older together, As we continue to change with age, There is one thing that will never change… I will always keep falling in love with you.

Husband Wife Status Messages

Every man sees his second mother in his wife but every woman sees her first child in her husband.

I seem to have loved you in numberless forms, numberless times, in life after life, in age after age forever.

A dress that zips up the back will bring a husband and wife together.

From all of life’s troubles, you have given me bail. My life has become a lovely fairy tale. I love you.

When I look into your eyes, I know I’ve found the mirror of my own soul.

Just when I think that it is impossible to love you any more, you prove me wrong.

My life’s biggest achievement is that I get to be with an awesome man you every day.

There are only two times that I want to be with you – Now and Forever.

There are many romantic gestures that can become the foundation of intimacy in your relationship as husband and wife. If it is a special occasion your wedding anniversary or his birthday, you should go one step forward and write a heartfelt message on a greeting card to express your thankfulness for him with love.

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7 Things I Do When My Husband Insults Me by Word

Kate Gitman 6 months ago – in Family

I’ve been living with a man who insulted me by word for 6 years. After we got married I’ve noticed that he could get too irritated for no reason. My husband became angry to the point that he could insult me by word, which was so poisonous for our relationship.

To be honest, I had never faced such situations before, my parents have almost ideal relationship even now and I simply didn’t know how to react to such behavior. I had nobody to help me and I’ve made quite a lot of mistakes when trying to handle his temper.

Luckily, we’ve overcome that terrible period and now I know what to do when my husband insults me by word.

1. Stay calm

This is the most critical factor that determines the outcome of the quarrel. Once you give up and let your emotions out, the results may be much worse. Every time I used rude words in response, he got even more furious and uncontrolled.

It’s really hard to pull yourself together and keep back everything you want to say at the moment. But remember that in intense situations people often say many unnecessary things they don’t mean at all. Psychology experts claim that you should talk in a calm, quiet manner.

The opponent will have to calm down too, at least in order to hear what you say.

2. Don’t tolerate

For a long time I ignored my husband’s attacks and thought that it would pass. On the contrary, he started to criticize, mock at me and use rude words even more often. He d to try my nerves and see how much I could stand.

I’ve realized that tolerance of his insults was the worst thing that I could do.

You can ignore the insults of some unimportant people a rude assistant at the shop or a waiter, but when it comes to your close people, and husband in particular, tolerance is something you should strongly avoid.

3. Make use of humor

While humor is viewed as one of the best and most powerful ways to respond, I found it extremely difficult to use humor when my husband insulted me. The feeling of resentment was so strong that I just wanted to cry with rage.

Can you imagine how it feels to make a pleasant face and start joking instead? However, this is exactly what you should do. The main thing about humor is that it undermines the power of rude words and relieves tension.

Try to make a mockery by exaggerating the insult or adding something.

Apart from ungrounded rude words, insult also implies criticism and sound judgment. Sure, this is no excuse for those who use insults, but from time to time it’s better to pay attention to the words. My husband’s words and opinion were important to me, and sometimes I found a great deal of truth in his rude words, even though they were painful.

‘You’re so messy! You’re good-for-nothing wife’ that’s what he told me one day when he entered the kitchen and saw the stock of dirty dishes in the sink and some leftovers on the table. You know, I started to be a more organized as for my household chores. No, I’ll never justify his behavior, but sometimes there was a part of truth in his rude words.

Read also – Why You Should Listen to Someone Even if You Think They Are Wrong

5. Have a frank conversation

You can use many tricks to handle your partner’s hot temper, but sooner or later you’ll get tired, just I did. I couldn’t stand such behavior any longer so it was necessary that we have an open dialog and make things clear. I chose the moment when he was in a good mood and asked him to have a talk with me.

To be more precise, I asked him to keep silent and not to interrupt. I told him everything I felt. I described my feelings and emotions and it seemed to work! He realized that words can hurt more that physical violence. When you decide to talk to the person who insults you, try to be as polite as possible.

The conversation that is meant to reconcile you shouldn’t develop into a new fight.

6. Don’t take things personally

I know how hard it is, but try to be cool-headed and realistic. You don’t think that all those words he says are really true, do you? In most cases verbal abuse is more painful than physical one. Insults hit your sore point, ruin your dignity and self-esteem and diminish your importance as a person.

While physical violence leaves scars on your body, an insult leaves scars on your soul. However, try to distract yourself from the insults and don’t take them too personally.

I mentioned that sometimes you should take your husband’s word into account, but you should see the difference between a pure insult and a sound criticism.

7. Leave him alone

It always works and gives desirable results. When I saw that he was getting angry and started insulting me, I just left him alone under any pretext. This is really simple and effective way to handle your partner’s anger.

Say with a serious face that you have an appointment and leave him alone. Say that you need to help your children with homework, work in the garden or think up anything that enables you to leave the room. Be sure your partner would be rather disappointed and puzzled.

Don’t mock or play the fool. It’s important to look serious and significant.

Someone would say that quarrels and insults are an integral part of any relationship and they cannot lead to any consequences. But when you feel that your beloved goes too far, you shouldn’t tolerate that. Word abuse is as harmful as physical one, even though it’s not so visible. I hope my experience will help you to handle your partner’s anger and insults.

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Источник: //womenosophy.com/husband-insults-word